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Thin people abuse - weight comments are offensive

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Why is it that people who think it is perfectly acceptable to make comments and jokes about how thin you are?nbsp; I am a size 6, eat around 3000 calories per day (in an attempt to gain weight) take regular but not excessive exercise, and yet am plagued by a constant form of harassment that seems to be perfectly acceptable to everyone.

I am constantly bombarded with comments referring to my weight and how thin I look.  These comments may be anything from the innocent "you are so lucky to eat what you want and still stay so slim" to having people accuse me of having an eating disorder.

These comments are made on an almost daily basis and no one seems to think that this kind of behaviour is unacceptable.  I ask you, would this kind of abuse (and yes I do see it as abuse when it happens so frequently) would be allowed if I were over weight?  Have you ever walked into your office and mentioned to one of your overweight colleagues how fat they are looking today?  Or that you think they should eat less.  No?  I didn't think so.

A young woman's slim waist Not all thin people are thin by choice.

The very fact that commenting on a person's obesity is considered rude and offensive, but commenting on how thin or slim someone is seems perfectly acceptable, to me is a total contradiction in social standards.

Not all thin people are thin by choice.  Some of us work very hard to put on those extra few pounds to fit into those size 8 jeans simply because the majority of stores do not sell 6s.  Please remember that thin people can also find it deeply offensive when people make comments about their weight.

By: TracyB


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justbehappy

justbehappy

It's true...being a size 0 is not a choice that most girls choose even though many people think otherwise. Being told you are underweight your whole life or that you are a twig, or that you don't eat. It's actually very hurtful as much as it is to be called fat. Saying someone is "looking skinny today" in a positive way is different than saying "Oh my god, you are so skinny! Do you even eat?" in a joking way.
06/08/14 justbehappy
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hairyfairy

hairyfairy

If someone had a go at me by calling me skinny, I`d take it as a compliment.
24/08/13 hairyfairy
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grumpyoldwoman

grumpyoldwoman

Oh I know, FUP.

I just feel like pointing out the idiocy of it sometimes.
11/08/13 grumpyoldwoman
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Fed up Pedestrian

Fed up Pedestrian

GOW,

There are posters who, if you have disagreed with them in the past or said something that they don't like, will mark you down regardless of what you are saying.
11/08/13 Fed up Pedestrian
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grumpyoldwoman

grumpyoldwoman

Charlotte, thank you for the kind thought. (Why my comment has been marked down I have no idea, having had an overactive thyroid I know that what I said is true.)

However; two points come to mind.

1/ Why on earth do you want to LOSE weight if you only weigh 6 and a half stone?

2/ It seems fairly obvious that you, superhappyfun!!!!!!, danny101, lucy, dana, tanyasmiles and jamieawesome! are you and your "bf" having a bit of fun; (as you said "ps im up so late watching the star wars trillogy with my bf. Cant belive im actually still sitting here!!!)"; because of the timings of the posts and the standard of writing. Strangely at times you can spell and punctuate fairly well, at others you can't. Did both of you have a go at being "charlotte"?

As such it's very hard to know how much of what you say is true.
11/08/13 grumpyoldwoman
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charlotte

charlotte

Actually theres some really interesting advice on this chat. Thanks grumpy old woman!
11/08/13 charlotte
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charlotte

charlotte

I have exactly the same problem. Im a 23 year old woman with boyfreind plenty of friends and im a theoretical phycisist with a phd from edinburgh.yet i am constantly bombarded with coments about my size.
i weigh 6 and a half stone and i find it sooooo hard to lose wieght. Any advice?

ps im up so late watching the star wars trillogy with my bf. Cant belive im actually still sitting here!!!
11/08/13 charlotte
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Holloway

Holloway

I know what you mean. When people call you thin they usually don't mean it as an insult, but it's not fun. Men prefer curvy women, clothes never look good on us, and we always hear how curvy women are "real women". I don't call every curvy woman fat, but it's Ok for overweight women to call us anorexic. (Not all of them do, of course) I hate being thin, and hearing my curvy friends call themselves fat makes me want to slal them.
08/04/12 Holloway
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grumpyoldwoman

grumpyoldwoman

Jaedyn, has your doctor checked your thyroid level? Your thyriod gland could be a bit overactive, this will mean you can eat and eat and never put on any weight.
15/03/11 grumpyoldwoman
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Jaedyn

Jaedyn

Well said TracyB!! Im a size 6-8 and constantly battle with my weight. I've always been super slim despite eating endless amounts of food everyday and begging the doctor to help me gain weight (they always tell me to jus accept that I am slim and will always be this way). People see no problem with making nasty comments about how slim I am, yet if I was to spin that round and comment on how fat they were it'd be me who was accused of being rude and insensitive. Makes me so angry, the thoughtless and jealous comments people make. But thats jus what it is, jealousy. Coz given the chance they'd be our size in a heartbeat. Much Love to you huni xx
15/03/11 Jaedyn
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misstrikcy

misstrikcy

I am skinny and I hate that my work colleagues think it's alright to say so.
One lady always calls me skinny, or bones.... If I dare to call her 'tubbs' or something similar, my god it's daggers at dawn. Apparently she's only joking but I'm being mean...
It's gone on so long I just dont care anymore. If people want to offend me (certainly the ones at work who DO know better) then they need to accept that I will offend them back.
It's only women who make these comments to me.
Never ever received any offensive comments from a bloke.
29/09/10 misstrikcy
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maikloe

maikloe

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17/08/10 maikloe
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Da da

Da da

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13/08/10 Da da
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maikloe

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maikloe

maikloe

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31/07/10 maikloe
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