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For the last 8 years I have paid my ex-wife through the CSA for our 2 children. During this time I have struggled every week to pay for every day things such as bills and food, while at the same time my ex-wife has enjoyed a life of luxury. She has spent thousands of pounds on home improvements, holidays abroad and weekends away. All these things are for herself, meanwhile my children have worn clothes that have holes in them or no longer fit.
I asked for a reassessment last year because our children were and had been staying with me for at least two nights per week instead of just one night a week as was the case when I was first assessed.
Because my payments were reduced, my ex-wife threatened court proceedings and stopped me seeing my children citing a supposed 'difficulties with contact' through various letters from her solicitor. During numerous threatening solicitors letters all of which I answered personally, my ex-wife eventually stopped the threat of court proceedings.
Things were to get ugly again though as in March 2007 I asked for a new assessment as my mortgage and council tax payments had increased. Again my payments were reduced and again my ex-wife threatened court proceedings and stopped me from seeing my children. It appears that a minority of mothers are only interested in the financial benefits of having and caring for children.
My advice to fathers paying maintenance through the CSA is this. When mortgage rates, pension contributions and council tax payments increase, ask for a reassessment. The CSA rulings state that if your circumstances change, you are entitled to be re-assessed.
I do not have any problem paying towards my children, but do object to paying for my ex-wife to have a life of luxury at my expense while my children go without.
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that's why men in Asian and middle eastern countries treat their women in strict ways, because they know if you give a women a little bit OF leeway then they take full advantage. And in this country we give women everything so they take full advantage of the system and the men are treated like dogs.
This csa is designed for womens benefits, its all about these women / mothers. The fathers are treated like pure dirt, that's all.
In this country we help each other!! That is why benefits exist!!! No poverty for children!!!!!!!! When the minimum wage is 10 quid an hour then the child benefit can be abilished!!!
I pay my taxes, I pay my CSA payments and I pay for my son. My taxes and son I have no problem paying for, it's the CSA payments that I have the issue with as it is not being used as it should.
If people decide to have kids, they should be prepared to fully fund them! End of!
I also have the issue's whereby if his mother is feeling a bit short on money, she will reduce the time I can see him, contact the CSA to tell them, and get the payments she receives increased.
The CSA is a flawed system which should be better regulated. I have no issues paying for my son. But I don't feel the current system makes sure the childs issues are the ones being met.
I understand there are people on both sides of the fence. There will be some mothers who use the system properly, yet have fathers who try and play the system, and I do sympathise with them. The parent receiving CSA payments should be made to povide receipts, detailing what the money is being used for
just sign this pat!
Sit down, and work out how much your children cost. Include their housing costs, share of council tax, food daily, clothes, transportation, clubs and leisure pusuits - I think you will find that the amount you pay via the CSA is less than half of what they cost
I pay my ex (through private arrangement) almost as much as my partners ex receives for 2 children, children cost money, and it would be a lot more if they lived with you. Why not just accept you are paying towards a better life for your children, they cant help being here, but you can help your own situation
Timothy The Voice