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This is another gripe about those lovely people at the CSA. When my ex-wife and I split up, I moved in to rented accommodation and paid my ex-wife £500.00 per month. I continued this for the first year to help pay for my 2 children and to make sure they had a good home.
For most of the second year I paid £400 and then reduced it again to £220 as it was all I could afford at the time. I used the maintenance calculator from the CSA website to work out what I should pay. Once I moved in with my new partner I looked after looked after my daughter 7 days every 2 weeks (my elder daughter was 19 by this time).
My ex-wife contacted the CSA who then sent me a letter to tell me that our situation was shared care and it might take some time for them to come to an agreement regarding how much I should pay. Although I have paid for clothes, school trips, decorating, TV and DVD for her bedroom, I was still expected to pay my ex-wife.
She stopped me seeing my daughter...
Once she realised that the money she was receiving from me might be reduced, she stopped me seeing my daughter as much and cut it down to 5 days every 2 weeks. It then took just 3 weeks for the CSA to decide I should pay £187 per month plus 5 months backlog.
So at any point my ex-wife could reduce the time I spend with my daughter and get more money, so I loose out on both accounts. The way the CSA handle these situations is a joke with no regard for the fathers situation or feelings.
I feel that I am forced to pay my ex-wife money for her to use on anything, and at the same time I have my daughter and also spend a lot of money looking after her. What do if I can't afford to pay? This month my outgoings are more than I get paid!
By: CSA Sufferer