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My ex wife is threatening to take me to the CSA for even more money which she feels she is owed. Since our separation two years ago I have my 3 children with me between 6 and 14 nights per month. Not because I have to, but because I enjoy spending time with them as their father.
I have also always paid what I consider to be over and above the expected level of maintenance for both the children and her!
...pay maintenance in line with the CSA formula
My divorce settlement advised that I should pay maintenance in line with the CSA formula, I say thankfully because this takes into account the number of nights I have my children along with my responsibility for my partner's son. This amount is much less than I have been paying but I actually haven't reduced the payments yet.
Amazingly though my ex wife has now come to me and said that she wants some of the bonus I have been recently been paid, this is despite the fact that for the last two years I have been overpaying her!
Does anyone know if my previous overpayments can be counted as her share of the bonus or do I have to give her yet more money because the bonus is new? Surely if I hadn't been paying maintenance she would have been entitled to come after me for arrears, so can I do the same?
I have told her to get the CSA involved as I feel that surely my overpayments will be taken into account, but of course I am worried that I will be even worse off. Also, as I buy the children clothes, holidays, toys and each has a fully equipped bedroom at my house for them is any of this taken into account?
By: Graham
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I got a call thismorning from a caseworker to let me know theyve finnally had enough and have ordered a d.o.e on his wages thus giving me a nice sum next month to spoil my son with- well the little chap has earned it!!
I would just like to say that shouting at the case workers gets you know were, patiance will get you your just deserts in the end.
answers please.
They give help for free :)
But the fact is, most of us get married, love each other, and stay married, have kids and don't split up. Most women - and men - are in fact decent honest people who do NOT go out of their way to snipe and attack and steal money off others.
I feel sorry for people who've been shafted by the system, honestly I do, but guess what, there's a world of lovely people out there who genuinely want to treat you right. Things may seem frustrating at the moment but it won't always be like that. Let the evil CSA do what they will, let the bitter ex have their fun, because life will be kinder to you in the long run, and your conscience will be clear.
Men and women can be as bad as each other with their petty point scoring. The only real harm that is done is to the children stuck in the middle.
Correct use of the English language and punctuation would make your post more 'readable'.
In this age of 'new' poltics. Cameron and Clegg could show true leadership by shutting it down now! They won't of course because there is no 'new age' of poltics. It's the usual self indulgence for personal and poltiical gain!
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