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My ex wife is threatening to take me to the CSA for even more money which she feels she is owed. Since our separation two years ago I have my 3 children with me between 6 and 14 nights per month. Not because I have to, but because I enjoy spending time with them as their father.
I have also always paid what I consider to be over and above the expected level of maintenance for both the children and her!
...pay maintenance in line with the CSA formula
My divorce settlement advised that I should pay maintenance in line with the CSA formula, I say thankfully because this takes into account the number of nights I have my children along with my responsibility for my partner's son. This amount is much less than I have been paying but I actually haven't reduced the payments yet.
Amazingly though my ex wife has now come to me and said that she wants some of the bonus I have been recently been paid, this is despite the fact that for the last two years I have been overpaying her!
Does anyone know if my previous overpayments can be counted as her share of the bonus or do I have to give her yet more money because the bonus is new? Surely if I hadn't been paying maintenance she would have been entitled to come after me for arrears, so can I do the same?
I have told her to get the CSA involved as I feel that surely my overpayments will be taken into account, but of course I am worried that I will be even worse off. Also, as I buy the children clothes, holidays, toys and each has a fully equipped bedroom at my house for them is any of this taken into account?
By: Graham
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Jane why don't you leave the doctors phone number? I would love to ring it.
08/11/12 boblet
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Oh my gord man you like me have probs with c.s.a. it sounds stupid i know but its best for you just to give them what they want. ive been fighting them for nearly 12 years. First assessment for 3 kids was £294 a week cos the lazy f$t ex wife lied through her teeth, at that time i was working full time with my own home, after tax and national ins i had £174 week, out of this i had to pay rent council tax water rates travel to work costs all of which the csa would NOT CONSIDER. I let it slip in conversation with them that i would have to work as much over-time as poss so i could keep my house so their reply was if its regular over-time then its classed as regular pay so you'll pay more on the assessment. 11years on and lord knows how many thousands stolen from me, (at least Dick Turpin wore a mask) i was jailed for 25 days for not talking to these w^^kers they say that i still owe tens of thousands. I'm now finding it increasingly difficult to find employment as i have a prison sentence to add to my name and not much chance of clearing this so called debt. One more thing if you have your kids to stay do it through a solicitor as c.s.a. WILL NOT BELEIVE YOU otherwise.
05/08/12 scatman.simon
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Im actually quite pleased with the csa today, the nrp of my son has played the csa for almost a year now, promising payments all the time whilst knowing full well he had no intention of helping me with my sons upkeep (i say my son because the nrp hasnt seen my son in nearly a year- his choice, not mine)
I got a call thismorning from a caseworker to let me know theyve finnally had enough and have ordered a d.o.e on his wages thus giving me a nice sum next month to spoil my son with- well the little chap has earned it!!
I would just like to say that shouting at the case workers gets you know were, patiance will get you your just deserts in the end.
28/04/11 Tilly
I got a call thismorning from a caseworker to let me know theyve finnally had enough and have ordered a d.o.e on his wages thus giving me a nice sum next month to spoil my son with- well the little chap has earned it!!
I would just like to say that shouting at the case workers gets you know were, patiance will get you your just deserts in the end.
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CSA, what a total f**k up! I'm a non-resident parent (mother) and I would happily spend my last on my son, no problem! So, your ex leaves you for a new partner, get's married, and the new partner decides to get the CSA involved in orde to take every penny as some sort of revenge that you were there before them..... Then the CSA decides you're responsible to pay for decoratng your childs room in your house but also you must pay for the decorating in there home to. In fact you even pay for your ex's new family to go on holiday making it impossible for the non resident parent to have any quality time with thier own child. I'm sick to death and could scream at the people that comment about victims of the CSA as they clearly haven't got a clue how difficult and frustrating it is until you've been in our situation just butt out!!! THE CSA RUIN LIVES THEY MAKE THERE OWN RULES AND DON'T GIVE A DAM THAT THEY DRIVE PEOPLE TO SUICIDE!!!!!!
11/04/11 loveson
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wow its women like this who give us a bad name! do not give her your bonus, the csa will take a cut of your pay and re asses it every 12 months on the last 2 payslips. if you have no record of a bonus on them payslips then you wont have to give her a penny of it- just deny recieving it! if she is going to the csa then stop payinf maintanance NOW! as the csa backdate money owed to the date of claim! your ex wife is a typical money grabber, fathers should only pay ehats needed for the child yet women like your ex wife will take advantage of fathers with more money because of how the system works! she is not 'owed' anything, that money is for your children be sure to let this money grabbing creature know it! sorry for your predicament. good luck
11/04/11 chinkle
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Grizzly, I'm afraid Graham does have to give her some of his bonus (as well as 15% of Child Tax Credit if he has any other kids with his current parner), don't even get me started on this!!!!
11/08/10 LDS
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Don't pay her a penny. You do not have to giove her any bonus. You pay for the children by CSA that is it. Don't pay no more. Anything you give to her is not taken into account. You must keep a recored off every thing. Remember all you do is pay CSA. Dont give your x any money. My husband let his x have the house and all in it. He walked with his clothes that is it. She got everything. He paid CSA and the morgage as she lied and said she got not a thing. We are in a battle with the CSA. Who do not beleave she got the house and 7 thousand endowment she cashed in. And yet still the CSA are taken 40% of his wage. He does not even have enough to live on. It would not rent him a home and pay bills if he was alone. Don't fall for the trap my x husband fell for. As I said just pay what the CSA say. And good luck with them. They make up all sourts. We are a member of the CSA do not give just to fathers. The CSA don't allow them to move on.
06/08/10 Grizzly
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my grammer is not good,but you have to remember one thing in life your children are yours. joint custdody is the way to go just show love to them,be a mum be a dad over time this will become true. you dont need csa that is just a cop out get back to basics .im only writing this because I have been there myself and still am and never needed some goverment, council or any organisation to tell me how to bring up my children. im not perfect , who is!!
31/07/10 shadow
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Graham,payments you make to her will be taken into account if these were made after the CSA contacted you as that will be when you will be liable from. Anything you do give her make sure you keep receipts,NEVER give her cash in hand.
28/07/10 stevie
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Then what is the answer to having no CSA?
answers please.
28/07/10 JJ
answers please.
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Go to the forum afairercsaforall.co.uk
They give help for free :)
25/07/10 kenny
They give help for free :)
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Being recently married and expecting my first child next year, it would be easy for me to read gripes like this one and become depressed and/or terrified about my future.
But the fact is, most of us get married, love each other, and stay married, have kids and don't split up. Most women - and men - are in fact decent honest people who do NOT go out of their way to snipe and attack and steal money off others.
I feel sorry for people who've been shafted by the system, honestly I do, but guess what, there's a world of lovely people out there who genuinely want to treat you right. Things may seem frustrating at the moment but it won't always be like that. Let the evil CSA do what they will, let the bitter ex have their fun, because life will be kinder to you in the long run, and your conscience will be clear.
23/07/10 Optimist
But the fact is, most of us get married, love each other, and stay married, have kids and don't split up. Most women - and men - are in fact decent honest people who do NOT go out of their way to snipe and attack and steal money off others.
I feel sorry for people who've been shafted by the system, honestly I do, but guess what, there's a world of lovely people out there who genuinely want to treat you right. Things may seem frustrating at the moment but it won't always be like that. Let the evil CSA do what they will, let the bitter ex have their fun, because life will be kinder to you in the long run, and your conscience will be clear.
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Gainsborough Lad, there is no 'feminist stranglehold', just a society that assumes everyone else will pay for their offspring when it all goes wrong.
Men and women can be as bad as each other with their petty point scoring. The only real harm that is done is to the children stuck in the middle.
Correct use of the English language and punctuation would make your post more 'readable'.
23/07/10 Columbo
Men and women can be as bad as each other with their petty point scoring. The only real harm that is done is to the children stuck in the middle.
Correct use of the English language and punctuation would make your post more 'readable'.
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Shut this 'Gravy Train' quango down now. It costs £12 million to run and only collects £8 million at a cost to the taxpayer of £1.85 for every £1 collected. They persistently target the ones who pay because they are not capable of finding the ones who have never paid. Therefore, criminalising and persecuting law abiding people.
In this age of 'new' poltics. Cameron and Clegg could show true leadership by shutting it down now! They won't of course because there is no 'new age' of poltics. It's the usual self indulgence for personal and poltiical gain!
22/07/10 Rippedoffdad
In this age of 'new' poltics. Cameron and Clegg could show true leadership by shutting it down now! They won't of course because there is no 'new age' of poltics. It's the usual self indulgence for personal and poltiical gain!
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Fathers for justice