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CSA maintenance payments advice?

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Hi Folks... here's another CSA gripe unfortunately.  I am hoping someone can perhaps advise me on my current situation regarding maintenance payments and deduction of earnings, in particular what happens when you have an arrangement outside of the CSA.

I split with my wife in 1995 and happily made maintenance payments to her from day one for my two children.  One of them is now aged 18 and starting university soon, the other is now 15.  By the end of 1997 the CSA was taking so much money from my income that I was two months behind on my rent.  Also, my phone had been cut off which was a great inconvenience and I had no insurance or tax on the car etc.  It was a very tough situation to be in.

CSA maintenance payments advice? At this point I saw my only option was to leave the country and work abroad, which is exactly what I did.  In 2000 I returned to the UK and worked for 3 months before I got a letter from the CSA demanding over £10,000 in arrears payments and telling me that the outstanding monies would be collected from my salary - deduction of earnings etc.  Again, as I had no alternative I left the country and have now been living in a different country for 12 years.  During this time I have had a standing order in place to my ex wife paying maintenance directly to her at the start of every month.

I now have the opportunity to return to the UK in a salaried position. Does anyone know if the CSA will pursue me for the payments over the last 12 years that have not passed through them?  Would I be coming back to huge arrears, probable court action and a situation similar to the one I was in when I left?

I would like to return to the UK but being left with 60-70 pounds a week as I was previously will not make this a viable option.  Anyway, I'd really love to hear any advice anyone can offer.  Thanks

By: Stuart


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Dead and Buried

Dead and Buried

CSA = feminists who thinks all single dads are bad.
If I were you I'd move abroad and keep the cu*ts sending those letters in vain.
16/05/14 Dead and Buried
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collar

collar

Hey Jerry Mike, have you ever peeled an orange in your pocket? You sly fox you!
16/05/14 collar
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collar

collar

I remain sceptical over this 'spell-casting' Certainly when money is involved. It`s just sour thoughts, these people need to re-think their little magic tricks & appear future guessers in front of their colleages. I was slightly puzzled as a teenager, and wouldn`t believe some of the mumbo jumbo that I witnessed in foreign climes called Africas. The sub-continents that mostly impressed me were very hot for a start, & hot does things to the brains no spooky magic can solve!
12/03/14 collar
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TommyB

TommyB

All you mothers on here are sick and twisted you don't spend the csa money on your kids you spend it on your self you make the working class man have to leave his job because there's no point working for nothing and being in debt like my self the csa are the scum of the earth they do not care how much they take and how it leaves us farthers who have moved on and got a family of there to then worry if they can afford the rent every month sick of women on here who scrounge for money off the farther while they go for coffee s with friends and bum around all day disgusting disgrace of some women I'd happily pay a fair amount but these mothers and csa take the piss out of us farthers who struggle to earn a decent living csa needs to be banned or refined!!
27/03/13 TommyB
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fed up struggling!!

fed up struggling!!

This is to pissed off mother sick of sperm donors.... I don't think alot of people would mind paying for a child, providing it wasn't a stupid amount. My husbands ex had told him the child was not his. So for 8 years He didn't pay. then his mother past away....a little while after that we (having to babies of our own) received a letter from the CSA. My husband owes £10,200. We had to sell our house as we couldn't afford our mortgage and the £412 deductions of earnings. So we had to move In with my parents, where we stayed for a year before the council gave us a house. Now we are stuggling to make ends meet. And that's with buying Tesco own and not having treats for us!! And you think that's fair?? All that for a child we have never met and she will not allow to see?! Oh sure you might say take it to court.....but we can't afford it!!! So while all you money grabbing twats spend all your money plus what you ex gave you to supposedly support the child...take a minute and think about the familys struggling and there kids getting less then they should....thats on you!!! And I hope karma steps up to be the b###h (hopefully a total c##t) we all know!!
13/12/12 fed up struggling!!
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Pissed off mother sock of Sperm donors

Pissed off mother sock of Sperm donors

this is simple! PAY FOR YOUR KIDS!!! how dare you try to keep a hold of your money for the sake of spiting your ex without even thinking about the kids! who cares if they are on benefits or if she sits on her lazy butt all day! thats none of your concern your concern is stepping up to the plate and financially supporting your children! its never about paying only if you see them! if you don't see them do they not exist? yes they do, stop being bitches and help with raising them! i was caught pregnant while on the pill! as a result i have a wonderful son now aged 7 years old, i separated from his father while i was pregnant due to all the lies and the cheating on his part, not once did i ever deny him access to my son i did ask for him to only introduce him to a girl as a partner if its not a long term thing as i didn't want my son around his flings, its never good for the child to have a new women playing mommy every month. the father saw my son 3 times in order to take photo's together so that he can show immigration that he needs to remain in the uk and not be deported on his false refugee claim (his words not mine i found out after the 3rd visit). 6 years later we had not seen or heard from him, never asked for or voluntarily received a penny from him. i was working my but off full time looking after my son not staying at home on benefits. i met my husband and we had a son together and we wanted to move to his home in canada i had to go to court and get a order for permission to take my son with me and when the court contacted the father he said no as it would damage the father son relationship they had!!! he then went to court every time and had some lame ass excuse as to why he had not been in contact due to me refusing him access! i decided that if he wants to pretend to be dad after 6years he can help and contribute towards my sons future and the child support, via forced csa, has been put into a bank account and transferred to one under my sons name (i don't touch it!) it has only been 5 months and he has made 14 attempts to close the case and make excuses as to why he doesn't have to pay!! i also heard that he has another child and is doing the exact same thing with that child too! why the hell can you men not see how messed up this is?! i look at my husband and he is a great dad and is there not only for his son but for his step son (my son) also! if we was to split i can guarantee his thoughts wouldn't be "how can i piss the mom off" it would be "Whats my responsibility to my child!?!" so its not all men im solely speaking to the rats who try to weasel their way out of child support payments.... GROW THE HELL UP AND PAY FOR YOUR CHILD(ren)!! if you move out of the country does your child cease to exist?! do they no longer need food/clothes/holidays?? no they dont stop being on this earth so why do you think you don't have to pay?!
to the new partners of these lame *** dads SHUT THE HELL UP stop blaming the mother you dont know both sides of the story so stand there with your partner and help him make the right choice by supporting his kids!
to the women with the kids STOP BEING A SPITEFUL BITCH! its not about getting money for you! its about getting money to help make your child's life better! its not about making the guy pay money for the hurt he caused you! you left him thats all you can do you cant get the love/pain back in finances. if the guy has been paying thank your lucky stars that you have children with a responsible father who may not be the best partner but is there or trying to be there for his kids!

phew rant over!
13/12/12 Pissed off mother sock of Sperm donors
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2 steps forward 1 step back

2 steps forward 1 step back

My Ex came off protection with out telling me I told her from the start that i didnt want kids until im in a better job and ready for them we were both young at the time I was 21 she was 19 . when I found out she was I felt betrayed and so angry I had also herd she had been cheating so I left her . so not long after the child was born I get the letter demanding I pay child support but I was going into further education so I told them the situation and they backed off . I did some part time work in between and eventually got a great job after graduating and then the CSA came back with avenge said I owed 10.000 in arrears and had to pay 412.00 a month back . I was 28 and away to get married and have our first child plus I had not long took out a mortgage so the house got sold and I lost a lot of money and I payed off my arrears which brought the payments down to 152.00 a month and then not long after that we had our daughter greatest day of my life . I told the CSA i had a dependent and it took them a year to sort it out and then 18 months later we had another girl so another dependent . I finally got my first daughters reduction in payment which got them down to 130.00 but since then I have changed job which is more money so the CSA wants more money I think its 190.00 they want plus they havent sorted out my newest dependent . Im sick and tired of feeling like im getting some where just to be shot down for a stupid girl who just wanted a child because all her friends were having them . I feel it the woman's responsibility that if a child's brought into the world its for the right reasons and the right partner not because everyone else is doing it and you get a house and benefits plus the CSA is happy to fleece me financially those fathers who actually work . I deeply feel every girl should get the implant as soon as they reach puberty to stop these benefit junkys from shafting the system and there being so many unwanted kids . Im 30 now and will never be able to get a mortgage and leave a decent house for my two girls when im gone and im truly sorry for son I never had anything to do with its not his fault his mother is an idiot .
13/12/12 2 steps forward 1 step back
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r6b6

r6b6

Anon- I am raising 2 wonderful boys and I get to reap all the benefits that goes with. I get all their kisses and cuddles and I get to cry at their school plays and take photos and make memories. No matter the struggle they will always be shielded and my house is full of love. I can't wait for xmas to see their little faces and I will no doubt be overwhelmed with emotions as a proud mother who laid on xmas and made it all possible. It sure is karma, keep ur money, let it mount up but you'll never have what I got :) Im sorry anon that ur father couldn't see what he would miss out on but Im glad ur mother was strong enough to give you all the support you needed x
26/10/12 r6b6
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r6b6

r6b6

Disgusted to hear so many "father's" (sperm donators) on here complaining about "having" to support their child (ren), am not going to rant and rave, Im simply laughing at all the comments. If you weren't prepared to financially support your child (ren) do not create them!! If you think its unfair to have to support them financially please do disappear abroad because personally I do not want you in my country, I am ashamed to have you in it. Keep the emotions towards your ex partner separate from the feelings towards your children and grow up! How many of you thoughtless boys leave your partners beaten up, in debt, ripping her of all self confidence??? Are you an individual that is prepared to step up and be a caring parent or are you a stain on society? Stop dragging her through all this rubbish and realise she is raising your child single handed. And to have to read comments from the new partners of these disgusting individuals, shame on you girls! Lets hope he wont do the same to you, good luck!
26/10/12 r6b6
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chezza

chezza

My Husband is reaelly gong through it with his X! They have been divorced 13 years and she just won't stop. We even left the country to get away from her, my husband still paid child support the entire time we were gone. Now the child involved is 16 and has decided to go on a course so his mum can still get money. His words not mine! We were seeing the child until recently when he suddenly decided he didn't want to know his Dad anymore. All his Dad is, is a cash machine and as soon as he stood up for himself and his money, his kids won't speak to him! I am American and just don't understand the whole child support system in this country. We moved back here 7 years ago so my husband could be around his children and now wish we never came back. In fact, we are currently planning a move out of this country and never coming back. What kind of a system forces people to leave their country to avoid horrid ex's? This X is diabolical. She always sends threatening texts, even came after me once. Everything is about money and it makes my stomach turn. This system of child care is a joke and after reading these posts and knowing some people dont even have enough money to live is well, the uk should be ashamed of itself puttinng people in dire strats. Even getting benefits, cheating the government and she still wants more!!!!!!!!!! SHOCKING!!!!!!!!!!
06/08/12 chezza
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maggie

maggie

i need advice please my boyfriends ex wife has been to the CSA hes been giving her £100 a month for his daughter but she wants more. the problem is he wants to move in with me and my daughter but not sure if he will be able to run all the bills here and pay what the CSA will want him too.im a single mum left my ex thro DV so have nothing to do with him please if any one knows what we will have to pay her or % of his wages can you email me at maggiet@live.co.uk hes only on min wage thanks
05/08/12 maggie
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robyn

robyn

Hi some advice please.
My partner has 4 children with his ex, she doesn't work. He currently got a promotion and is now earning around £1300 p.m. Although after all tax, Ni and CSA payments and CSA arrears he receives £520. I was working until recently but because of a nerve problem I've had to leave work. I've been told that because of partners earnings we are not entitled to any benefits, After we pay rent, council tax, gas and electricity we are left with £80 per month to live on. We stay in a 1 bedroom flat but still take the 4 children 1 night a week (2 on Friday and 2 on Saturday) at the moment we are seriously struggling to survive and have had to give up all pleasures in life. I cant see any way out other than splitting up or my partner quitting his job and if he did have to quit he would be so depressed it would probably cause us to split anyway. I have taken all his children on as my own (they call me weekend mum) and couldn't imagine them not being in my life. I just don't see a way out of this. Any suggestions??
01/07/12 robyn
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flyeboy

flyeboy

Right then people here is a new one for you,I have been informed today by the csa that they are now back logging my ex's money back to febuary because they say i have not had shared care,Best thing is my ex has gone behind a court order giving me acsess so can someone please tell me how they can demand over £600 in arear payments and leave me and my new family short
26/06/12 flyeboy
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Matt f

Matt f

The csa can only demand money if you are getting an income in the uk , if you dont work they will be entitled to a percentage of your unemployment benefit , if you work and live abroad and then return , you only have to pay a percentage of what you earn in this country , they arent entitled to anything if you work or live abroad ! Makes us all want to emigrate the csa are scum !
03/11/11 Matt f
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lee

lee

i think the csa should start every case with a blood test ecspecialy the father is unsure weather the child actually belongs to him they only take the mothers word for it and what happens to the mother when it is proved she was wrong about the father apparently nothing my partner is being accused of being a father after bringing the child up for a year he was told by the mother that he was not the father so the natural thing was to move on and he got on with his life then three years later the csa was on his back and have been ever since the child is now seven years old and its been a long drawn out battle we just want to know either way so we can get on with our lives
10/10/11 lee
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