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When I split with an ex-partner we had a verbal agreement between us so that instead of paying monthly maintenance for our child, she would receive a one off payment. This was her idea so I remortgaged my home and paid her £30,000. She had no legal claim to the property and we were not married.
The following Sunday she was due to come to the house with our son so that I could spend some time with him. Well as it happened she just didn't show up.
She didn't answer her phone and seemed to have basically disappeared from the face of the earth! I later discovered that she had apparently just gone and moved abroad, but in the mean time I ran out of money searching and had to stop looking. I just couldn't afford the solicitor fees any longer and eventually decided to get on with my life and have since started a new family.
Recently however, I got a demand from the CSA through the door and when I tried to explain to them over the phone that I actually had a verbal agreement with my ex-partner. I was told "it wasn't worth the paper it isn't written on" and that I still had to pay maintenance, bearing in mind that I was still paying the debt for the £30,000 I had borrowed.
I spoke to my solicitor who told me that there really wasn't much I could do other than take a civil action against her for the difference in the money, but even then there was no guarantee that she would pay up.
I haven't seen my son since he was two. He is now seven, I am going to try and get access again to see my son, but am not sure if its the right thing to do as I doubt he will even know who I am.
My solicitor suggested that the money I paid her should have been declared to the Inland Revenue, which presumably it was not. This could severely affect any benefit she may be on and probably land her with a hefty tax bill. This may be the only route left to take, but unfortunately it doesn't exactly help our son.
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the csa think they are above the law. let them take you to court also asked for a dna test
Pull out all stops and grind this deceitful woman into paste.
She is a liar and a cheat.
I'll bet the ex-beatle wishes he never met that certain person . He Laid her, but she certainly Screwed him.
I know there are a lot of good women still around, (including yourself ), but there's a lot of devious ones as well.
They part their legs, and have £ signs flashing in their GREEDY eyes.
As for the CSA, it's just a complete, one sided waste of space."
Hey! We're not ALL that bad!
My boyfriend earns less in a month than I earn in a week, and I still love him.
Call that greedy?
I think you've just met the wrong women, love.
She's nothing to you anymore. Your son is a stranger who wont even know you.
Why on earth would you care about this money grabbing cow or her spawn at all?!
You have your OWN familly to look after and worry about now. I deffinately think you should report her to the inland revenue. If it's her wellbeing, or that of you and your family,chosing who's is more important should be easy.
solution
She knew what she was doing and she took you for a ride well and truly!
Solution I have for you and a bloody good one at that- report her!-she will be more than broke!-go to court to gain full custody of your son as she clearly has no means to provide for him!- go to csda and report her, done!
Revenge is sweet!
After all she was the heartless scrubber who took your son away in the first place! Time for you and that lad to form that bond she robbed you of.