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Tricked into fatherhood by devious ex-girlfriend

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It riles me that all absent fathers are seen as the bad guy when there are always two sides to a story.  My husband's ex-girlfriend dated him to win a bet she had with her friends, she already had a boyfriend and wanted a baby regardless of what she had to do to get it, such as lying about taking the pill.  These are all facts she later admitted to.

She got pregnant and when the baby was born he was forced to move into a house with her; a house which he worked nights to pay for and he was only 18 at the time.  After a year he left and was refused access to his daughter until a private agreement was made favouring his ex-girlfriend.

Three times he was refused parental responsibility because as far as his ex-girlfriend was concerned the child was hers but when she snapped her fingers he had to go running or she would deny him access.

A young couple, not all absent fathers are bad, some were just naive and trusting For 10 years he paid maintenance, bought clothing, gave pocket money and money for school trips; to name but a few of the financial payouts all equating to thousands of pounds without a single argument or complaint. 

Then one day he hurt his back at work, had to give up his job and at the same time found out that I was pregnant.  When he told his ex that he did not have any money she did not even grant him the grace of a week to sort anything out before going to the CSA.

He is now branded as a deadbeat absent father because he doesn't pay maintenance due to staying at home to look after our baby while I work full time to support us.  We would not be able to afford to live if we both worked due to outrageous maintenance payments, child care costs and very little governmental help.

My husband was forced into this situation and has paid for his ex's deceit while she has had an easy ride.  Id understand it if he had been stupid and had known he was taking a risk but his only crime was to be young, naive and trusting.


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ahforfoulkessake

ahforfoulkessake

ha ha ha miserablemoaninggit.
no one's saying that its been forced on them but they were conned when their gf probably ex by now lied to them and is now demanding money for child support.
She should suffer her own folly, not drag that poor sap into her lies, I wouldn't touch her with yours now
ahforfoulkessake
30th May 13 19:00

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miserablemoaninggit

miserablemoaninggit

All men in the UK - all tax paying men that is - are tricked into fatherhood by the crazy Welfare State. I have hundreds of thousands of children, of all races, colours and creeds, all forced upon me via Child Benefit, free prescriptions, housing benefit etc etc.
miserablemoaninggit
30th May 13 18:46

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ahforfoulkessake

ahforfoulkessake

I feel sorry for the bloke mentioned in the author's gripe.
My friend has had a battle recently over access to his daughter and custody.
Not fronm the ex. His daughter was taken away by the social services from her mum but he can't have her as he's homeless and been sofa surfing last couple of years.
I think if the man in the gripe had a pair he'd have said no access, no money and watched the ex-gf get off her lazy backside and support the child.
ahforfoulkessake
30th May 13 17:09

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Mother of two

Mother of two

men do stand up for their familys and yes i am a woman with kids. If u cant afford your kids then u should keep your legs shut.
Mother of two
1st Sep 11 00:25

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achel (In Support of Fathers

achel (In Support of Fathers

Oh, and just for the record, my partner WAS indeed tricked in to having a baby by his ex.

She failed to get any maintenance from him. Why? Because he has custody.

EPIC FAIL on her part! =D LMFAO!
achel (In Support of Fathers
17th Jun 11 00:24

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achel (In Support of Fathers

achel (In Support of Fathers

Crawl back in to the cave you crawled out of Florida Girl.

You're just a man-hating feminist who does not deserve even an ounce of respect from anyone. You are SCUM and women like you need to stop being so narrow-minded and pathetic.
And what a surprise, I am a WOMAN who thinks you're nothing but a man-hater! How DARE me....I am not being true to the f**king "sisterhood".

I'm siding with the dads and not waving my bra in the air demanding money money money from my ex. I'm not stopping my ex having access to his son. I'm playing fair and being amicable, ensuring that me and my ex have equal custody of our son. I do NOT expect any maintenance payments from him. Even if he didn't want an active part in our son's life, I don't need to rely on anyone (including my ex) to keep a roof over our heads.... I WORK!! I pay the bills and care for my son and I get greater satisfaction from doing it myself rather than wanting money money money from my ex.

Get your pitch fork out Florida Girl and come after me because the "feminist, man-hating, sisterhood" won't be having me as a perpatrator! =D
achel (In Support of Fathers
17th Jun 11 00:20

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Florida Girl

Florida Girl

I personally don't like men so they can have this "male abortion" if they want to.

And the irony is......They don't like to wear condoms. And they think it's a woman's responsibility to prevent pregnancies anyways.

So they're just p*ssy cause they HAVE to pay child support. It has nothing to do with the fact that we can get abortions or give birth (ie, have the right to choose).

Good riddance
Florida Girl
6th May 11 02:56

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Florida Girl

Florida Girl

Well Congo you seem to not understand what's going on between the sexes and frankly I don't feel like explaining it. Just google male abortion and that should do it
Florida Girl
4th Mar 11 01:28

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Congo

Congo

It seems to me that both parties were equally irresponsible and should not complain when they must pay the price for their misbehaviour.

The only sympathy I have is for the child of such creatures.and for the State having to become involved at a cost to the taxpayer (and, perhaps in some small measure for the griper).
Congo
18th Feb 11 09:13

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Florida Girl

Florida Girl

Hey women guess what men were/are saying about us...and I dare any man to argue against it.

In Hesiod’s words...
‘From her comes all the race of womankind
The deadly female race and tribe of wives
Who live with mortal men and do them harm.’
Florida Girl
18th Feb 11 02:59

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Florida Girl

Florida Girl

No Nock I am not planning on doing it.

And yes those definitions are correct but if you read on it put it in a sentence: "the r*pe of the countryside' next to what you put there as the definition. So NOOOOOO, MEN CANNOT be r*ped by a woman. Only by another man.

And by the way....the mra's put up an agrument saying that to 'protect' women from men who k*ll them because they don't want to be a father, they should have the right to abort their rights and responsibility. But then I fully support a woman k*lling a man if he doesn't want to be a father.

You men are all dumb b*tches
Florida Girl
29th Jan 11 14:55

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NOCK

NOCK

well this situation is happening to me now and I used protection (condoms are only 99% effective but all I can say is I better not use Trojan again because after last time I must have Spartans down there or something but I digress I still used protection but im being manipulated into it by emotional blackmail and reading most of the comments from the females on this page alone show that what this article says is more common than previously thought I bet Florida Girl has done this or is planning too and http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/rape says that rape can also be
an act of plunder, violent seizure, or abuse; despoliation; violation: so in the Florida Woman's meaning yes a woman can rape a man and then emotionally blackmail him without any degradation to their own "pure and wholesome" image. btw she is thinking like an adult unlike you who is thinking like a moronic perpetual child
NOCK
12th Aug 10 21:51

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Florida Girl

Florida Girl

Florida woman you have got to be one of the dumbest female alive. If fatherhood is so important then why do men leave their children so often? You tried your best to make your husband sound like a victim. "He was raped" yada yada yada. First off, the worse form of rape is when a 30 something year old man has sex with a 7 year old girl behind the bushes. In your man's case, I assume, was only rape cause he was underaged. Nothing violent. Nothing forced. Where was his condom? And about her sons, I doubt she thinks like you so she has nothing to worry about. Meaning you can't trick a man into fatherhood so Im sure she'll teach her son about sex. Unlike you. Oh and "forcing" a man to be a father and raping a girl/woman are NOT the same thing. You're a woman so think like one!!
Florida Girl
22nd Jun 10 16:58

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Florida Woman

Florida Woman

Fatherhood is such an important role, for the child involved most of all, it should NEVER be forced on a man anymore than sex should be forced on a woman. STOP the madness!! It is a violation of a man's basic human rights to FORCE or trick him into being a father. It does no one any good to be that selfish. We ALL, as a society, pay the price for the perpetuation of evil and wrongdoing- don't fool yourself into believing any different.
Florida Woman
21st Jun 10 04:41

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