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Workplace bullying: my boss is a bully

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My boss is a bully and has been horrible to me at every possible opportunity.  She nit-picks at everything I do, ignores me in the workplace while laughing and talking to everyone else.  She never passes on information to do with my job and then yells at me for not getting the work done.  Well as she never communicated with me in the first place and I can't read minds, how can I be expected to know what is going on?

Another thing that she does that really annoys me.  She always waits until we are alone before making some nasty comment or other.  For example, fairly recently we were about to go into a meeting and she said to me "my comments are not welcome and I should keep them to myself... because we have to act professional."

I was first dumbfounded and then extremely angry about this because I have always conducted myself in a professional manner.

Workplace bullying I had to have a performance appraisal with her recently and her latest comment was the final straw.  During the meeting she told me that everyone in the office was sick of my workplace behaviour.  I couldn't believe what I was hearing.  I have worked for this company for 18 years without any problems so where did this come from?

This person has been my boss for six months and so far managed to make my life a complete hell!  What can I do and how do other people deal with a boss who is a bully?

By: Doris Doormat


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Queen

Queen

Write every thing down
At any meeting put on mobile phone recorder hidden
Write dates, times, place of any comment especially with others present
Take photo of appraisal sheet, bad emails
It is bullying
Go and visit solicitor free advise centre and they will tell you what to do.
I know because happened to me, I took paperwork to a university law drop in centre, there were 4 in room, one American lawyer. One English solicitor and two university law students. They all agreed it was workplace bullying
You must be a threat
Queen
5th May 18 04:37

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hi

hi

your boss will have a boss or some form of manager speak to them
hi
22nd Oct 14 13:22

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Mr John Smith

Mr John Smith

Many of these office bullies behave like they do becuase that is the way they think they have to as it's all part of the job. They have seen on tv, read about it on the internet or in newspapers etc. It's psychological thing. I am a manager therefore I have to act in a certain way. It's how managers act due to their "stressful and busy job" Stop it. It doesn't help anyone. There is no need to shout at someone who hasn't finished the job YOU didn't ask them to do, no need to be nasty all time, no need to slam doors or tell people to get out of your way.

I used to work in a customer facing role in a public sector job. One day my manager called me into her office and said she'd had complaints about me from other staff and the customers! What have I done wrong, as I couldn't think what the problem could be as no one had saif anything to me. Apparently she wanted me to smile more as it looked bad on everyone else to see me looking so miserable! I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I asked who had complained to her about me, but she wouldn't say but it was quite a few other staff and a few customers. I was lost for words.
Mr John Smith
17th Jun 14 11:30

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Gill

Gill

I once dealt with a Bully Boss. My bully boss was an Empire seeker who wanted his own team in place. I had worked with the company for five years when he got promoted as the office bully. He stated I was making mistakes with my work and gave me verable warning and then written warning. He check my work and got the HR involved. Then he backed down. There was nothing wrong with my work he was just telling me to get another job. I stayed put. Then the pay rises came round and I get next to nothing. I did complain to HR about his rather nasty way he was dealing with me but they did nothing. A colleague of mine went through the same route and she left. You do have to stand up to these power seeker. It took him another three years before I resigned for a better position. He did me a favour.
Gill
1st Jan 14 16:48

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david

david

I totally understand what it means being bullied most of my life, so i made myself a website with all what i know and learned. That include also how do fight bullying back in the right way ect.

My website is: https://sites.google.com/site/weareagainstbullys/

I hope my personal experiences and also what i learned from college is helpful to you all.
david
24th Dec 12 06:45

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JustThink

JustThink

They usely imploy bullies because they like to boss people around. Hence why they make a good boss.
JustThink
25th Aug 11 20:50

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Heard of this before?

Heard of this before?

Thank God I was as a public sector (top) manager with a strong team behind me. Iv'e now retired early at 55( pulled a sicky) and don't have to worry about anything anymore, huge pension,lots of holidays abroad in the sun, nice new luxury car every year, but here's the snag,I really miss the office banter and all those days at the golf club( I should have been in the office really).It really use to upset me when I heard all those poor little people crying they were over worked and stressed but my advice to them then was "If you don't like it, find a job you will be happy in, but until then just get on with it"
Heard of this before?
29th May 11 18:45

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n the Pathology of a Morally

n the Pathology of a Morally

I work in a managerially dysfunctional company, a huge multinational. There is a unchecked culture of bullying right down from the top. It's like' a huge British public school with the senior boys fagging and constantly bullying and beating up their juniors. Bullying is fully endemic within this institution.

There are approx 7 layers of management between myself and the man who lives in the billionaire's mansion on the top of the green hill faraway. None of the managers in-between have any real authority. Most of them are useless, serve no purpose. Our firm has one of the lowest income per employee ratios in the industry. It's no wonder: there are huge armies of useless managers in this organization having to be propped up. These managers bully as they have nothing better to do with their time. I guess they measure their comparative perfomance against those of their colleagues, as to how ruthlessly each can "manage" his/her part of the organization.

This is not a real innovative, go-ahead company. It has no real imagination. It's a company waiting to be superseded by another capitalist empire from elsewhere; this will inevitably happen. It's a company living on its past glories. It is a company in total terminal moral decline. I predict it will eventually collapse as all monolithic "empires" do. Even Genghis Khan's empire eventually collapsed.

As I look out of the window, is the sun setting rapidly on this monstrosity?
n the Pathology of a Morally
28th May 11 08:27

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The Company I Work For Sucks

The Company I Work For Sucks

My manager's boss works in another country, and is complicit in the guilt of bullying, but denies any involvement in it. They refuse any hearing. HR locally is complicit with management locally
The Company I Work For Sucks
27th May 11 13:27

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Gerry's pacemaker

Gerry's pacemaker

Anyone that bullies you at work be it the cleaner, a collegue or the manager needs reporting to hr immediately. If you don't have and hr then go to the bullies manager. Make yourself heard or it will never stop.
Gerry's pacemaker
27th May 11 11:14

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x-se.g

x-se.g

if she takes your work more often than not even after the snorty comments, and just once in the meetings, say your points yourself so she doesnot keep feeding onn your good work and getting all the credit to give you a hard time after it all. these people are just trying to eliminate the competition
x-se.g
19th May 11 10:35

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Why on Earth are some people l

Why on Earth are some people l

Our boss has been complaining about a huge backlog in our work. He asked for suggestions. I sent him a 15 point memo explaining why there was a backlog, and what was need to be done to address it.

To my utter surprise he simply rejected every single proposal I made.

And then turned round to everyone saying he expected everyone to work harder to overcome the backlog, even though half the outstanding tasks had no value or added no value to the business and were bureaucratic in nature.
Why on Earth are some people l
13th May 11 23:35

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beenthere

beenthere

She is jealous of you. Ignore her, put a smile on your face and what ever you do, do not let her know that what she does or says bothers you. Been there, done that. You will outlast her.
beenthere
9th Apr 11 05:04

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stopbullyingatwork (facebook)

stopbullyingatwork (facebook)

Sorry to hear that you are being treated this way, there are many things that you can do: the first is to 'name' the behaviours and politely ask her to stop the behaviours. You could talk to your HR or personnel people, union rep or an external professional. Keep a confidential record of all the events: dates, times etc. If the behaviours continue, then you may have to make your complaints formal or leave.
stopbullyingatwork (facebook)
8th Apr 11 18:18

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Boblet

Boblet

GOW If a misunderstanding is the worst that happens to me today I will be more than pleased, it lead to a lively exchange of views, Petra was great wasn’t she? "All’s well that ends well"
Boblet
1st Apr 11 10:56

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