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Dear all reading this post,

As per the title, I am getting more and more certain that women do not like short men at all.  Just for your information: I'm an English male living in the south of England, in my early thirties and 5'4 in height.  I have good parents who have brought me up to have good manners, respect and a polite attitude but also to stand up for myself where necessary.

My height has never bothered me in my life, I accepted this fact at an early age and although this will sound daft, I've always been small in stature, so I don't know any different!

My gripe is not a thought which I've always had, it's something which I've only really considered recently and after using a few online dating sites and reading certain blogs, comments on the Internet from other short men, it has basically strengthened my opinion even more.  The number of times I've been rejected by women who have been 5 - 6 inches shorter than me because I'm not tall enough is beyond ridiculous.

What I will mention next has been said in countless magazines, TV shows, in places I've worked, people I've met etc.  They say that women prefer personality and a sense of humour over looks, height and all the rest. Well I'm sorry ladies, but your talking utter rubbish.  In my lifetime, omen have gone for the wealth, career, car, and house, type of guy rather than the personality and sense of humour type of person.  (I'm absolutely certain that a lot of men will agree with me here).

Although this may sound hypocritical, this isn't a sexist, angry tirade against all women kind.  I'm an open minded man who can accept people from all walks of life as long as they have a good heart.  It's down to frustration and on another note, I just don't understand.

Measuring tape for measuring height short guys - it doesn't automatically mean we are likely to be weaker

Whether or not women seem to think it's the strength/protection factor, I simply cannot answer that.  Just because we are smaller than the average man, it doesn't automatically mean we are likely to be weaker or a push over.  In fact, Id argue that being smaller has the effect of making us stronger because we've had to deal with a lot of prejudice, and by strength I don't mean physical strength only.  There are many scenarios in life where strong mental ability wins over strong physical attributes, but that's another story.

I know I'm going to upset a few women with what I've mentioned above, but these are just one person's thoughts and the more I think about it the more it makes sense, and I'm sure it resonates with other short men.  For the record, I'm not riddled with self pity towards myself and resentment towards others.  I'm a likable, friendly chap who is generally happy in life, but a little frustrated with all of this.  Also, perhaps I should have mentioned this at the beginning, not all women pass over short men.  I went out with a girl once who was four inches taller than me and it certainly didn't bother her.  However, this does seem an extremely rare occurrence.

Many thanks for reading

By: Peter Martin Martinez


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frank johnsln

frank johnsln

This blog made me think of my early 20’s, as I was rejected by the women who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male.
One 6’ tall girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to. I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches. She got angry with me for even asking her out and stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height
I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”. (I am 5’8”) And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence. No doubt, all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe stable Beta male was the next best thing in their 30’s,. I didn’t grow any taller and I doubt I got better looking. These women were past their prime and worried. I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years. It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife. I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age. Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them. I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier wouldn’t have given me the time of day. And even now, may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them. I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women. Why go old, when I could go young?
I am now married and have 4 sons. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought. SO, IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN YOUR LATE 20’S OR EARLY 30’S WITH NO PROSPECT OF A HUSBAND OR CHILDREN, YOU HAVE NO ONE TO BLAME BUT YOURSELF. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. (This also applies to average height women, too) And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate, for there are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them. I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. Thus, throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a leggy lady.
By the way, another tie in with this article and be found at this web site.
http://shortguycentral.com/P-57/beware-of-the-reformed-heightist-woman
This writer tells about women’s rejections in his 20’s, only to find that women now chased after him, in spite of his height, now he is in his early 30’s. HE WARNS OF THE DANGERS OF THE “REFORMED HEIGHTEST WOMAN” WHO ARE DESPERATE AFTER WASTING THEIR LIFE CHASING THE ALFA MALE AND NOW WANT A STABLE BETA WITH A STEADY PAY-CHECK.
Here is anther on how women who found the Mr. Average (Beta Males) were worth nothing in their 20’s and now that these women are in their 30’s can’t buy a date, even from the Beta Males, titled “Why women lose in the dating game”
http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html
During their 20s, women compete for the most highly desirable men, the Mr Bigs. Many will readily share a bed with the sporty, attractive, confident men, while ordinary men miss out. As Whiskey puts it at whiskeysplace.wordpress.com: ''Joe Average Beta Male is about as desirable to women as a cold bowl of oatmeal.''
''I can't believe how many men my age are only interested in younger women,'' wails Gail, a 34-year-old advertising executive as she describes her first search through men's profiles on the RSVP internet dating site. She is shocked to find many mid-30s men have set up their profiles to refuse mail from women their own age.
Talking to many women like her, it's intriguing how many look back on past relationships where they let good men get away because they weren't ready. American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ''intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind''. She acknowledged ''there was no good reason to end things'', yet, at the time, she was convinced something was missing in the relationship. That was 11 years ago. She's is now 39 and facing grim choices.
Here is an interesting article for a women who transgendered to a man, who finds how women treat him poorly due to this height of 5’9”.
http://libertyviral.com/is-living-life-better-as-a-man-or-woman-a-transgender-tells-hisher-story/
When I identified as female, I was somehow awesome for being on the taller end of femme, but now? Now, I’ve been called a “manlet” for being a hair under average male height – because apparently men get to be treated like shit for something that they can’t control. I’ve also noticed that, while dating women, a lot of them won’t even go NEAR you if you’re under 6 feet tall. Which is bullshit.
As a woman, I was free to be as shitty as I wanted, in personality, as well – in my (very stupid) younger man-hating years, no one was mad, and people even ENCOURAGED me to be a man hater! Now, as a man, I am apparently not even allowed to voice my opinion on women’s rights. Doesn’t matter that I still have breasts, a vagina, and two X chromosomes – nope. Because I pass as male, I have suddenly lost my ability to understand the plight of poor womenfolk.
frank johnsln
24th Jul 16 21:38

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Peter

Peter

Hello all, original poster here.

I rarely view this website anymore as I'm starting to feel it's being populated by clowns and lunatics these days. Nonetheless, saw the title of the original gripe on the comments section and thought it looked familar, clicked on it and it's mine! I forgot I'd even posted this! What a brilliant memory.

Dear Short Lady, thanks for your kind words, you've actually made my day. In answer to your question, no I do not feel insulted, it's a logical assumption to take. Truth is, I don't actually know why. Perhaps I'm just one of those people who it does not 'work' for? Haven't used them for a while now. Got into a brief relationship with someone (not via online) which turned out no good for me! Since then, been single for over a year. Just felt like living my life after that doing my own thing which has actually been great for me.

I think at the time I was obviously annoyed and venting frustration. Now I don't use them, no more frustration. Yes it takes me out the 'market' so to speak but why keep trying the same thing over and over and expecting different results?

Someone will come into my life, I know that. It'll come when I stop looking and also, when I least expect it.

Thanks again Short Lady for the valuable, thoughtful advice which so often lacks on internet forums and life in general.

Peace
Peter
9th Jun 14 17:12

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collar

collar

I get frustrated when not only do women expect you to be tall but moan at you for not fixing the shelf or whatever but they then cause another problem. Like the time I asked my girlfriend to sort out my central heating. She charged me for finding the problem but didn't fix it and then she removed the plug for the heater fan and forgot to put it back. When told about it she said it couldn't possibly be anything she had done. Oh it must have been the plumbers then!
collar
9th Jun 14 06:59

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Short lady

Short lady

I'd date you. I'm the same height as you but even if I wasn't, I would date you because you seem like a nice, smart man who is capable of having good conversation. Don't be insulted because it's just my opinion but I just wonder if there is some other reason these women on the dating site are not choosing you and you're just assuming it's to do with your height. Be confident in yourself and love yourself and no matter what you look like, others will love you too.
Short lady
9th Jun 14 02:54

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Bigenough

Bigenough

I couldn't really comment on short mens' experiences as I am just above the average height for a British male but I have found tall men (6ft or over) to have the most unbearable arrogance. They tend to be crude, loud, over competitive, judgemental and strangly immature - just look at Top Gear buffoon Jeremy Clarkson. Are these really the tendencies women look for in a man? If I were female I would avoid these long legged clowns like the plague and date a fun charismatic short bloke instead.
Bigenough
2nd Jan 14 01:20

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ahforfoulkessake

ahforfoulkessake

I don't know how shorter people are affected in dating but I'm 6'1" and have had less success than plenty of people shorter than me.
Maybe they're rich or have a trust fund to get women to want them because their attitude towards some people was appalling.
I sometimes find it hard to take someone much shorter than me seriously even if they're my boss at work which I've had a few shorter bosses in the past.
ahforfoulkessake
21st Sep 13 16:35

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anon

anon

Most short men look more and more like Ronnie Corbett when they hit their mid to late 50s.
anon
21st Sep 13 09:17

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Lightf00t

Lightf00t

I don't think it's just British women who are spoiled, self-entitled and delusional; I think this is a widespread problem across Europe, Australia and America. This is what the Left have created with their social experiments, e.g. radical feminism. Notice that Japanese and Chinese women are so much more polite and down-to-earth.
Lightf00t
1st Oct 12 14:07

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Arthur Saltan

Arthur Saltan

I'm 6'4'' and have always had plenty of female company. The few short men that I do know tend to be far too sensitive about their height and while it's fine for them to trot out the old jokes about tall people, they can't handle comments about their lack of height.
That said, I would agree that British women can be really useless and I prefer foreign girls. I've been married 3 times - the first was an American girl of african heritage (and a fairly well known professional athlete), second a Romanian who fleeced me before running off with my cousin and currently I am married to a sweet Thai lady whom I 'met' over the internet. Even though she's 37 years younger than me we have plenty in common and she's currently carrying our 4th child.
All three wives have been exciting in their own way but I can't imagine being stuck with a Brit.
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30th Aug 12 12:54

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Downwithbritchicks

Downwithbritchicks

"a young thai bride or similar sounds appealing.."

I would agree with that 100%
British woman are a waste of space, the majority have a attitude problem and consider themselves to be Gods gift to Man.
In my experience they are all looking for Superman, Mr. Perfect.
All the Polish that I have worked with say the same, British women are just born A**holes and most of them work at it
I have been happily married to a Thai Bride for 9 years and wouldn't swap her for a BritChick at any price, and no she is not treated as a doormat and runs a successful company of her own.
Downwithbritchicks
22nd Aug 12 19:59

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Gripester

Gripester

Women live in dream world. i'm 5ft8 and even this is considered short. They only want tall men so they can cripple themselves in ridiculously high heels. I think tall people walk round like gormless idiots completely unaware of what is going on around them. Get a foreign wife, you know it makes sense.
Gripester
21st Aug 12 19:17

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Lizzy

Lizzy

I've dated a man shorter than me, I am 5'9" and he was 5'2 and I will never date a shorter man again. He was controlling, rude and arrogant to the point I ended up despising him. I wasnt allowed to wear jeans, sleeveless tops or drink from anything other than a wine glass. He put me off the shorter man for life. My current partner is 1 ins shorter than me, skinter than a skint thing on skint day, looks well older than he actually is but I wouldnt change him for the world.
Lizzy
16th Aug 12 10:16

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Moe

Moe

I am six feet tall & i've never met a short man without a chip on his shoulder, who seems to have a need to be respected by everyone, I have worked with & known many sa's (short legged) I arn'tallowed to use the proper word short A ×××d that prove that point every time,working with three sa's at the moment one a charge and two managers who we at work men & women find them to be underhanded untrust worthy types those who think a licking & back stabbing is ok because it's a means to an end, they become a chargehand, foreman or manager & think it gets them respect but by crapping on the very people you want respect from earns you disrespect, also to be honest it's really down to bad breedinng poor genes,women aiming too low for a partner,possibly somewhere down the line a bit of inbreeding has been taking place, funny my father inlaw was an sa he hated me the very first time he saw me with my arm around his daughter & would you believe it he was a manager & a very sneaky underhanded person.
As for women preferring personality & sense of humor over height only when it comes with a large bank balance ie berney eccleston a little man has the charisma of a cuttlefish but millions in the bank, but on the other hand my wife is an sa 5ft 1, I find the term squab for a short legged women works perfectly, she is perfect no chips no personality defects except for one the one all shorts have the napolion syndrome or sas short a syndrome they all want to be in charge but that's not happening, so in short most women don't want a short leg because
A they don't want to put up with short legged syndrome
B they're most likely to be unpleasant underhanded sneaks & over loud people
C no good for introducing into the family blood line bad genes
D you don't want to be looking down all your life at the person you should be looking up to
E the embarrassment of being with a short legged instead of a normal man
Moe
21st Jul 12 05:48

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Peter Martinez

Peter Martinez

Word up people.

Thanks for all your comments. I have to admit I was expecting more jibes directed towards my height. Maybe something like, is Peter really Warwick Davies?? Saying that, Splott and Sam Rowbotham comments really made me laugh.

I notice some people have said that a lot of short people have a chip on their shoulder and unfortunately that is true in quite a few cases. These people need to get over themselves as there is nothing you can do to extend height, unless you wear platform shoes which is a ridiculous idea. Nobody's going to go out with you if you dress like a clown.

Also, as none of you know who I am, where I live and what I look like and probably never going to meet me, I'm going to say that user: Love shortmen is absolutely correct!

Thanks again.

Peter
Peter Martinez
11th Jun 12 17:49

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Love shortmen

Love shortmen

I always go for shorter men. They tend to have a bigger manhood.
Love shortmen
11th Jun 12 12:47

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