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Why are English people so cold? Perhaps this is the reason so many foreigners fail to integrate properly into society in the UK? I am a foreigner totally grateful to the UK for giving me a passport (married to a Brit for 21 years) as the chances of being killed where I come from are pretty good.
However, in all the time I spent living in the UK (five years in total), although I'm blue-eyed, blonde and speak perfect English with just a 5% accent, I am always regarded as being foreign. All my friends are foreign too mainly because we have come to realise we are all in the same boat.
My best friend is Swedish and has lived here in the UK for about 12 years. Even after that length of time living in the UK she says I am still the only person who has ever invited her home for a coffee!
We're told we have to be patient and that it takes time for an English person to trust you (say four years of knowing you), but then once they are friends with you, they are the best friends in the world. Well, I'm afraid I've given up trying and hoping.
you really don't want us to be here
Is it perhaps because your mothers never breast fed you and thus did not expose you to the first essential human warmth that we should all know? Or is it because you really are all xenophobic and your government, in its multicultural tendencies has failed to realise this basic truth? Perhaps it is just because you are SO polite, politically correct and you really don't want us to be here, so instead of telling us sincerely, you pretend to put up with us because you really don't want to become our friends?
Since first moving to the UK, I decided to move away again and have lived abroad for seven years. During that time I have never failed to make friends with the locals, and quickly too. So why are the English so aloof with foreigners?
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Liz

I think the main issue for me is that I speak with a posh accent (that basically means I sound middle class) but am working class. Also, I don’t care for football (aka soccer). I’m a polite and softly spoken person too. These kinds of things have led to me not fitting in, some people aren’t particularly kind and they openly ridicule me in front of other people. Some people say it’s just banter but it’s unkind and disrespectful and undermines me in several ways. I often feel embarrassed, uncomfortable and upset...and the people who do this to me simply do not care for my feelings.
Outside of work I find people who are middle classed are a little friendlier to me. I’m sure that if I loved lager and getting drink a lot, liked going on holiday to Blackpool and Benidorm, spoke with a more regional accent and followed West Brom FC I’d be better off with working class people.
Also, I’ve lived in a few different parts of England and people in Derbyshire seem to be the most racist/unwelcoming of strangers, but that’s just my personal experience and it’s with people who are usually 40 or 50+.

NEVER COME BACK HERE AND DIE YOU ALL BY THE STUPID COVID!!!


Try living in Spain - that is real racism - took parents at my child’s school 3 years to even say hello to me! I would say hi to them and invite them to the park but they would never come, only the other foreigners spoke to me!
I live in London so maybe smaller towns in the UK are not as open minded as London ???







The Ice Queen
Thank you for posting your question. As a foreign female from a colder area of the globe I thought my answer might be somewhat helpful.
First of all, as a very suspicious person by nature, I wonder if you are actively trolling us here. In case you are not a troll, I, as a foreigner, would like to share with you my own experience with Britons (English and Scottish, mostly). I had a case when an English lady told me off for being too stand-offish. I had an experience when an English girl lost her temper because I wouldn't reveal any personal information. In Scotland they are pretty much pi..ed off by mee too. The proud Scots (mostly men) keep telling me to smile and think I am grumpy. (In fact, I am quite happy overall). They called me a "snob" – many, many times. (I have no idea why. Maybe because I listen to classic music and refuse to put up with rap? Maybe because I refuse to watch the X-Factor)? When Britons try to strike a friendship with me, I secretly question their motives. "What do they want from me"? As an introvert I declined quite a few invitations because I'd rather stay at home and create my artworks. So how can I, a true, hard boiled Ice Queen complain about Britons being cold? I feel rather comfortable with them. They, mostly, mind their own business. I even love some of them (secretly, of course). The only times I feel uncomfortable around Brits (Scottish or English) is when they automatically assume that I am Polish. (And no, I am not, and I have never been anywhere near Poland in my dear life). But then again, Spaniards do exactly the same. They called me "una Polaca" which is very annoying.
Kind regards,
The Ice Queen