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I'm fed up of hearing about parents who are finding "life" hard as they have children. Let's support and stick up for all the single people out there for a change. After all, life isn't always easy for us either!
I have many friends who are married or live together and have children. It's the same old story all the time with them going on and on about how I don't understand what it's like to have children and they have it harder than I do. Well, yes I'm single, my choice, just like your choice to have children! You've made your bed and you have kids, so deal with it don't lecture those of us who have chosen to stay single and not have kids.
As a single person I have to look after the house, do my own washing and ironing. I have to deal with everyday things like the bank, go to work FULL TIME, sort the garden out, clean and tidy up, wash the car, do the shopping. I have to do all my own D.I.Y. and I do all of this on one wage packet!
As a single person I don't have a partner who helps out
What these people don't appreciate is that there's two of them and therefore they have a ready made support network to help deal with things. As a single person I don't have a partner who helps out, for example whilst I'm mowing the lawn, no one is doing the ironing or cooking. I don't have extra income such as additional tax allowances, extra money (eg, child support) and I don't need to leave work early or come in late because I have child care issues. Why should someone who chooses to do the same job as me have the right to come in early or late (and do less work than me!) because they choose to have children?
Yes, I appreciate looking after children is probably hard work, but there's two of you! Rant over, but I could go on and on and on about it. My gripe is mainly with those parents out there with children who use the kids as an excuse for ABSOLUTLEY EVERYTHING!
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But going back to two parent families; they both are usually working all hours under the sun to survive with the increasing cost of living. They never get time to spend with their kids and bond as a result. The kids are either looked after by grandparents (and spoilt) or in childcare and feel unloved. Child benefit is only £20 per week, that doesn't even cover my child's nappies for the week! I don't receive any other benefits, I work full time just like you and do all the things you do plus raise a child on top of it plus have to take my child to school before I start work and pick her up when I finish which is why they have flexible working for parents - which by the way is now (or soon will be) rolled out to everyone being able to request flexible working.
Sure parents have it harder than single people, but so do people caring for elderly relatives, disabled people, etc
Maybe when they complain to you they are just venting and miss their single life. Just remind them that they have lovely children to enjoy life with and help them rather than critisise or compete on who has it hardest!
5 kids
Another one sponging of the state.
You want and have kids then you shouldn't expect single people to support you.
Please don't say that it is only poor countries who are adding to the population explosion - each individual is responsible for their own actions.
If every woman had four children then the population of our small country would make life intolerable here. Thank god not everyone is as irresponsible as you are.
and the below comment is ridiculous. I know lots of mums who were well miffed that they couldnt go to work coz schools were closed, and they had no option but to stay at home and look after their kids. thats just how life is when you have kids. what everyone is failing to remember on these boards is that we were all kids once! if someone wants to have kids its their right and choice, stop moaning!
ahforfoulkessake
But we will have the last laugh.