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Single life and career versus parents with kids

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I'm fed up of hearing about parents who are finding "life" hard as they have children.  Let's support and stick up for all the single people out there for a change.  After all, life isn't always easy for us either!

I have many friends who are married or live together and have children.  It's the same old story all the time with them going on and on about how I don't understand what it's like to have children and they have it harder than I do.  Well, yes I'm single, my choice, just like your choice to have children!  You've made your bed and you have kids, so deal with it don't lecture those of us who have chosen to stay single and not have kids.

As a single person I have to look after the house, do my own washing and ironing.  I have to deal with everyday things like the bank, go to work FULL TIME, sort the garden out, clean and tidy up, wash the car, do the shopping.  I have to do all my own D.I.Y. and I do all of this on one wage packet!

As a single person I don't have a partner who helps out

Parents with kids What these people don't appreciate is that there's two of them and therefore they have a ready made support network to help deal with things.  As a single person I don't have a partner who helps out, for example whilst I'm mowing the lawn, no one is doing the ironing or cooking.  I don't have extra income such as additional tax allowances, extra money (eg, child support) and I don't need to leave work early or come in late because I have child care issues.  Why should someone who chooses to do the same job as me have the right to come in early or late (and do less work than me!) because they choose to have children?

Yes, I appreciate looking after children is probably hard work, but there's two of you!  Rant over, but I could go on and on and on about it.  My gripe is mainly with those parents out there with children who use the kids as an excuse for ABSOLUTLEY EVERYTHING!

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ahforfoulkessake

ahforfoulkessake

Tax incentives for getting married are a laugh, couples who live together get most things half price as it is unlike us poor singletons who have no financial support to cope in hard times.

But we will have the last laugh.
20/04/16 ahforfoulkessake
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Annoyed parent

Annoyed parent

Who says there's always two of them? Ever heard of being a single parent because the father walked out? Yes it happened to me. And it is hard.
But going back to two parent families; they both are usually working all hours under the sun to survive with the increasing cost of living. They never get time to spend with their kids and bond as a result. The kids are either looked after by grandparents (and spoilt) or in childcare and feel unloved. Child benefit is only £20 per week, that doesn't even cover my child's nappies for the week! I don't receive any other benefits, I work full time just like you and do all the things you do plus raise a child on top of it plus have to take my child to school before I start work and pick her up when I finish which is why they have flexible working for parents - which by the way is now (or soon will be) rolled out to everyone being able to request flexible working.
Sure parents have it harder than single people, but so do people caring for elderly relatives, disabled people, etc
Maybe when they complain to you they are just venting and miss their single life. Just remind them that they have lovely children to enjoy life with and help them rather than critisise or compete on who has it hardest!
09/06/14 Annoyed parent
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Amanda and Dandara

Amanda and Dandara

I think that both lifestyles have his own problems and limitations. People have to think before choose one, 'cause life i'ts not a kind of plays. People have to learn to face the consequences and go ahead :)
18/05/13 Amanda and Dandara
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NOT LDS or TInks

NOT LDS or TInks

LDS and Tinks - bad posts - no one is interested in you.
05/02/13 NOT LDS or TInks
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Tinks

Tinks

This gripe is stupid, your a bitter contracting bore! Your angry that your single and other people arnt? Then dont get pregnant to a daddy who wont stick round idiot! So what you run yourself ragged, thats what we all do now get on with it an stop moaning. God some people have no lives whatsoever
19/04/11 Tinks
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Rob benefit sponger

Rob benefit sponger

@Rob
5 kids
Another one sponging of the state.
You want and have kids then you shouldn't expect single people to support you.
25/07/10 Rob benefit sponger
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Rob

Rob

Well..I have 5 kids and the benefits go up with each child......It's great....I'm not moaning about anything.... The original griper seems a stuck up cow to me.
20/07/10 Rob
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windy miller

windy miller

Could not agree more, I am sick of listening to parents going on about there so called responsibilties! If they did'nt want the hassel then they should have thought about having kids before they did.
08/07/10 windy miller
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jonesy

jonesy

Yes, you do have huge responsibilities ; the same ones that everyone else has to reduce our population. Every problem that the world faces from oil to food to clean water will made immeasurably worse if our numbers keep growing.

Please don't say that it is only poor countries who are adding to the population explosion - each individual is responsible for their own actions.

If every woman had four children then the population of our small country would make life intolerable here. Thank god not everyone is as irresponsible as you are.
02/04/10 jonesy
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Jo

Jo

I have huge responsibilities as a mother of four, however that state brings so many other benefits, social, mental and emotional that single friends will never have, and would like despite those heavy responsibillities. Those friends are not fulfilled in the same way, and find their demanding jobs harder because they don't have the 'balance of life'. My single friends have not been fortunate enough to experience what I have, often through no fault of their own. They 'go through the motions' of a social life to stay a bit sane, but at 40, 45 and 50, clubs are not what it's about. They deal with the knowledge of growing older without 'continuity' of children, some extra help-if they're lucky when they're older, being able to have 'family conversations' with other adults. The odd moan helps them deal with pressures that you or I won't experience. As the saying goes 'The grass is greener on the other side', for those with and without children.
02/04/10 Jo
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saz1

saz1

Your own washing and ironing - wow, you must be so proud, I do 4 lots of washing and ironing, work full time, etc....get a grip and stop complaining. At the end of the day you haven't got the responsibility that parents have.
28/03/10 saz1
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angry at you

angry at you

well no, she sounds like a bit of a c*** I see your point in that circumstance
27/01/10 angry at you
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angry at you as well..

angry at you as well..

Angry at you, so a dad comes home from work and finds out his wife has took flight with his three kids and moved in with a new daddy and the only answer people like you can come up with is the old wear a condom statement
27/01/10 angry at you as well..
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angry at you

angry at you

or move to a different country if you dont like our government. lets send you bitter twisted people off onto a boat into the direction of the bermuda triangle
27/01/10 angry at you
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angry at you

angry at you

why do men moan on and on on this subject (below) if you dont wanna get caught out, use a condom and make sure the woman is on the pill. if you dont you are just as guilty so accept youre also at fault and pay up! it takes two to tango!

and the below comment is ridiculous. I know lots of mums who were well miffed that they couldnt go to work coz schools were closed, and they had no option but to stay at home and look after their kids. thats just how life is when you have kids. what everyone is failing to remember on these boards is that we were all kids once! if someone wants to have kids its their right and choice, stop moaning!
27/01/10 angry at you
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