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I am a 21 year old student and I am 5 months pregnant. I was with my partner for two and half years and we have recently split up due to family pressures. He comes from a wealthy family and I am tired of feeling that I am constantly battling against his mum.
He has never really held a job down for longer than a few weeks in his entire life and as his mum pays him between 350 and 500 a week, he spends his life just bumming around and taking drugs. His mum has been trying to pay him to stay away from me for a while and now she has finally won.
My problem is that I am soon to have his baby and they are both telling me that they want nothing to do with the child and will not pay any kind of child support.
Although I am not after their money, it would be helpful to receive some kind of financial and it's not as if it doing so would leave them broke. It's not for me, it's for their own flesh and blood! When I say wealthy I mean they must have over a million in the bank, what is 50 a week towards helping give our child some sort of life?l w59
Although financial support would be helpful, I will manage without it if necessary. The thing I can't understand is how anyone can completely deny the existence of their own child or grandchild. My baby has done nothing wrong and I cannot deal with knowing I am about to bring a baby into the world without a dad. I believe that it is important for a child to have some sort of contact with their biological father.
I am truly sorry I ever got involved with these people and they have certainly taught me that MONEY is indeed the route of all evil. I also now really understand how important family is.
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The father's relatives (including his mother) have no liability.
This is, of course, assuming the father is over 18.
As I currently cannot access the previous comments (would someone else tell me if they can please, or is it something for Kenny to sort out?) I cannot now find out if I have said anything before on this particular gripe, or exactly what Sarah said that I agreed with!
Anyway, until you become site administrator, Tinks, I don't think it's up to you to admonish others for leaving comments; and your definition of bullying is way off the mark. In my opinion, of course.
Just for the record, not having a baby in Anonymous' position was serious advice, meant for others thinking of getting themselves into her position.
This site is doomed!
Returning to the gripe, he sounds like a spoilt little mummys boy and your better off without them! His mother sounds like a snob, as though she is ashamed that her son has got a woman pregnant on such weak groundings. If that is the case I would openly name ans shame the pair of them to society for the liw life that they are. The father is dodging his responcabilities and so you should contact the csa imediatly after the child is born. He may not be working now but he will have to at some point and when the csa catch up with him, he and his mother will eat thier words!
The OP needs the money to subsidise the baby; she will not spend the money on herself. She has clearly written that both (the son and mother) are denying this child and that both are refusing to pay which is, of course, illegal. Nowhere has she blamed the mother for the pregnancy.
As you wrote, the OP has responsibility for her child. Therefore this man(haha)'s mother should be responsible for her son. His mother should be telling him what an irresponsible and selfish prat he is being; she should not be supporting him in his decision or even recommending it. A baby takes two to make and it should take two to raise, but failing that then it should be two to support. No? Is that so hideously unjust to you, Granny G? Is the man blameless for the baby? Did she trick him into having sex?! Should he deny his child? Is this man's mother morally right in refusing her grandchild? Do you think men should just skip off away from their children and leave the women to cope alone? Is that the world you want to live in? I hope you're a troll.
To the OP, it's been a while since you posted so I hope this has been resolved amicably. Whatever the outcome, I wish you and your baby a very, very, very happy future. Take care xx
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