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Jealous ex-wives use kids as pawns

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I find it unbelievable how women who are mothers of children can think it is OK to use their kids as pawns to try and 'get back' at their ex husband - as well as numerous other pain in the ass tactics to destroy his life.  Simply because he has the audacity to be happy without her (and she led him a dog's life for years)!

I know of numerous cases where the guy has done nothing wrong but funnily enough, as soon as he finds a new woman - the ex-wife rears her evil head and decides to wreak havoc with his life and that of his new partner.  Sad, childish, jealous and living in the past, these sad spongers will not let go.

Although I realise that a) not all women are like this and b) not all men treat their exes properly (and perhaps deserve some repercussions), in the case I am living through the ex-husband (my boyfriend) has tried to be the adult, been responsible and maintained the situation to his detriment.

Relationships, evil ex-wives use kids as pawns Meanwhile the evil ex-wife has sat on her backside and done nothing constructive to help.  She whinges and is disruptive (basically downright evil) at every opportunity and has never once been grateful that her ex-husband works his butt off to keep a roof over her and the kids' heads.

Of course she has never contributed a penny towards this, but will no doubt get a large proportion of the divorce settlement.

Is it right in a situation like this that she:

  1. Has a very wealthy boyfriend that she won't officially admit to (well isn't that convenient?)
  2. Has alienated various member of ex-husband's family from him - just to be spiteful
  3. Caused a major rift in his family
  4. Lies at every opportunity but accuses him of doing so (which he hasn't!)
  5. Makes every excuse to not work full time when there is no good reason why she can't
  6. Refuses to be adult or co-operate about the divorce or arrangements for the kids
  7. Threatens court at every opportunity, which is totally unwarranted
  8. Has gained unauthorised access to our home in the past (the kids let her in)
  9. Has hacked into email accounts
  10. Is generally a giant pain in the rear

Why can't these sad individuals realise that just because they hate themselves and have serious unresolved mental issues - they don't have to screw up everyone else's lives (including their own kids) just to feel better.  I pity this sad individual.  Is anyone else going through / lived through this?  We can't be the only ones!


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CashCow

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Just add has totally defamed and slandered us on FaceBook (we only just recently found this out as surprise surprise she has us blocked) then I am living the same nightmare.
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12th Mar 16 17:42

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Bunny

Bunny

Sounds like my situation, but, given, a little more extreme. My boyfriend's ex wife has been making his life miserable since before he filed for divorce, they've been separated for a year and a half now... He and I have been together for six months, and we're how selfishpicking up the pieces of get ruining his credit, from the bill money she spent on herself, her cleaning out the joint account every month the night before bills were due, etc. He tried to make it work, but she revised, so he filed for divorce.

She has two sons, neither of which my bf is the biological father to, but since he is a good man, he adopted the youngest, and has treated both as his own. He still helps both boys, and regularly gets "his" son for every weekend during the summer(with few exceptions) and every other weekend now that school has started.

The ex in question is so obsessive to the point of logging into the child's Facebook to share my statists (I'm not on his friends list, but I'm guessing she can share them if they are set to public. Them deleting the statuses that she feels are about her( they are not, but I suppose when you are narcissistic, everything is about you), then deletes my bf and ALL of his family from the child's account, and told the child (he told my bf this on Sunday) that she deleted his dad and family "because of something his girlfriend did".

I do not have children of my own (health issues caused me to have to terminate a pregnancy years ago), but I don't feel that her mentally and emotionally hurting the child by punishing the child for something he had no involvement with is right.

Apparently, the status in question came shortly after her telling the child to ask my bf to buy him school supplies, after the 700+ that she receives monthly for the child, plus spousal support (since he filed and she refused to sign the papers), she works part time, has her new bf living with her, AND she gets child support from her other son's father. She has gone on vacations, gone to concerts, etc and so forth, but now she cannot afford school supplies?

My post was a generalized one about dead beat mothers that I have personally seen in this area, and other people that commented had too, but his ex that feels the need to obsess over me, when she and I have never even met, took it to heart and shared it on her 11 year old child's page.

I've never interacted with this woman, and had planned to keep it that way, unless necessary, but now she has involved me in such a cowardly way that I am livid. Not only because she drug me into things, but she did it via the child's Facebook. Her behaviour is disgusting and selfish.
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12th Sep 14 20:45

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Champ

Champ

Yep it happens on the time. Ex wife acts like Saint Helena but is actually the devil. She uses the kids and hurts them just to hurt me. She is a horrible human being. And the boil on the butt of humanity. I have given up and don't even try to take her to court and hire lawyers and attorneys. Waste of money. It's like swimming through a swamp in Louisiana, your gonna get eaten alive by a gator. Ex wife is jealous of new wife.
And she has no job, so she has time to make up lies 24/7. She is stalking me at my work. Sending me text every single day. She ended the marriage so why is she still bothering me. Please heifer move on! Her own mother hates her. She accused her step father who is a good man of molesting her because he would give her more money. She is 48 years old and still asking everyone for a dollar cause her pitiful ex husband won't pay child support. Ha! I pay $3500 monthly + doctor bill, braces, private school, clothes, social stuff. Everything. I will not Sugar coat it - the ex wife is so evil. I think she may be lucifer herself. Shreve has no conscious or morals and no remorse. I wish she would leave me alone. I hate her. I would buy her a one way ticket to anywhere she would like. And take her to air Port, if she would leave and never return
Champ
6th Aug 14 17:32

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taylor

taylor

So this is not a usual place that I would go to but I am at the end of how to deal. My partner and I have gone though 4 years of hell now. She had an affair... She then left him....(she is now with the man that she had the affair with) he pays her 1400.00 a month child support (which is going up again) He is diligently every year his wage goes up increasing the child support based on the BC guidelines, and paying the back support from the January to when the new tax assessment comes out. 16000.00 later for court to get joint custody, she primary and he only having children 40% of time...and then they are suppose to share equally all holidays. He has to fight for her to give him a draft of how the holidays are going to look (beg for changes to accomodate anything) This is suppose to be a mutual communication but it never is..we now are at the end of June and still no schedule so we have not been able to make any holiday arrangements....(I have two children of my own. Their father and I have had our schedules worked out for months)...Her boyfriend keeps calling and attacking us of every email/text that my partner sends as they take every as an attack even when its just my partner asking for something simple as "hey do you have that schedule ready?" or " whats the chances of you taking time to sit down and see that the figures for the child support is now caught up from the new increase"

We are now, my partner and I are now seeing a conflict counselor as we are so distressed by taking her boyfriends calls and continually being attacked. this is not healthy for the children, for us or even for the ex-wife and her boyfriend. They actually blame my partner for them having an affair......not sure how that works..

I would appreciate any input ......I have been threatened verbally attacked accused of doing things I haven't...I am afraid to be around them without a witness, he either, or to have a conversation that is not by text, email or recorded. What can we do?
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27th Jun 14 22:33

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Karby

Karby

OMg your situation is exactly like mine. My husband and his ex wife have been divorced for over 8 years. Separated longer than that, she has been remarried to the man she was screwing for 7 years. Yet she feels the need to text my husband everyday just to bother him. She will text him about who he should hire at HIS BUSINESS. When she doesn't even work. She send him text to tell him what a crap dad he is. He pays her over $3500 monthly. Still that's not enough for this greedy, cheating, lying woman. She always needs more. She has interfered on our relationship. She has spread lies about me to the children's school. She has even talked bad about my young child I have from a previous marriage. Who brings children in to their adult bullshit?? And bashes a child who has nothing to do with her or her life. My husband has totally quit communicating with her. And rarely responds to the crazy text messages he gets daily. Yet she hasn't got the hint yet that he is done and the more problems she causes the less my husband (her ex) will do. If she makes getting the kids hards he goes thru the kids now that they are older. And refuses to talk to her. Every interaction is a crazy dramatic one. So he has just quit responding. The children who are 13 and 16 are more mature than their crazy mom. So we communicate thru them. I know this jealous insecure older woman will never leave us alone. But it doesn't bother me. She use to stress me out until I realized everyone in our community hates her. Because she has pissed about everyone off. She has made life stressful and even miserable at times. But that shows me how miserable and pathetic she is and how much she must hate her life now. Since she causes so much problems in ours. But she can't control me or my husband. We see right thru her evil ass
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3rd Jun 14 12:15

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christa

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I'm currently going through this. My boyfriend and his ex wife have been legally separated for a year and now started the divorce. They have 2 girls together. A 5 year old and 3 years. I also have a 3 year old. They did counseling for 2 years before the final event when he moved out. One thing I respected most about this man is he never had a bad thing to say about his ex wife. He always said she is a great friend and mother but wasn't a good wife. There was no intimacy, no affection, no appreciation he was put on the back burner and basically forgotten about. Well when she found out about us hell hit the fan. She was bad mouthing me to everyone. ( we have mutual friends). Saying I was a home wrecker.. I like sleeping with married men.. I'm just trying to find a daddy for my daughter. I let it go. I never said anything back. Well she won't let him see the kids unless it's at her house and I'm not allowed to come. The kids aren't allowed here because of me. My heart hurts because he just wants to see his babies and if I'm in the picture that's not ok.
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31st Jan 14 22:38

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lisabyer

lisabyer

The children really is where you heart goes out to? Look parent alienation syndrome is real and while is does hurt everyone the hardest impact is on fathers. We and the systen are designed to screw over, work the system while destroying the NCP. CSE is our skies partner since they ate pound feeders just like the courts, judges, lawyers, child support enforcement and yes your ex wife.

Want to change the system? Freedom has a price so do something to change it from the way it is to the way it should be. Live free or die! You chose.
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15th Jan 14 01:48

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Linds

Linds

My heart breaks to read this, mainly for the children, but also for the 'normal' adults who's lives are being messed with by a lunatic. I have been with my BF for a year, we moved in together 4 months ago and since then his ex has turned up the heat! She is always demanding money (he pays her very well), she then took him to CSA and has lost out on money and time - we now have access every other weekend. This is not enough for her, she turned up at our door with 10 yr old ss and spoke of very adult and inappropriate things in front of him. I had to intervene and challenged her on why she would do this - I had a load of abuse back and she even said you are living with my husband! (they have been separated for 4 years). She told him he wont see his son any more and left, she then knocked again demanding he go to the car with her and speak to his son. I advised him not to, as she had done the damage and he shouldn't have to pander. I told her to leave and shut and locked the door - then the abusive texts came. My bf showed very little response where as I was annoyed! My ss just visited for the weekend following all of this and he was letting me know that he doesn't like me (he is bright enough to make the comments and get his message over). I really resented him for the first time ever, and I feel this will get worse. I find it quite alarming that a child can be used in such a way, and this will cause him some emotional issues. (he is already a very angry little boy). I am starting to feel it is not worth a fight, I have a 17 yr old of my own and we may be better off without all this stress. I know this situation will get worse before it gets better and I don't have the energy or desire to take on the fight. I am feeling there may be a better life for me than this.
Linds
18th Dec 13 10:57

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CELESTE

CELESTE

I am also going through a very similar if not identical situation. I am the standing witness aka the girlfriend, and I have seen everything from physical abuse towards my boyfriend to the children repeating everything that is being said to them at her house. She has even attempted to brainwash the youngest into believing his last name is something other than his fathers. And has also repeated things such as "well my mom says that you can't see me anymore" because this child is 4 years old, it absolutely breaks my heart to see such behavior as a result of his angry and jealous mother. The worst part of it all, is she is one of the most self righteous people you would have ever met. So attempting to talk and be kind is not even an option. I have to say, reading this did bring some comfort, although the situation is unfortunate, it helps to read other people's experiences and how they are trying to resolve it. These childish games are indeed growing old, and it's beyond sad that the children are innocent beings having to witness such negativity.
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29th Nov 13 23:27

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