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I was married 14 years and am now officially divorced. When we initially separated we came to a verbal arrangement for me to give a fixed amount towards my daughters upkeep as she still lives with her mother in the family home whereas I moved out.
After about six weeks of this arrangement I received a letter from the CSA demanding 15% of my weekly wage which amounts to £140 a month. My monthly wage is only around £800 so it's still a fair chunk.
I now have £14 to live on for the month...
I had a bad month recently and missed a payment, so now the CSA have taken £350 off me today and will take another £350 off me on the 10th August!! I now have £14 to live on for the month after paying my rent. How can they be allowed to operate like this, taking money from you whenever they please with no warning?
My ex wife gets every benefit going and she works as I do, however I get nothing as I earn 14k a year and have been told by the Tax credit people I earn too much to qualify! I earn £9.08 an hour and I feel like jacking the job in in and going on the dole because I'd probably be better off.
I see my daughter twice a week as I am a shift worker and I've ALWAYS given maintenance money for her in some shape or form. The CSA will not listen to me and I basically feel like I've been found guilty without a fair trial. I always thought you were innocent until proven guilty in England? This madness that is the CSA must be stopped immediately as they are basically stealing money from responsible dads and they answer to no one as they are government backed... I am in a very bad place at the moment as not able to pay my way... totally at my wits end!
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One of which I have always provided for and the other I have been told to never contact as I'm as far as the mother is concerned not her father.
I work 6 days a week to be able to afford the rent and usual bills that every man should be expected to pay.
In no way do I dispute that I am responsible for the financial upkeep of my children.
I earn 3.000 per month, my rent is 1300. Per month.
After csa I'm left with £64.00 p.m to live on.
I have a car but cannot afford to tax and insure it to make the effort to see my children.
Please let me know if you too are having your back side ripped out too.











If anyone has advice on claiming back the five years without maintenance through the civil court process please post a comment

As a Father, if i had full time care I WOULD ONLY ASK MY EXS FOR HELP IF I NEEDED IT. A lot of the stories I hear from guys in work leads me to believe the majority of women have no pride. These 'women' bang on about how great a Mother they are but fob their kids off to whoever and go out on the p***, eat out all the time, take drugs, smoke etc etc. All i do is stress, go to work, stress there, then back home to stress some more. I am lucky if i can afford 1 night out a month at a cheap pub never mind nightclub. I have quit smoking too and the weekly treat of a takeaway has been scrapped as well.
I wouldnt cash in on the biast law and rub it in their faces I can get a house and all bills paid on benefits, drive a sporty car and wear nice clothes without a care in the world!!
The majority of women out there should come out from behind their kids and stop hiding. I have MAJOR respect for the women who work and have full time care, or the ones that have the men just walk out on them and their kid(s) But the women cant keep the good men and fathers on a lead and torture them. Truth is, women have all the power and the law allows then this luxury. Like CSA doesnt take into account all the court dealings where I have to pay FULL court fees while my ex (and recent one will too) get full legal aid and dont pay a penny??? My court fees are the same monthly as my CSA. CSA should look into more detail of the payee's financial state before pushing them to the edge of the abyss.
I dread checking my bank balance while my ex's laugh all the way to the back.
it is just wrong!! RANT OVER

J35