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Has anyone else noticed that when you drop your kids off at school some of the mums are actually more childish than their children?
Thankfully my son has just started at his secondary school, so he gets the bus and I no longer have to speak to some of these women any more.
When I first had my son I thought mistakenly that there might be a common bond between mothers, after all, didn't the likes of Germain Greer struggle for the sisterhood and the cause of all women? Apparently many mums seem to be intent on getting one over on other mums. How big is your house? What do you do? What does your husband do? What car do you drive?
And then there is the tedious perpetual competition to see who can force their child in to the most after school activities, never mind the fact that when I was a nipper you did 1 maybe 2 after school activities a week, and the rest of your time you had to use your imagination to entertain yourself. That seemed to be OK back then, now you have this "helicopter parenting".
There is nothing wrong with wanting the best for your offspring, but this borders on the obsessive. I can think of a couple of people like this who I have had the misfortune to deal with. They seem like deeply unhappy, catty and unpleasant people, and all I can think is that their own lives are so empty and devoid of meaning they must now live vicariously through their children.
Of course their children are perfect and they seem to relish the chance to pounce on you in the playground to tell you what your child has said to theirs. And of course their parenting is perfect, and you are some sort of sad social deviant and/or child abuser - never mind their own short comings!
I moved to a new area and found myself subject to what I can only call bullying and by grown women. What makes me laugh is the worst of them was forever starting rumours about us. Yes, my son can sometimes be naughty, he is an 11 year old boy, frankly I would be worried if this wasn't the case.
However, I am not happy about women with two obese children thinking it is OK to pass judgement on my morals and parenting! Maybe she should concentrate more on her own family and think about cooking some healthy meals before she starts trying to make other people miserable. And before anyone says it could be a medical condition, we all know that this is very rare and mostly, overweight people simply eat too much of the wrong foods.
Unfortunately I still see her with her younger son as I live next door to the middle school. She seems to be there all the time. I am convinced she was nothing better to do than gossip with people and linger about like the wicked witch of the west. I even see her staring at me when I go out in my garden! Well, I now think I will let her stare and gossip. I am now starting to build a new career for myself, I am renovating my beautiful cottage, I have a lovely partner and I am around to help my son with his homework etc.
I march to the beat of my own drum, have my own values, I even do voluntary work for a local charity one day a week. I am not going to get involved in gossip because I have to many cool things going on in my life. I also have my own share of problems and I am above playing mind games. Why should I let this horrid person upset me?
I honestly tried to be polite, respectful and courteous to all the parents as well as their children at that school. It would seem that being an outsider I transgressed their unwritten rules and got the cold shoulder. I am not perfect, my family is not perfect, but we try our best and I try to bring my son up to be a good person. I act appropriately when he is rude, disrespectful etc. Did this happen because I am a raging eccentric? Is it just me or is this happening to other mums? I am still trying to work out how I managed to offend these people.
Thanks, I just had to get this out of my system.