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Has anyone else noticed that when you drop your kids off at school some of the mums are actually more childish than their children?
Thankfully my son has just started at his secondary school, so he gets the bus and I no longer have to speak to some of these women any more.
When I first had my son I thought mistakenly that there might be a common bond between mothers, after all, didn't the likes of Germain Greer struggle for the sisterhood and the cause of all women? Apparently many mums seem to be intent on getting one over on other mums. How big is your house? What do you do? What does your husband do? What car do you drive?
And then there is the tedious perpetual competition to see who can force their child in to the most after school activities, never mind the fact that when I was a nipper you did 1 maybe 2 after school activities a week, and the rest of your time you had to use your imagination to entertain yourself. That seemed to be OK back then, now you have this "helicopter parenting".
There is nothing wrong with wanting the best for your offspring, but this borders on the obsessive. I can think of a couple of people like this who I have had the misfortune to deal with. They seem like deeply unhappy, catty and unpleasant people, and all I can think is that their own lives are so empty and devoid of meaning they must now live vicariously through their children.
Of course their children are perfect and they seem to relish the chance to pounce on you in the playground to tell you what your child has said to theirs. And of course their parenting is perfect, and you are some sort of sad social deviant and/or child abuser - never mind their own short comings!
I moved to a new area and found myself subject to what I can only call bullying and by grown women. What makes me laugh is the worst of them was forever starting rumours about us. Yes, my son can sometimes be naughty, he is an 11 year old boy, frankly I would be worried if this wasn't the case.
However, I am not happy about women with two obese children thinking it is OK to pass judgement on my morals and parenting! Maybe she should concentrate more on her own family and think about cooking some healthy meals before she starts trying to make other people miserable. And before anyone says it could be a medical condition, we all know that this is very rare and mostly, overweight people simply eat too much of the wrong foods.
Unfortunately I still see her with her younger son as I live next door to the middle school. She seems to be there all the time. I am convinced she was nothing better to do than gossip with people and linger about like the wicked witch of the west. I even see her staring at me when I go out in my garden! Well, I now think I will let her stare and gossip. I am now starting to build a new career for myself, I am renovating my beautiful cottage, I have a lovely partner and I am around to help my son with his homework etc.
I march to the beat of my own drum, have my own values, I even do voluntary work for a local charity one day a week. I am not going to get involved in gossip because I have to many cool things going on in my life. I also have my own share of problems and I am above playing mind games. Why should I let this horrid person upset me?
I honestly tried to be polite, respectful and courteous to all the parents as well as their children at that school. It would seem that being an outsider I transgressed their unwritten rules and got the cold shoulder. I am not perfect, my family is not perfect, but we try our best and I try to bring my son up to be a good person. I act appropriately when he is rude, disrespectful etc. Did this happen because I am a raging eccentric? Is it just me or is this happening to other mums? I am still trying to work out how I managed to offend these people.
Thanks, I just had to get this out of my system.
By: Bexter
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This Post has to be the best. I take my hat off to Horny Harry that posted it, says it all about the UK school gate mums.
After being arrested banned from the school play ground
My delightful ex wife took me to court for custardy off our daughter who had chosen to stay with me.
And the court gave me custardy
That was 3 years ago and some parents still ignore me cant these stupid narrow minded parents see i was innocent
That's the best comment I've read here for a long time. Well said!
Its nice to know I am not alone. I am really tired of the immaturity and jealousy I face everyday....it got so bad....I wanted to pull my kids out of this private school.....however my mother said I shouldn't runaway from this situation as it would not be a good lesson to for my kids. So I am still here....I face this nonsense everyday....but I am getting strong and don't let it get me down....whatever jealousy issues these women have thats their problem. (they hate the fact I work as a model for qvc....so you are going to sideline me because you don't like my job?) Thats immature.
... pleaded 'DebKC', whilst asserting.....
"Some of them are Doctors and Nurses or the wives of Doctors and I just feel they should know better."
This s, of course, quite wrong but I am afraid a common misconception.
Choice of employment bears little relationship to breeding, good manners and so forth and being married to someone and thus attempting to obtain some tenuous form of social status even less so.
Do not attempt to curry favour with these people.
I became quite down just before my second sons birth due to nasty comments about my first son and his behaviour. It feels that it is ok for them to complain about my son but not for me to do likewise. They all seem to be very obsessed with status. I am not now very good at being sociable, except with the few women I talk to,due to their ignorant behaviour.
From my own perspective - if someone had gone from being very friendly with lots of people to becoming very withdrawn I would probably think that they were perhaps having problems but these women don't seem to give other peoples feelings a second thought. It is just so frustrating. I am now on anti-depressants and starting to feel a little brighter but these women are really not helping. Some of them are Doctors and Nurses or the wives of Doctors and I just feel they should know better.
I can't go through the next 10yrs being ignored because of my slight depression. Please give me some feedback on being able to interact and be acknowledged again by these women as it has already started to have a knockon effect on my older son.
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