My children live with their father

You ate not a bad Mom. I was abused by my Husband for years. I left him and took the kids with me to move to another city about 45 minutes away. After having nothing to do with them for about three years he comes out of now where acting like father of the year. I had at this point moved again in the same city to help my Mom and my Grandmother, and save to buy a house near them. I was in a much better place. So he had us going back to court three days after my Birthday for custody. I ended up getting weekends because the weekend before court which was on that Monday. On Friday my Grandmother was acting strange and started yelling and fell. She ran to her room and would not allow us to help her. She then left in a rage and we tried to stop her from driving. She went to the hospital and told them we had beaten her. Mind you my Mom was a nurse in an alzheimers ward for many years. There was no evidence and her story changed three times when the cops talked to her in the hospital so I packed everything and moved into a motel. I had no choice I thought I was doing the right thing by allowing my boys to stay with their Dad for a bit. Now they hate it. They cry when they have to go back and it is so expensive. I am almost broke trying to get them back.

So true. My kids dad, refused me to move to a bigger ton, where I was working, with my kids, and it affected my work, also as a foreigner in their dad's country, it was difficult for me to get child benefits so we swapped. I have my kids weekends and holidays though. But he loves putting me down and ridicules me in front of our kids :(

no it does not make you a bad mum I left my 4 children in the family home when I left their dad at the time I put my children first before my own needs I had no job as I had been a full time mum since they were born and had no money of my own home once I got a home and job their dad wouldn't let me see them I had to take him to court which took months and a great deal of money and heart ach he made out I was a unfit mother which I was not the courts seen him as the perfect parent for my children to live with and I could see them every other weekend three of my children are over 18 now but my other son is 13 my ex has done so much harm in the way he always has controlled them and now does the same with my younger son I always told my children they can live with me as the way he is with them and his new wife bulling and both controlling in every way my concerns just get ignored by their dad he finds it all funny but I am now getting legal advice again and social worker to try and help this isn't a game or power just my love for my children but my children will not speak out about this to save themselves and to have a happy life with me I just cant understand why my children wont help themselves its like they live in fear and worry and they think this is normal behaviour from their dad I only want them to be happy and not to be children I will carry on and if it all goes against me and my children wont speak out at lease I have given it one more go to save what little childhood they have left as how the parents bring their children up and give them all the love and support they need to grow in to men but with the way their dad is I worry this will be the way they think the childhood was normal if I could turn the clock back I would I never left them in the family home thinking that their dad would put their needs first and then started controlling them cause he no longer do that with me the choice I made will be with me to the end and I just cant understand how any parent could put their children through this for their own gains

I don't know why your situation is like this and i wish only the best for the kids.... i am in a situation that is pulling me apart. .. i don't know what to do ... but its a dark place... the simple truth is I don't love the father anymore... i actually stopped loving him a week after i got pregnant with our first child... we had tried for 7yrs.... it took its toll plus other factors got in the way.... it's quite a story... actually it would be a great movie... i hope with a happy ending... i had another child with him as i believe and i am a bit old fashioned that a family is family... but i am in a whole which i have dug myself..... he is enpowering and sometimes i sm a bit loosed tongued... but i love my kids with all my heart, i would die for them. ... but i stay together with their dad without love.... what do i do..... i feel a prisoner.... he's a great dad and more steady than i am. ... i am fucked which ever way i take. .. i want to hsve my kids but without him living in the same house as me.... he is clevervand very cunning... but believe me bhe is no fucking angel.... whst do i do..
Please x god bless sny suggestions x

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Honest folks Becky Voodoo was the last post. Well in admin, a finger on the pulse is important.

Just in from the Monkey. Beckys crap was the last post but the way this site is set up it is the first one you read. Sarah sounds sensible. I do not know what Joe posted but he is dead right . How can admin expect any cred when they print voodoo & posts with my handle? admin knows & by virtue of their ability to pick & choose, opt to be a gozzy big brother.

My name is Sarah Langan and I am working on a new series for BBC Radio 4 called Shared Experience, presented by Fi Glover. The idea of the programme is to record an informal discussion with Fi and a group of people about their shared experience.
For one of the editions, we would like to hear from mothers who, for whatever reason, have chosen to leave their children. We appreciate that this is a very sensitive issue, and I would like to assure you that we have a completely non -judgmental approach. We are looking for people who would be willing to share their stories.
If you think you might be interested, perhaps you could email me and we can arrange a time to have a chat? My email address is sarah.langan@bbc.co.uk

Why Kenny(site admin), did you remove my post(which fair enough was a bit silly), and leave all this voodoo on?

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You went through hell ? What about your kids when you left them with their father ?
How any mother could walk away from their kids I will never understand.
Isn't about what is best for the kids' interests ? When you had your children wasn't
that a lifetime commitment to them ? Regardless of any situation. If you had have truly wanted to remain in your kids' lives and
leave your ex partner there is always a way to take them with you. You cannot justify your actions
in hindsight, who was there to help and support the kids when they came home after school, no mother. I believe you did what was best for you at the time without the strength or foresight to consider the children will grow into adults and they will remember and will make their own conclusions about you as their mother. There is no right or wrong answer, it is always easy to make judgments or justifications. Your decision is something you will have to live with.

I am so happy I am not alone. My ex has my daughter and has since she was 3. She will be turning 6 this year and I feel that I am losing her. I decided that I wasn't able to raise her since I was having daily headaches for the past 2 years and that a 3 year old doesn't and shouldn't live in a home where I needed quiet all the time. My ex and I were good until he brought home his new girlfriend. Then after the divorce they married. in the beginning my daughter was told to call his new wife mommy and then she started calling me by my first name. My heart is broken because of it. For the past almost 2 years my ex has taken time away from me when seeing my daughter and has even taken an entire summer away. I even noticed his new wife's new tattoo of my daughter's name on a dragonfly on her back. Talk about pushing me out of my daughter's life.
I am currently fighting for joint custody and for more time with my daughter to re-bond, but I fear my daughter is already being brainwashed against me. Does anyone know what I should do to try to stay positive in this situation? I literally fear my daughter will think that I abandoned her or is more like a surrogate than a mom to her. I cry a lot still thinking about how I messed up.
My new boyfriend/fiance wants kids and a part of me is afraid to, part of me wants to have a baby but I am not sure if it's because of the need to have that maternal bond reestablished or if I am actually ready to take the next step with my fiance after marriage. By asking this I know I am not ready and I know this, but I need to see if there are others like me, who feel like me. If so, email harleyquinn0904@gmail.com. Thanks.