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I have just started a course as a mature student. To assist me I have a note taker and communication support worker, so people will often see them with me in class and are put off, almost afraid of approaching me.
Its driving me mad. Shall I sit there not knowing what I am doing with no support in class and pretend Im like everyone else and pretend I am not deaf? Surely it makes more sense to follow the work effectively with support? It doesnt mean I am not approachable though.
Okay, thats one issue, but there are people who go to the opposite extreme. They approach you and then talk really slowly stretching the mouth making it more difficult to lip read, either that or they will shout - distorting their lip patterns, again this makes it difficult to lip read. Im deaf you know, not stupid so just talk normally or just a little bit slower. Although you are left feeling like you want to punch them for their ignorance, they are at least trying to communicate.
I just wish people were more deaf aware. Hearings aids do NOT restore perfect hearing, they simply amplify everything, which is a real pain in noisy places.
- Deaf people can enjoy music and its OK to touch me to get my attention. Screaming at me from behind does not work!
- Deaf people can speak. You try just try stopping me and while were at it most deaf can sign too. I didnt till recently though.
- Write things down if I dont get it first time, or just try to re-phrase what you are saying, but dont repeat what you are saying again and again. Its embarrassing having someone shouting the same word at you.
- Please dont get embarrassed if I dont understand you straight away. I am the one who is deaf, not you!
OK, so a quick lesson in deaf awareness over, although to be honest I could go on about various issues faced by deaf people.
For example, the doctors surgeries that call your name by tannoy when you specifically asked receptionist to let you know in person, schools and companies that persistently phone my mobile when I have asked that they txt me, Audiology departments that should know better sending appointments which say If you cant attend, phone us (what about a minicom or email?) and finally rude people who think its funny and clever saying What? What? to me!
Right feel better now - till the next time
By: Flower
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they may not say that but they patronise blind people in other ways such as when a blind person hands over money in a shop the assistant tries to give the change to their companion.
People are also stunned if a blind person with a guide dog gives them directions for how to get somewhere. How do they think a blind person gets around on their own if they cannot give the dog directions? ( I am speaking of an area they are familiar with of course).
I do sympathise as I have a friend who is deaf and know how impatient people can be.
I am deaf completely in my right ear - and all of a sudden I find my left "Good ear" is getting worse.
I'm trying my best to put on a brave face - I'm waiting for some lip reading lessons. I'm getting depressed .....
Be nice to hear from anyone who just wants to chat a bit.
John in Cornwall aged 67
J.Hurkett@btinternet.com
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Have you considered learning British Sign Language and joining your local deaf club? There is a club in most towns and cities.
I think you are wrong, there is no such thing as 'bad publicity' also highlighting that there are those of us who recognise the perennial misconception that deaf people find from others, is a benefit to those in the community that are deaf. Hiding behind political correctness and refusing to tell 'jokes' that are hundreds of years old is not the way forward. The point of my proposed 'campaign' is to examplify that the 'stupid' are those who think that people who don't react to a sudden noise or warning sound are stupid. I'll run this past my chum who has been profoundly deaf since birth, he's heard them all, oops am I not supposed to write that? "I see I see said the blind man but he couldn't see at all". Have a nice day.
I have a number of deaf and also hard of hearing friends and all of them would find your idea of “are you deaf stupid” a really offensive idea. For generations deafness has been linked with the idea of that person being stupid. There are countless “jokes” along those lines that go back two hundred years or more. They are not funny. There are still people who refer to those with a hearing loss as “deaf and dumb”.. with the emphasis being on the “dumb/stupid” idea rather than any reference at all to lack of speech.
Deaf and hard of hearing people have campaigned for years to get away from any such link with “stupidity” in the way that you are proposing. They are more than tired of being shouted out and treated like morons simply because they cannot hear normally.
Your team is right…. This is a very “dumb” idea and demonstrates a very poor understanding of what it is like to be deaf in our society where people are refused jobs and opportunities on a daily basis simply because so many people wrongly view them as stupid purely because of their hearing loss.
It would also be great way to lose a great many customers!!!!
I'm an MD of a company that makes a few 'deaf aids' we make them to make profit. Our main product is a fire door retainer that 'listens' for the fire alarm, from that you will no doubt quickly grasp that a spin-off are fire alarm warning devices for deaf or hard of hearing people.
My marketing team, none of whom are deaf, suffer from OAPC (Over Acute Political Correctness), I want to run some punchy visual ads along the lines of "are you deaf stupid?" they are afraid to do so which I find totally bewildering, deaf people of course have no sense of humour! I did a Google search and found you right at the top. Thanks, I can stuff this up there noses tomorrow. Good Luck
Thank you very much
Me
Sumeda deaf person
I don't expect any special treatment but like everyone else it would be nice to have basic courtesy from colleagues etc.
There is, rightly, legislation in place that means people who are hearing impaired cannot be discriminated against in the workplace but my experience shows otherwise.
I don't know how hearing impaired you are but I wish you all the best. X
Are people embarrassed? Do they find the notion of hearing loss so uncomfortable that they have to smirk behind their hands when they speak to you? Not sure. What I do know for certain is that they are ignorant, ill mannered sh**s. A woman I worked with punched the back of my chair to get my attention, which of course startled me. When I asked why she did this, she said "well, you can hardly hear can you?". I can hear if people speak clearly and don't mumble everything they say (this woman could win championships for muttering). I made an official complaint to my employers which of course got nowhere. This woman acted as if she was the aggrieved party.
So if by chance you read this, mumbler (and you know who you are), Pi** Off.
Mikado