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Busybody neighbour, how do you deal with her?

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I have lived in my flat for about 5 years now and I love it here.  It's right next to two town centres, is in a lovely old maisonette block and most of of my neighbours are great.  Except for one smelly old racist busybody.

From almost the first day I lived there she has picked on me.  Here's just a brief glimpse at her greatest hits.  She has gone through my rubbish (that one still mystifies me, she has accused my dog of crapping in her garden (it's a three legged Bichon Frise and can't get up and down stairs properly so quite how she would have gone down two flights of stairs, over a fence, done the business and come back again is beyond me).

I shouldn't walk around my flat at night...

I've had this old busybody quiz me on why I come and go at so called strange hours.  I have also had her tell me that I shouldn't walk around my flat at night.  What business is it of hers anyway?  All of this pales into insignificance though compared to her actions the other day.

Door handle - the busybody neighbour poking her nose in? My cousins had popped down from London to visit me and after them making a fuss of my dog and having a bite to eat they were waiting outside whilst I sorted the dog out.  This was my neighbours cue to come out of her place and tell them to move as "your sort ain't wanted here, this is England" and "You blacks are always up to no good".

Did I mention my 2 cousins were mixed race and female, and that I was a great big white geezer?  Sorry!

So I came out of my place as my cousins were getting upset.  She took one look at me and said "I should have know you were one of those types, a *****r lover".  I was too dumbstruck to say anything straight away and since then I haven't seen her either.

I can't clump her because she is an old woman, I can;t go to the Old Bill as they'd laugh at me.  There's not a lot my landlord can do as I am a council tenant and she is private.  At least the rest of the neighbours hate her too!

Still, bloody old people eh?

By: Cookie Monster


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collar

collar

To the busybodies of this world.

To the original poster of this gripe.

To all the meddler who cannot leave others alone inside or outside of their houses.

The situation posed by the griper was very dangerous. They are simple and selfishly thinking only of the color of the people's skin and manners they would like to receive in this situation. They have NOT put themselves in the shoes of the original griper. They have not examined the social class difference that might exist between people of color and the person taking the micky. My reference to shopping in the ASDA a day or two ago was to make you think of the social differences that might have cropped up then. My little supermarket story (whilst true) was simply a demonstration of what may come, that are already partially in the making. The one constant in all this is that there is an aspect of institutioalised racism in our society between those who have color and those who do not.

The bigots of this world demand attention. The griper here is plainly aware them.

Collar is sympathetic to his/her plight.
18/08/14 collar
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collar

collar

I agree with you 'Hairyfairy. Although I am by no means a busybody,I do know what your talking about.Some people are just not grateful for having a nice apartment at all,even if you do go out of your way to make things pleasant for them. For example, I was recently in the ASDA's while the place was extremely overcrowded.There was an old lady attempting to stir up bad feeling by going out of her way to upset a rabble of basement bargain hunting shoppers. Therefore, I moved my own self as far out of her way as possible, so as not to get involved and instead of ignoring me,she proceeded to push her nose into my business, and I swear I gave her no reason to. Some people just don't appreciate that others have a more meaningful life and next time I will try shopping in the Waitrose chain of stores as maybe a better class of people?
17/08/14 collar
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hairyfairy

hairyfairy

She sounds like a sad, lonely, pathetic old mare who`s life is so empty that she has nothing better to do than annoy other people who`s lives are more meaningful than hers. don`t worry too much about her, she`ll probably be dead soon.
16/08/14 hairyfairy
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Acai

Acai

I had a neighbour's visitor throw racist abuse at me a couple of weeks ago, while I was in my own garden, across the street away from them. She shouted across and made gestures, then made the racist remark, 'you've got issues because you're ***'. I've tried to find out who owns the properties because they appear to be council and the tenant is responsible for their visitor's behaviour. If the tenant had come to apologise after, I'd have left it there, but she just glares at me now as well (she didn't before). The council and all of the local housing associations say they don't own this house, so I guess she must have bought it.
Now I don't know what I can do. My child and I were really upset by it. I have to fork out for a big fence to put there, that's all.
04/06/13 Acai
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Margs

Margs

What a vile person this is!

Surely the police HAVE to act on a complaint of racist abuse, especially if there are witnesses? And as for all the other appalling stuff I'm sure this must come under the recently instigated law as regards stalking - because that's just what this is.

On the other hand, if you've got the patience you might find that these kind of people usually push things too darn far and then one fine day...................(!)
29/04/13 Margs
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kandl

kandl

Tell her to wind her bloody neck in! Know how u feel. were stuck between 2 old couples both in their 60s and 70s and they drive us mad, moan about everything and anything and i honestly think its just for something to do...in the 4 years we have lived here they have triwd to tell us..
where to put our rabbit hutch ( in our own garden!)
Where to put our wheely bins (in our own garden!)
My kids are not allowed balls of any kind. if they do have them and they so much as HIT their fence on OUR side then we get "no ball games!" shouted over the fence.
one of them watches out the back bedroom window and if theres a sweet wrapper blowing around my garden or my dogs been digging then shes on my doorstep reporting it to me. I dont. care about petty stuff like that so why should she and more to the point wtf has it got to do with hwr? If she doesnt like it she shouldnt bloody look, simples! We are NOT a rowdy family, keep ourselves to ourselves, our kids and. animals are under control and our kids are polite and not crazy like some kids these days.
one of them came wandering into my house one day without even knocking cos some of my post had been delivered to her house. what was wrong with her posting it thru my bloody letterbox??? I was fuming!!! we OCCASIONALLY have our friends over, dont have mad parties, dont play load music so what their problem is i will never know. one of them told me that when u settle down to family life and have kids, you shouldnt have friends!!! My partner told her in no uncertain termsvto get stuffed, its none of your business! If they want something PROPER to moan about then it can easily be sorted. I could always throw a huge garden party in the summer when our gardens finished and get our friend down with his dj stuff. my partner and i have respect for our elders but sometimes they are so OTT its unreal and its hard to bite your tongue at times, it really is. But we dont moan when their families block our drive with their cars or when they decide to start hammering at 10pm at night when our kids are in bed or the fact that one of their husbands keeps us awake cos we can hear him bloody snoring like an elephant through the walls or when one of their grandkids was throwing empty coke bottles in our front garden....
24/03/13 kandl
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hairyfairy

hairyfairy

You don`t say exactly how old she is, but maybe you`ll get lucky & she`ll pop her clogs soon & leave you in peace!
19/03/13 hairyfairy
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ajp

ajp

Make a formal complaint to her landlord (the council) as she has a tenant's agreement and this kind of racist and unreasonable behaviour will be covered by it by law. Keep a diary of times, dates and incidents. Try to talk to the other tenants and see if they have had problems or witnessed anything. Get them to write it down, signed and dated.

She can be evicted if there is enough evidence of anti-social behaviour - but you need the EVIDENCE and from enough sources as possible.
31/10/10 ajp
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Fed up

Fed up

Buy a voice recorder and have it switched on in your pocket whenever you go out that way if she mouths off again you can record it. I would also recconend you diary every single ncident however insignificant you think it might be. When you have some evidence send a community officer to her home. These actions worked wonders for me and now if my horrible neighbour dare say anything and I have her recorded she gets slammed with an ASBO.
13/10/10 Fed up
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Rock climbing hero

Rock climbing hero

This old woman is nasty, bitter and lonely person. She has nothing better to do then to stew in her own mess and then blame others for anything they can find. Hence she is rummaging through your bins, etc. She is miserable and will probably moan about everything and anything and you are an easy target. Some old people can be forgiven because at that age, they can't do anything and hate other. But when it crosses the line where in this case, she is downright nasty, unkind.

Be patient and her time will come when she gets so old she has to go to home.
13/09/10 Rock climbing hero
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Disgruntled

Disgruntled

You can go to the Police and should. You have witnesses and her behaviour was inappropriate, offensive and illegal. Man up and go visit the Plod for heavens sake.
07/09/10 Disgruntled
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anon

anon

Nick is going to help. He's from ITV. Super Nick. He wears his underpants on the outside.
18/08/10 anon
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Nick Cardwell

Nick Cardwell

Hi,

I am a researcher at ITV and would like to try and help you.
If you want to get in contact then please email on nick.cardwell@itv.com.

Take care

Nick
17/08/10 Nick Cardwell
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rifraf

rifraf

I read this with sympathy for you, having had nightmare neighbours like this. And then you spoilt it with yours last line. Is being ageist really much better than being racist?
13/08/10 rifraf
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jk12

jk12

Perhaps a few dozen cockroaches could just "find" their way into her flat.....?
09/08/10 jk12
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