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Auntie Virus spoils mum's birthday

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My mother has been a widow since 1964 and I am her only child.  We have supported each other all these years and continue to do so.

In 2004, it was her 70th birthday and I was planned to treat her so I made arrangements early in the year to ensure it could go ahead.  However, her only sister Anne who has always been a sneaky unreliable individual also wanted to treat her and believed that she should have first say as well as trying to tell me what I should and shouldn’t do.

Anne has always insisted on preferential treatment over others, but then she is someone who has always sponged off the state throughout her adult life and never managed to be independent of financial assistance from the State – a sponger.  She is one of the most unreliable, incompetent, deceptive and selfish members of the family and can only win by cheating.

This auntie, I now call Auntie Virus or Anne T Virus because of various reasons including her tactics which are selfish and she is always spoiling things for others if she does not get her way.  Just like a virus on a computer, hence her nicknames.  I made it clear with Auntie Virus that I had already arranged a surprise for mum.  I would be prepared to cancel it and go along with another plan if we could be in on this together as I saw it as a chance for the family to get together as many of her friends are from the Midlands.  I am not selfish and believe in sharing things.

At first, we agreed to keep it as quiet as possible and to arrange to get mum down to the Midlands to be present at the party without being expectant of anything.  This side I arranged and made mum think we were going out to a meal and a look around the region.  I was waiting for further information from Auntie Virus regarding the venues and costs.

Time was running out and I needed to find out what was going on, so I drove down to the Midlands and telephoned Auntie Virus to ask what was going on saying I wanted to come down and discuss matters.  She said she had the flu (quite appropriate for Auntie Virus isn’t it), so I could not come down because she was too ill.  What she did not know is I was just around the corner and saw her going out with friends and there was no sign of a cold or flu.

Happy Birthday cake With this in mind an hour later I telephoned one of these friends, Paddy and asked to speak to her.  Paddy said, “I will get her for you now”.  After a few moments, he said, “Anne told me to tell you she isn’t here as she has got the flu” and I said, “She is there.  I could hear her telling you to misinform me”.  It just shows how stupid some of her friends are.

Auntie Virus was trying to avoid meeting me because she wanted to have overall say over mum’s birthday.  She used whatever excuses she could not to meet up with me.  She even said that the original venue did not do these functions any more.  I was becoming suspicious of her lies, so I told her I planned on going down and said that I would be staying at a bed and breakfast irrespective of how ill she was.

What she did not realise I was referring to was a few days prior to the weekend of the party and she said she would not be there because she was going away for a week.  This was a new excuse as she could not use being ill any more with me staying somewhere else.  I let mum overhear this part and to my advantage mum decided she did not want to go down to the Midlands for this weekend.  As mum normally stays with Auntie Virus, she was under the impression that Auntie Virus would be away and so did not want to be there on her own.

I then told Auntie Virus that mum did not want to go down to be there for the weekend the party was on and not knowing of the surprise thought there was no reason to go down as nobody would be there to keep her company.  I would keep my side of the agreement and keep the party secret, but now it was up to Auntie Virus to convince mum to go down.  The only way Auntie Virus could do this was to reveal the secret to get mum to change her mind, which she did and was angry at doing this.

She was too stupid to think of something original to claim that she had changed her mind on going away and therefore that she would be there.  Because of this, Auntie Virus tried to hold me responsible for spilling the beans.  Her lies started backfiring on her and her lies were overflowing, even trying to slur my character.  She started making lies up about me to other members of the family and saying I spoilt the whole event to which I told them the full story and most believe that Auntie virus was telling “porkies”.

After this, I made my mother aware of what had been going on and she had no doubt that I tried to do the best for her and it was down to her sneaky sister.  Mum agreed her sister did the dirty and has always been a sneaky type and out of principle does not want to bother with her any more.

The two of them do not talk to each other and mum said she does not want her sister to be present at her funeral.  It looks as if mum has had enough of the sneaky sister of hers and has rejected her.

I have also found out that other friends have started to alienate her for her attitude and sneakiness.  She seems to expect others to treat her better than she does and others have become fed up with her ways. I have given Auntie Virus several chances to come clean and apologise over almost two years now but she will not.

Tough luck then Auntie Virus, you have been found out.  Your dirty tricks have backfired once too often and you are getting your comeuppance.

It is not nice to think of someone in a family like this, but all the sneakiness you have done is unacceptable as well.  I bet in your eyes it is acceptable for you to do this to me but not me to expose the truth of what you have done.  You caused all this and have only yourself to blame. Typical of double standards associated with thickos mentalities that have to be sneaky to win.

By: Midland Mac


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How to say No

How to say No

And how about my prodigal brother, mother's little boy? The mafia wanted to break his legs after one of his shady deals went badly sour and he ended up penniless. Mother gave him 30,000 to clear his "debt". He's already had half the family house before and more besides That's all gone now. Now he wants my share of what's left that was supposed to be for me. No No No more I say!
06/05/11 How to say No
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Murphy Taylor

Murphy Taylor

Anne sounds like a real stand up gal.

Does she have any contact details? Would she be willing to meet an adventurous venezuelen cat? I like long walks,being stroked on my white patch just under my collar, am a smoker and enjoy weekends in wigwams in north east yorkshire.
23/03/10 Murphy Taylor
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Mr Hicks

Mr Hicks

Grumpyoldwoman,ok,yes I was new to this site about three weeks ago and at first went through the comments Listings to comment.From now on I promise to limit myself to three comments per day,but could you please,please do the same.I want to hear what other people have to say and not have to see you comment after every time somebody else has made a comment.Someone called Ian Parsons made a comment today which"put my back"up believe it or not.I went to the subject to chew him out,but lo and behold,you had got in there first!!could you please just take more of a back seat and Let other people have there say.It just is not fair that one person should hog the comments Listing.Once again I sincerely promise to Limit myself to three comments per day if you agree to the same.
17/07/09 Mr Hicks
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grumpyoldwoman

grumpyoldwoman

Oh tiresome Hicks, since you apparently no longer wish me to leave you alone; have you or have you not posted 15 or 20 comments at a time in the space of an apparently sleepless night?

Don't expect me to "quote" them all; I'm sure I'm not the only person to open the comments page in a morning and see that you have had a busy night!
17/07/09 grumpyoldwoman
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Mr Hicks

Mr Hicks

I swear to god I am not "having a go a you".It"s that"s your just so phenomenally ubiquitous on this site.I think today you have made a dozen comments on this day alone grumpyoldwomen.When a breaktime comes around I log in and it"s you,you,you.It"s as though an elderly Lady has decided to take us under her wing and is going to keep an eye on the "youngsters".What"s so wrong with somebody saying something a bit "controversial" or somthing that deviates slightly from excepted gripe site norms?If only you could Limit yourself to two or three Comments per day and Let other people contribute a little more diversity of opinion.
17/07/09 Mr Hicks
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grumpyoldwoman

grumpyoldwoman

It's also very strange how someone can accuse you of stalking them and beg you to leave them alone; and when you do they suddenly start talking to you again! (Only to accuse you of a sin of which they are patently guilty themself!)
17/07/09 grumpyoldwoman
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grumpyoldwoman

grumpyoldwoman

It's funny how you can think someone is a perfectly normal human being for quite a while and then things start to get a bit strange and creepy, and eventually you realise they should really be locked up because they aren't normal at all; isn't it?
15/07/09 grumpyoldwoman
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Spoken from a wounded heart

Spoken from a wounded heart

My forty eight year old son works part time as a chairman for association of independent competitive eating and sometimes participates in the contests too. The office is in Lynbrook, new york.

My gripe is he is underhandedly making vicious, hacking remarks behind my back. Since he is in the eye of the public, this is treacherous to my name. I know this information is true as I do a lot of surfing on my computer and get the lowdown on all his events.

I have tried unrelentingly to talk to him, but all forms of communication are purposely unavailable. That includes his office in Lynbrook, new york!

His conduct to me is hurtful beyond words, due to my very deep love for him.

I"m seventy one years of age and hope he will hug be before my number is up. I know he has no friends and women despise him. (Actually he has enemies in his past in grooves). I"m demoralized he takes Marjuana and has a very bad drinking problem. I believe he is harder on himself than those he is cruel too.

He will quickly point fingers at others,yet is lacking in all morality. Again he will only hack at someone when he knows they aren't around to defend their character.

Thank You,
09/01/09 Spoken from a wounded heart
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Chris

Chris

Family - you love them - you need them - but when it really matters they desert you?

I thought I had a lifelong friendship but it appears I was fooled. You seflessley give to the detriment of significant others and then it is ignored when you have a crisis of your own.
This is then interpeted as selfishness which of course is your fault.

I am now in a programme of self discovery (counselling) to discern whos fault it is. Can anyone identify and help,me.
15/10/08 Chris
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Reunited

Reunited

Good news - Auntie Virus and I are talking again and made up, so all is forgiven.

So to those of you who assumed I was doing something in my favour like trying to inherit the complete estate on my side and so sure I was at fault, well I have come out clean and you lot are ones who cannot accept the principles of decent people. Most people who don't like the truth cannot accept me because the truth is always in my favour which is why I use it - it never crumbles.

To assume I was at fault taking action to get justice says everything about your personality as a fault finder looking to undermine people who are more successful than you and believe in doing things properly.

Those of you who saw the worse in me are now the viruses of society, not my auntie any more. In fact, anyone who cannot accept the truth and tries to poison society with their beliefs making wrong look right and vice versa are viruses and there are too many of you in society.

I have my principles and would never deceive to gain at the expense of others - I only use the truth which viruses cannot destroy.

So tough luck to all you viruses - your self-centred misconceptions of me have been invalidated.
22/04/08 Reunited
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Agin Bloodsuckers

Agin Bloodsuckers

You might well become Auntie Virus or Uncle Parasite in later life. In fact you may well already be one yourself. The only reason you keep in with your relatives at all is probably because you are just plain greedy, and want their house or land, or jewellery to come your way when they pass over.

You're probably the parasite yourself.
05/01/08 Agin Bloodsuckers
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jk12

jk12

Aunty Virus :) thats a good one. My uncle is similar, though I just call him "parasite"
05/01/08 jk12
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Midland Mac

Midland Mac

Up to date information

I have sent Christmas cards to Auntie Virus for the past two years trying to get her to come clean as well as cards from going away on holiday showing how much I am enjoying life to the full now and tried to get her to get in touch and forget the past.

Will she?

No.

Somehow, she seems reluctant to face up to me knowing full well she will never be able to get the better of me and she doesn't want to give me the satisfaction of winning again. I don't want to win - I just want to make up and her to be honest and reliable as well as face up to the truth, but that is like trying to get blood out of a stone.
25/12/07 Midland Mac
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Matt

Matt

Max, excellent post. It is so true that many people these days want everything now and if they can't get it when they want it they soon loose interest. Gone are the days of patience and understanding I think.

My opinion? Auntie Virus is your typical control freak, how many of us know a person just like her?
09/11/06 Matt
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b

b

what a shame that you felt the need to upset your mum with all of this just to expose your auntie for the liar she is,maybe she wanted to avoid you because you are petty?
23/10/06 b
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