Why I loathe chat rooms and weak men

If this is indeed the case - you must ask yourself why he has acted as he has? So you are going to take him to the cleaners, well that's big of you. Look into the mirror and ask why he did what he did. You should at least try to work it out before flushing it all down the toilet - what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

I think that the woman who makes the bad decision to get with a man that ultimately turns out to be a dirt-bag is just as much to blame. You see it all the time, women that go for their irresistible "bad boy" and then complain that he cheated on her later even though all the red flags that he was a cheater were there all along.

It's time for women to take responsibility for their actions, if a woman doesn't take responsibility she is bound to repeat her mistakes and end up in the same situation again and again. And I don't mean vowing to never get married again, I mean identifying what qualities you look for in a man and figuring out what is flawed in those prerequisites. I do feel bad for you, and I know that you will need a time to grieve for what has transpired, however when that's all said and done I hope that you learn from your mistakes so you can have a happier future.

To the original poster: I am so sorry this happened to you. It will take time for you to get over the pain and anger, but you will get over them. It's common to feel horrible after hurt and disappointment. What will help is to just take a deep breath and gravitate toward the people in your life who you are sure you *can* trust. When you're ready, meet new people, just as friends, so you can have a support system. Whether you leave him or stay with him, try to focus on *your* needs. Fighting with him won't make things better. After you've expressed how you feel about what he's done, drop it. Now is the time to focus on you. Do things to make yourself feel better, and treat yourself. Really nurture yourself now, and surround yourself with loving, caring people as much as you can. You will get through this.

I am sick and tired of Women slagging men off. There is good and bad in both sexes.Because Mens minds are preoccupied with sex at some point of everyday of their lives, women castigate them for it,rather than try to understand that they are born to be this way.Men are expected to be sympathetic to women during their time of month though,ok for us to be understanding isnt it!I have been married 27 years,my wife has lost interest in sex and now I am expected to be loyal and remain celebate for the rest of my life. Men have needs to you know.

Obviouisly a story about a women scorned.I don't defend his behaviour but why does he want to spend time in chat rooms and why does he ignore you most of the time.Maybe your the reason for his behaviour so you may have some responisibility for this outcome.Your just as weak because rather than face up to him you choose to employ a detective, aren't you also guilty of doing something behind his back.

Rider of the Apocalypse

There are some serious woman haters too and not just on the net. Try making a point without swearing next time.

There are some serious man-haters on the net. Am I the only man who had a relationship with a woman (long time ago) and later found out that she f*d most of his workmates behind his back, they even took sickies to f* her whilst I was at work. I felt totally humilitated to the point where I gave up my job, I was done for assaulting 2 of my friends at the same time and for a whole year my life was completely wrecked. But I came back met the best woman on the planet and we have been happily married for 2 decades. So man-haters of the world, stop blaming everyone but yourself and get a f* life. not all men are weak, neither are all women.

If you had been a man there would have been support and sympathy and condemnation of the "whore" by certain men on this site but as you are a woman the support is quite deafening by its absence!

Well, I sympathise anyway.

I'm beginning to think most men are pigs. I have come to the conclusion that they only think with their private parts. They want the respectability of marriage but as soon as the wife is out of sight their cheating. any excuse it seems. These days they can cheat and have relationships online - saddos. My husband is not only lost me but our son - he wants to make amends but he's cheated and been forgiven once too often. He's also lost the roof over his head. Thank goodness for private detectives and good lawyers.

I think the biggest pigs of them all are the ones that cheat on their wives when they are pregnant. Seriously, get a grip on your compulsions and try to be a man just for a little while. My daughter will grow up and eventually wonder what happened in the first year of her life. She'll be able to see the trashy pictures of his girlfriend Candy Eileen Perez posted all over the web. Candy, you make all us women so proud. NOT.

meh, LoL I really enjoyed your coment below LoL it is just like that eminem song LoL would the real mikep please stand up! soooooooooo funny LoL.

Would the real MikeP please stand up! Like we fell for it, fake MikeP. I was copied on here and had to change my name a couple of months ago. It's easy to tell from a person's posting whether or not they are an impersonator of the person they are impersonating! I really don't know why anyone would bother though, too much time on their hands.