Jealous ex-wives use kids as pawns

Hi - I understand your frustration Nicola but this is not the right way to handle it, trust me I should know! All that you and your partner will create is a case against yourselves, without even knowing it. If you have any sense between you both, you will try and get something sorted before court. Otherwise depending on your brief and judge on that day, he could end up on supervised access, just be careful, this is a real can of worms you are opening! You really need to leave it for them to sort out and take a step back, it will be frowned upon if not. I hope your BF is going to get some professional help, you can't fight this alone. Believe me you will need some support in court if, she has a good brief they will tie him in knots. When is the court date? Good Luck

hi I also agree with your comments I myself and my partner have been to court as his ex wife has re married a wealthy man but still uses my partners name also moved to America for 18mths cost us 7500.00 in solicitor fees and still causes us lots of grief, we have court order that she must bring children to see us in march and she is now trying every trick in her book to stop that visit, we e-mail children every week but get no reply she will only let us skype once a week at certain time if we miss we have to wait till following week, we have asked for details of flights and arrival times,clothes sizes and a mirror order that we should have had 3months ago and we never get straight answers just orders from her, my partner and I love his children dearly and we used to have every other weekend half off all holidays 2 phone calls a week and looked ater whenever she was holidaying we also travelled 3 hours to pick up the drop off, I think that it is unfair the good dads are treated the same as dads who dont care.

My BF tiried ringing his little boy to speak to him and she wouldn't answer the phone, so she's just creating more heartache. BF and his son have a lovely relationship and I got to be apart of that over the weekend. It makes my blood boil to think of the power this worthless non working ba**ard of a woman has, it must be her way of holding on somehow. And with the texting issue it may have been my text that started but it was a really flat, emotionless, boring, non threatening text stating the facts about where they'd been even down to what the boy had eaten! Yet it's okay when she got hold of my number before christmas and sent me angry texts, I never once replied to them, which was sending her wild, did I get an injunction out on her? NO! Just thought she was a bit crazy and hurting and get over it soon enough. Different rules you have to play by. You would think she would want a bit of free time to herself.

Does the non molestation order come in letter form to your house?

Hi Nicola - OMG what are you going to do? My BF spent several weeks with no access and it was awful. The children really suffer and I am sure it is so unhealthy for Father and Son.. No doubt if it's like us your court date will soon follow (Yet another waste of time and tax payers money) We had the Non-Molestation Order which is awful - That stops all access until a judge decides. One bit of advice, don't contact her like I did and go mad. That really worked against me in court but its in my nature(couldn't help it). These jealous ex's wind me up! I am a primary school teacher and this made no difference to the order. They had nothing on me but it made no difference. I really do sympathize with you. Its such a long dragged out process through the solicitor. My ex even took his house and car! The judge seems to side with the mother of the child. It's all wrong x

Hi Nicola - OMG what are you going to do? My BF spent several weeks with no access and it was awful. The children really suffer and I am sure it is so unhealthy for Father and Son.. No doubt if it's like us your court date will soon follow (Yet another waste of time and tax payers money) We had the Non-Molestation Order which is awful - That stops all access until a judge decides. One bit of advice, don't contact her like I did and go mad. That really worked against me in court but its in my nature(couldn't help it). These jealous ex's wind me up! I am a primary school teacher and this made no difference to the order. They had nothing on me but it made no difference. I really do sympathize with you. Its such a long dragged out process through the solicitor. My ex even took his house and car! The judge seems to side with the mother of the child. It's all wrong x

Thanks for all the advice. From reading this really useful grip/blog I do undrestand to take each case on its own merits. Things progressed over the weekend where bf introduces me to his son. we had a fab time, he was like my little shadow, played with him, had fun.....he said he didn't want to go home. Then an hour later, her texts start to my bf basically saying he's not seeing him until proper access is sorted and she has 'stipulations' in place with regard to me! She's got nothing on me, I'm a personal licence holder (even if I wasn't shouldn't make any difference) so I have been CRB'd also done two lots of work experience at a primary school-so as far as checks go she's got nothing.
It is waste of money getting the solicitors involved but then she has taken ALL the money and can afford to! Thanks 2stressed Nicola

Thanks for all the advice. From reading this really useful grip/blog I do undrestand to take each case on its own merits. Things progressed over the weekend where bf introduces me to his son. we had a fab time, he was like my little shadow, played with him, had fun.....he said he didn't want to go home. Then an hour later, her texts start to my bf basically saying he's not seeing him until proper access is sorted and she has 'stipulations' in place with regard to me! She's got nothing on me, I'm a personal licence holder (even if I wasn't shouldn't make any difference) so I have been CRB'd also done two lots of work experience at a primary school-so as far as checks go she's got nothing.
It is waste of money getting the solicitors involved but then she has taken ALL the money and can afford to! Thanks 2stressed Nicola

Thanks for all the advice. From reading this really useful grip/blog I do undrestand to take each case on its own merits. Things progressed over the weekend where bf introduces me to his son. we had a fab time, he was like my little shadow, played with him, had fun.....he said he didn't want to go home. Then an hour later, her texts start to my bf basically saying he's not seeing him until proper access is sorted and she has 'stipulations' in place with regard to me! She's got nothing on me, I'm a personal licence holder (even if I wasn't shouldn't make any difference) so I have been CRB'd also done two lots of work experience at a primary school-so as far as checks go she's got nothing.
It is waste of money getting the solicitors involved but then she has taken ALL the money and can afford to! Thanks 2stressed Nicola

NICOLA - I'm going through exactly the same as you!!...He has got legal advice through a solicitor but it will cost a lot to carry on. He is now recieving legal aid and your boyfriend may be intitled to legal aid too - (look into it) If she is threaterning to stop access if you are around keep it saved for evidence to use in court. and it will not look good her putting her jealousy before her child!! (This is what we were told) However she feels about you, it is not her position to dictate who her child see's whilst in your boyfriends care! - unless you have any convictions she knows about or any reason to thing he will not be safe she has nothing!

Not every situation is the same. It is sad how slagging off one woman can have an effect on decent women. I am an ex wife. I also have a wonderful father and two loving brothers who are really good husbands and supporters. My own personal hell of living with an abusive man who was a husband was horrendous. For my part, I wish my ex-husband will leave me alone, not make his children unhappy. His reasoning - I got the house which I paid for and had to pay him off over 30% because of what he put his children through. He is consistently brainwashing his children. If that wans't enough, he has called child protective services 3 times, he has bvisited schools, he has had friends and police to my home because the children decided to watch a football match with their friends and not go out with him that day. He has interfered with my work and on top of that consistently ring on my phone to speak to his beloved children whom he does not support emotionally. they have their own phones and he can contact them. He has lied using his own children stating that I am blocking them from him yet I have a sworn statement by the court that he only wishes to visit them on a set day and time. guess what he sometimes turns up not at the appointed hour and if I get fed up of waiting because I have responsibilities, police is brought in. If I wait in, he does not turn up. I could go on and on but not all men and women are horrible. Take each case as it comes

A bitter ex wife could not sink much lower than getting her children to lie for her.
My husband and I recently set up a B&B in NZ that has been a total failure and we've had no guests.
His ex has now provided information to the CSA by getting their 13 year old daughter to post a review on our B&B internet listing, presumedly from one of our guests saying "what an awesome B&B this is" from Jessi.
Now of course she's claiming more money for child support from our awesome B&B
She has also in the past sent him sexually provocative photos of Jessi then aged only11 which he was advised to get rid of.
If his ex doesn't receive extra child support money from her latest admin review from the earnings that we've made from our awesome B&B, one can only imagine what her next plan for revenge could be.
This woman who tossed her husband out and left him without even a knife and a fork is not sick. She's evil

You sound very bitter and need to move on and learn about relationships in general.