Ex-husband buys daughter's love
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I have been divorced from my ex-husband for five years now and the first four years were absolutely horrible.  My ex-husband never, every paid support back then and he's only just started paying in the past 6 months.

Disney world, ex-husband buys daughter's love

Yet, my daughter still goes to see him every other weekend and so on.  I was awarded custody of her of her right from the beginning.  I continued to allow her to stay at her dad's and tried my very best to be cordial to him, even though our marriage ended due to extreme abuse where I was concerned.

Things have become very difficult recently however.  My ex-husband took my daughter to Florida last summer against the advice of two court orders and also without my knowledge.  It took me around six days to figure out where she was then I was asked by his family to allow her to stay because my ex had planned to take her to Disney World!  Boy, what kind of a choice is that?

I did let her stay so that she could go enjoy herself. Now, whenever she comes home from her dad's, she treats me like I'm HER child.  I never do anything right.  She constantly yells at me and makes me feel inadequate.  I've talked to her over and over.  I feel that she gets so spoiled rotten there that she knows I can never measure up to that.  I can't give her motorcycles and horses and trips to Disney World.

I'm planning a trip to the beach with her this summer, (we live in Montana) and she was so excited.  Tonight she comes home and tells me that she and daddy are going back to Disney World after she goes to Washington and that will be better.  I'm so discouraged ball all of this that sometimes I feel like giving up!  Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this?

By: Mariomom


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Solicitor or not, he made some new points that had not been touched or mentioned before on this type of gripe,

At first I didn't doubt that he was a solicitor, but after reading all your posts, I now have a little doubt, he mixed there up with their on one of the last lines, but even a solicitor could do this.
*Gainsborough lad.  04-Jan-2010 23:10

 
ES - not sure what you want me to clarify? I was making an observation. You have very little knowledge of the situation. Careful not to get your fact and fantasy confused - not good news for a solicitor!
*jane  04-Jan-2010 14:55

 
In spite of the arguments over who is, and who is not legally qualified, the OP's divorce / custody arrangements are subject to Montana State Law not English Law or so it seems.

Unless there is a member of that upstanding and august body, the State Bar of Montana contributing to Blog.co.UK, it seems to me that it would be more useful for participants to offer practical suggestions on how to deal with the practical and emotional problems instead of bragging about supposed legal qualifications.

Having said that, I believe that transporting a minor across State lines against restrictions imposed by a State Court is also a Federal offence, however I would happily defer to a US Attorney's Opinion on this
*Congo  04-Jan-2010 11:45

 
Mike / Jane your diversionary tactic/s is clearly not standing up? I have no reason whatsoever to come here and lie some of us have a very good moral compass and are not morally retarded.
Also your actions are very indicative of the great unwashed what you are clearly part of, I can tell you now that you would be the perfect respondent witness
( FOR ME TO CROSS EXAMINE THAT IS )
your mouth is clearly 15 seconds in front of your clearly sluggish "brain"
*The English Solicitor  04-Jan-2010 10:54

 
There you see MikeP, you idiotic buffoon, I told you solicitors are not meant to be understood either verbally or in written context! I mean, who would pay three thousand pounds a go for somebody who could speak plain english!
*oldgrumpywoman  04-Jan-2010 10:40

 
The English Solicitor :

From your original posting, just this sums you up for a blustering uneducated idiot.
"as for I whom works the Family Law courts 7 days a week 52 weeks a year, "

The 'secretary' line doesn't work, solicitors are supposed to be educated people. You clearly are not. I doubt if you even have a profession.
*MikeP  04-Jan-2010 10:39

 
Mike it is very clear that you are a FEMALE masquerading as a MALE, nonetheless could you please elaborate on how you reach the conclusion that "I"
( WHO WORKS THE FAMILY LAW COURTS 5 DAYS A WEEK AND HAS DONE SO FOR OVER 10 YEARS ) am a disgrace to my profession?
also as a solicitor I write nothing I have a Secretary for this? were you not fully conversant with this very simple fact? I can educate you also to the QUITE OBVIOUS fact that all Solicitor's, and Barrister's have what is called a " Dictation Machine " and a Secretary to write the transcript from any dictation? so I think you must have even below a mediocre level of intelligence as you have just made two ( SCHOOL BOY ERRORS ) as we say, furthermore my rhetoric is based on my professional opinion? what is your PROFESSIONAL OPINION? as I am assuming you are qualified such as I to hold a PROFESSIONAL OPINION? now you can chose to take a calculated risk and give the impression that you are a professional? and I will then ask entry level Family Law criteria ( for your benefit ) that Google will have no answer for.

SO YOU SHOULD REALLY GET YOUR OWN HOUSE IN ORDER.... JANE.................I MEAN MIKE.
*The English Solicitor  04-Jan-2010 10:32

 
ooooohhhhhh!!!!!!!! she"s off on one ! poor old mike! a tampax, quickly somebody!
*oldgrumpywoman  04-Jan-2010 10:28

 
oldgrumpywoman (how original!)

"Firstly ES has made only one error" - that you can spot. You are equally poorly educated if that is your opinion. Apart from the poor use of English, he has written nonsense, non-sequiturs, and untruths. If the person who wrote this is a solicitor then I'm a spaceman.

"and secondly a real solicitor is not meant to be understood either verbally or in writen form."
What rot. Dont judge everyone by your own low standards of intelligence.
*MikeP  04-Jan-2010 10:16

 
MikeP, yet again you have made an idiot of yourself,
Firstly ES has made only one error and secondly a real solicitor is not meant to be understood either verbally or in writen form.
*oldgrumpywoman  04-Jan-2010 10:10

 
The English Solicitor

If you are, as you claim, a solicitor, you are a disgrace to your profession, and with your level of written English, you have no right whatsoever to ask of someone else: "Jane, do you have even a mediocre understanding of the English language?".

Set your own house in order before you criticise others.
*MikeP  04-Jan-2010 06:43

 
Jane, do you have even a mediocre understanding of the English language? could you elaborate on your wording? as for I whom works the Family Law courts 7 days a week 52 weeks a year, and almost all Magistrates, Circuit and District judges have the very same opinion, the very high majority of women going through the courts use there children as a weapon against the father, sorry to inform you of this but this is sadly very much a fact to anyone who is privy to the aforementioned circumstances on a repetitive basis, are you a Family Law solicitor also? and my facts are categorically self explanatory are they not? surely you can see this Jane? OK let me hopefully educate you again
( I HAVE WORKED IN THE FAMILY LAW COURTS REPRESENTING BOTH MALE AND FEMALE OF THE SPECIES FOR OVER 10 YEARS )

do you think this is factual enough Jane? I am not really sure of your clearly flawed point Jane?
*The English Solicitor  04-Jan-2010 00:45


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