My ex-wife won't play fair

I think it's completely unfair how the laws are more biased towards the mother. I can't stand women who use their children against their father, if there was some sort of abuse or neglect (towards the child) on the father's end then okay but if the father has been nothing but supportive and loving towards the child, why should the mom have more leverage??

A 'woman that wont play fair' ?
CSA women are a disgrace to their race

My ex wife and I had three kids. Two boys and a girl.. I Still to this day dont know if my baby girl is really mine. When we got divorced she was having an affair. She has since had another daughter from this guy. I have always paid my CS, and even when I was unemployed paid as much as I could. I see the boys every second weekend, but my daughter isnt allowed to sleep over and I only get her on a sunday. recently she hasn't let my daughter come to me. My daughter is 4, and she says that she doesn't like coming to me anymore. This breaks my heart, and I cry for days. She also asked for more money this year, even more than what has been agreed in the divorce agreement. My current fiance does'nt tolerate her, and tells me to stand up for myself...I'm just afraid of loosing the contact that I have with the kids.. What should I do?

Woman, so that someone like you doesn't actualy miss out the fact that I was only "talking" to my own child,

I was also noted that you didn't offer any sympathy to the fact that my ex-wife is a vile evil excuse for a human being, stopping access because the governments turn a blind eye to it.

Gainsborough Lad
You must know that U-God is just a troll trying to stir things up, it was a nice attempt until he over egged the pudding with the biblical "yea" and banging on about Adam and Eve and the bloody apple. (If men ever did the supermarket shop Adam could have bought bananas and still be in the garden of Eden!)

Why did you put "talking" in inverted commas? If you were not actually talking what were you doing?

I think in "some" instances the women will stop access because they are frightened that the children will see their dad as better than themselves, (As working dads have more cash to spend on their childrens holidays, trips out, and toys)

A lot of women will spend the benefit they have been given for the children on themselves.... catalogue items, pubbing and clubbing, cigarettes, clothes ect,

The rest of them will stop access because they are absolutley evil, using any feeble excuse to justify their actions, even telling the children that "dad don't want to see you" and telling your friends and relatives the same,

Thousands apon thousands of fathers in this country have been, and are still going through this, it happened to me, I was even turned away from my childs pre-school nursery fence by an assistant, for "talking" to my own child, my ex-wife had obviously even closed this little access loophole,

Pure and utter scum they are, there's no other words to describe them, and the governments have let them get away with it.

Its a shame so much pain. The earth spins another day is gone and I have yet to see, speak, feel the presec of my two young ones. The mother always say to me oh the kids are not home right now when I can smell them. I have cried and cried and why go to the court so they can set me up with a payment plan and still get treated the same way. The pain never goes away and it can't be replaced with another child by some one else. So there is no answer but as men we have to realize that woman are crazy yes all of them even EVE yea the first one who made Adam bite the apple. Fathers we have to become sneaky. Stop asking for permission. Just go to the schools and speak to the children. Its a shame but what can you do you cant kill the mother or assault or threaten then you will be in jail. You have to prove to the court that she is an unfit parent. and to do that you have to be cold blooded even if it means planting evidence and so on. Or feel the pain over and over and the earth spins. Women have no problem watching you cry feel miserable so why do we care about there feeling so much.

My husband's ex wife does not stop interfering with our lives and using her daughter as a pawn to gain attention. It has been three years and she still tries to insinuate herself in our holidays and has alienated his own family by continuously badmouthing him. Sometimes she literally sends TEN emails in one day to complain about everything from clothingm books and to tell us how miserable her daughter is yet it is untrue. We have taken the high road and have chosen not to reveal the truth about her for her daughter's sake. We don't reveal that she does not take proper care of her daughter-nobathing, doctor's appointments, lack of attention to education, and the fact that the child has fallen ill several times due to lack of care. She always dumps her when the going gets tough. She doesn't show up when she is supposed to and lies consistently. She continuously "allows' me to take care of her daughter while she is out galavanting and crying out how she is mother of the year yet refuses to speak with me even concerning her child's medical care. She gets TWO THOUAND DOLLARS per month in child support yet still can't seem to pay her bills. There is constant drama and she can't let go. Does it ever end.......

I hear you, I’m paying £355 per month CSA for my 2 girls, plus I’m paying the mortgage. I have seen one of my girls twice in the last seven months and the other one once. I was to get my youngest this weekend for a few hours, my youngest and I had planned to choose and buy a pedal bike, but now my wife has said that my youngest doesn’t want to go. It’s a real shame; my youngest was so excited and looking forward to getting her new bike. My kids are getting used as tools to hurt me and it breaks my heart. They need guidance and support from a responsible adult not some self centred psycho woman.

See this link and consider yourself lucky :
http://gooddadtreatedbad.blogspot.com/2009/11/to-begin-with.html

Hi, my name is Clive smith’s look after 3 of my 4 children at the moment. This was ordered by a court under a section 7.

I have been back to court about my 2 year old son who lives in a 2 bed house with his mum and new boyfriend. The ordered another section 7 to be done on the children because there mum did not keep to the social service appointment. This was due to the fact that she was living with her boyfriend’s parent, and boyfriend in their 2 bed bungalow.

They came and took the children from me took them for a picnic said to me what I needed to change with my house, also said the children had made it clear to them that they wish to stay with me. They even told the children that what they would put in the report to make it happen. I have not seen the services since this day they have not even checked the school, doctors my girl’s nursery or anything like that. They have been to see their mum and boyfriends families 3 times.

Well the report come back slagging me of and that the children should be returned to their mum. I feel if they haven’t done their job properly as the children have reported to their schools, my doctors and the services they were smacked and hit by all their family!! I can’t understand! There is a lot more to say but can you give me some info please at how I can fight this. Thanks.

I hear you. I'm actually a mother, but have heard so many stories from male friends like this - it's horrible and shouldn't happen. When my ex and I broke up, I did everything to not do this to him - left him most of the house stuff and the house (rented). Because he wasn't working and I was, the agreement was that he has him through the week and I have him friday avo to Monday morning. We didn't want to disrupt his week at school etc.

Now he is throwing it all back in my face. He is letting our son do something I don't agree with, and he says I have no say in what he does when he's in his care. And that he has more say because he has care of him more!! And he said if I want to take it further, I should go to DOCS.

Funny when you try to do the right thing - it always seems to get thrown back in your face!!

Owell, that's life. I'm going to DOCS!