Parents with unruly children
15-March-2010
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I have a real issue with parents with unruly children that misbehave in public.  They just allow their child to run amok and do what they like.

I had an appointment to see a doctor last week and was sitting in the waiting room until it was my turn to see the practitioner.  I was quietly minding my own business and reading a magazine as one does to pass the time when suddenly, my leg was kicked by this little brat as he tore across the room from one side to the other.  His mother meanwhile, sat several feet away from me reading a magazine did absolutely nothing.  She just didn’t give a damn that her child was being a right pain to complete strangers.

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Next thing, the young brat decide to get up on an empty seat and jump his way across the waiting room on the furniture at the same time yelling his head off; still no response regarding his behaviour from his mother.  Eventually he finally gets fed up walking over the seats and just stands making faces at me. Presumably because by this time I’m glaring at both him and his mother, wishing either the mum would do something, or the boy would just sit down.  The little **** then just trots over to his mum and proceeds to badger her with the ‘Mum I want sweets’ routine.  This actually gets a reaction this time and she hands him a packet of tic-tacs with some vague request to sit still or he won’t get any more.

What is this? Is it some kind of reward for terrorising the rest of us?  I just can’t believe the way some parents let their children do whatever they like in public.  Have they no shame?  If it were my kid, I’d have been very cross and had no qualms about publicly chastising him or her.  I guess part of the problem could be, that in these politically correct times we live in, parents just aren’t able to do that anymore.  Too afraid to punish their unruly children for being naughty in case some busy body reports them to the police.

I believe children should be well behaved in public, and it is the responsibility of the parent to make sure that happens.  I know that things are very much different for the younger generation these days, but some values are worth holding onto.  Respect for elders, good manners and behaviour etc. it would seem are a thing of the past.


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It is not possible to have a diagnosis of ADHD for a child as young as 2. Until recently I worked for a Child Psychiatrist and the youngest patient we had with a firm diagnosis of ADHD was 5 years old. Certainly at such a young age, medication would be out. And because medication is the only way to control ADHD, then unfortunately you will have to weather the storm for another few years yet, PLEASE HELP.

With Autism too, it would not be possible to have a diagnosis at such a young age.
*Nikki  13-Mar-2010 22:25

 
I haev a 2 year old called courtney his behavoure is so bad that he got kicked out of 8 play goups I dont know what to do with him he bites he screems kicked swears and much more I have 2 other children that are 8 and 5 there behavoure isnt bad like courtneys he has adhd and outizem but its more to handle with being asosited with other perents
*PLEASE HELP  02-Mar-2010 10:57

 
If she could not control her child any better than that, she should have been asked to leave, by the staff. Parents allow their kids to act this way because we allow them too.These parents go out, acquire/create a child, teach them no discipline, and then reward them for showing their rear ends in public.

Yet, what do we do? Sit there, endure and say nothing? I say tell them! You don't have to be rude by any means. If they get mad about it, it's because they know they failing on of their parental duties! "You can't tell me how to raise my kids". It seems someone needs to.

If they are smart enough, they may eventually get a clue and realize the disservice they are doing not only to the public, but the disservice they are doing to their kids by not teaching them how to act when abroad.
*Jack  13-Dec-2009 13:30

 
Personally I would say something to the mom or parent. There is a place and time for kids to play and a waiting room is not that place. Parents these days want to be their kids friend instead of their parent. This is why we have more violence in the world because no one is teaching kids how to behave properly.

By the way I'm a parent and my son sits and is quiet when he needs to be.. He knows the word no...
*sestina  02-Dec-2009 00:19

 
Exasperated,
You are the classic example of what is wrong with society today.
*david  16-Nov-2009 02:50

 
I see what you mean, but you obviously don't have children as that used to be my viewpoint. Children are defiant and whilst the mum you are talking about should have done something, as I would have done, it's not always that easy. My child would be perfect if I had my way, but it ain't gonna happen, even with boundaries and consequences!!
*exasperated...  30-Oct-2009 19:01

 
I completley agree! I have a neighbour across the rad with 2 kids, one son, one daughter. The son is apx 9 and uses my drive way as a ram for his skatebard, and climbs over my wooden shed/garage roof and tkaes the covin off my wall. I have asked his mother severl times to get him to stop, but to no avail. I came home tonight and found them in my driveway again, and shouted at them to go back to their own house, and dont et me tell them again! The son gave me a mouthful, the daughter ran screaming The next minute their mum shouts across the street £Hoy You! Dont you speak to my bairns like that again!" I told them to keep them under contrl and to keep them off my property to which I got replied "well ask civilly then!"..What can you do? I was brough up in a different era obviously (brought up, not draggedup!)
*staarfleet  07-Oct-2009 17:56

 
the actual fact that u call this child a brat in the first place tells me that u have no children of your own, if u were a mother then u would realise that we do actually know when our children are being naughty, but we are probably too exhausted to call them back every minute, until u are in the situation urself u couldnt possibly undrstand what a mother goes through
*taralou  01-Oct-2009 19:38

 
Hmmmm ... my daughter, now grown up, has ADHD and although I completely understand where you're coming from Emma, I personally have always believed that ADHD or no ADHD, no child should be allowed to kick off in public, and be allowed to do so because if rebuked they just get worse! I never allowed my daughter's bad behaviour to "kick off" in public. On several memorable occasions of course it did, and her punishment was dire !! In private at home, things were of course completely different, but she knew that in public she was just not allowed to misbehave, end of.

I do totally agree with you though about the trouble we parents have to go through with our Adders !! I swear I went grey prematurely because of it !
*Nikki  15-Aug-2009 21:25

 
Emma; i'm not too sure what you are trying to get at with your comment. Any parent/carer with an ADHD child would not allow them to run off and cause a problem for others. The problem is with parents who do not control their (so-called "normal") children in public places. The people that let their children do as they want and pick them up from the "lost child collection point" when they have finished doing their shopping etc.I'm not oblivious to the behavior of children with ADHD and know very well what they are capable of.
*nicci247  15-Aug-2009 10:12

 
some children have behavior problems and maybe the mother of the child you call 'BRAT' would rather her child make a little 'INNOCENT' noise rather than tell him off and have him scream the doctors down kids will be kids were you not young once, its ridiculous that grown men and women constantly moan about this generations children, I myself have a seven year old who has adhd and is very noisy and if I make a scene about her noise shejust gets worse.. so maybe...instead of you moaning about these children you should apprieciate the trouble there parents got through on a day to day basis coping with these (as you called them) brats
*emma  05-Aug-2009 10:12

 
I agree with everything you say nicci247,I think you are brilliant,You really tell all of those horrible nasty men where to go.
*grimpyoldwoman  23-Jul-2009 09:56


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