Rude and abusive disabled people

We live in this crazy society that disabled people are treated like gods and we fail to see how perfectly healthy humans are often treated in inhumane conditions.

Disabled people with scooters are also often very rude, pushy, and seem to always demand the immediate right of way!

Mankinds arrogance will be the human races downfall.

Mankind has it's ability to retreat into a state of denial but this will not prevent the outcome for their survival. Greed has got you all into this declining spiral of social decline. What is happening now on this planet cannot be changed. The die is cast.

@Meemo, yes I agree, the human race is now regressing back to feral ways, all brought about by over population on planet Earth. But don't worry, Mother Nature works in wonderus ways to balance things out....hence, COVID/WARS/GLOBAL WARMING, Diseases yet to emerge, the list goes on and on. Mankind cannot change it's greedy ways, so it will be mankind that destroys itself in the long run.

I am disabled myself but wouldn't be so rude. Years ago, I worked in a place where the son of my boss, who also worked there, had won a Gold medal and the Paraolympics. I hadn't met him before. I was aged around 40 and he was 20. I went into a room where he was showing his medal off and joined in in congratulating him. A little later on he needed to get through an extremely heavy fire door in his wheelchair. I stood to one side but held the door and got the worst mouthful of abuse I have ever had - and I was a police officer at the time - so quite used to it on the streets. He was a civilian. Its not done to argue with collegues in the Service and I let it go as how would it have looked for me to complain about a disabled chap in a wheelchair. he was known for being like this but wasn't suffering from any known mental health issues. I think he had an enormous chip on his shoulder. I didn't touch his chair or talk down to him. I held the door for him as I did for able bodied collegues all the time. In the Service were were told early on, as females, to not expect male collegues to hold doors for us just because we were female. I have never had that mindset anyway. it was merely I got there fist and he was using both hands to propel his chair. I gave him a wide berth after that. Someone just don't know how to be nice and take every little thing as a put down. I did no such thing and have examined what I did in light of my later own disablement later in life.

I have a family member who is wheelchair bound and an absolute NIGHTMARE to be around. She is a borderline queen who has been spoiled and coddled for 30 years and now she is over 60. She throws things, breaks other people's things, screams, threatens to prosecute based on lies because everyone will take her side... Nothing ever makes her happy, she takes everything for granted and when I look up resources for people whose disabled wards abuse them it does not even exist!

Hi,
My brother suffered a stroke twelve years ago. He is paralyzed on the right side and has mental problems. I take care of him -- buy and cook food, pay bills, etc. He abuses me daily. He does stupid things, like eat uncooked meat, then gets sick and blames me for not cooking his dinner properly. If I could, I would bail on him.

To add on my previous comment. Many people went off topic from the post by Gardener. Gardener clearly says "I will be very cautious on offering assistance to a disabled person in the future." Not that he/she won't ever help disabled people again. He/she will, just be more cautious. There is a huge difference.

Also, my mom isn't the only disabled person that I have found to be rude when being helped a lot. I have seen this a lot. It is different when someone is rude to me just because and someone is being rude to me when I actually try to help them - which is too often the case with disabled people and less so with abled body people.

One reason for this is due to a superiority complex which is actually caused by the disabled person's inferiority complex. As Alfred Adler wrote back in 1927 in his book Understanding Human Nature, this is cause and effect.

Many commentators have witnessed the "entitlement" of disabled people even though they should feel bad about themselves due to their circumstances which those trying to help them are sensitive about.

Be nice people...cheesus

I have a mom that is disabled. It gets worse as she gets older due to the nature of the disability. My stepdad used to take care of her (actually just feeding her lots of wine). But now that he had passed, I have to take care of her. I do not drink, so I do not provide alcohol. This does make her more bearable, but she has a problem. One which I dare not name.

She has always had problems maintaining good relationships with other people as well. Even when she was little and the disability wasn't even visible. She blamed my grandmother and even 12 years after my grandmother's death, still hates my grandmother. When we just mention my grandmother, we are ridiculed.

After my stepdad passed, I had to start looking after her financially. I got her a large house (her requirement for her 5 cats at the time, now 6) in a wine country town (also her requirement to be close to friends that live there). She lives in luxury which I myself wouldn't mind for myself even though I pay for everything!

The unfortunate part, due to her personality, the friends that now live close by, want nothing to do with her and only one friend came to visit once. She now hates it here and have started to break anything and everything in the house, blaming it on her full time help. I came to visit during the coronavirus lockdown and experienced myself how she would break everything. And this isn't by accident, she handles everything with force. When I tried to help her by suggesting an alternative way on how she can manage, a fight broke out where she went as far as to bite me. She then asked on Facebook for people to phone the police - even though she had her phone on her and she knew her full time help which was right next to me would tell the truth to the police and nothing would come of it except her making me look bad.

Out of her three children, I am the only one supporting her. Her full time help cries every day due to the fact that my mom is emotionally abusive towards her. She was the same towards my biological dad and I do not want the same treatment.

And it isn't just the people that try to help. She is also hard of hearing (again due to the nature of her disability). When she doesnt hear a shop assistant or doctor's receptionist and that person asks her full time help afterwards, she explodes and also tries to get that person fired from their jobs.

I am considering putting her in government care - I cannot see another option anymore. I have tried a lot to help her, but she is "filled with hate for everything and everyone." Her own words.

How do you tell someone they should love themselves? How do you make them see that this is the only way they can love others? I was raised in government funded boarding school which I always saw as a blessing, not because of my mom, but because I always had friends around me. Friends mean so much and too many disabled people don't want any.

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I had a job years ago where I worked with people who had disabilities. While some of them were wonderful, there were more than a few bad apples. This opened my eyes to the fact that some disabled people are bitter and have poor attitudes. The same can certainly be said of many able-bodied people too, of course.
But my work with these individuals showed me that quite a number of them feel entitled to lash out, even at employees like myself (who were paid very little) who only wanted to help them. There was this one fellow in a wheelchair who was a liar and troublemaker...always complaining in hopes that people who cared for him (like myself) would be fired. He also played the race card on one occasion.

Look, I realize that having a visible disability is frustrating and unfair. It's difficult. But we all have a cross to bear in life. Maybe that sounds insensitive, but it's reality. With that said, I still have compassion for what disabled folks deal with. I know they aren't always treated well by some members of society.
At the same time, if an able-bodied person is being kind and not harming them in any way, they need to realize that they are not exempt from treating others with respect just because of their disability.
We all have bad days and we all have problems. It's your attitude that matters most.

My daughter is mildly mentally retarded and she is very touchy about everything that is said to her. She is now 32 years old and its getting worse. Examples include: the word no. If she cant have her way she gets upset and starts to cry and storms out of the room making anyone in the room feel uncomfortable. She tries to run the home. She has lived with her grandma for over 20 years. Her grandmother has also allowed to have one of her other granddaughters to live with her. She wasn't happy about this. She is rude to her cousin and her children. She is very territorial after living with her grandma for over 20 years. She is jealous of her cousin's children. I dont understand her behavior. When she was a child she was very helpful and a happy little girl. I dont know what went wrong. She gets onto her cousin's kids making sure they take a shower, making sure they brush their teeth, she feeds them and thinks it's her responsibility. She has been told not to worry about having to take care of the children but, she continues to do it. If she is asked to stop she gets upset and starts to cry and storms into her room. She gets mad at her aunt because she feels like she pays more attention to the children then her. I could go on and on but, this is the main problem currently. HELP!!! Is anyone out there going thru the same thing???

I care for a live-in handicap person in my home. I havi fix home cooked gourmet meals for a handicapp person daily for 6 years. The handicap person then won’t eat the food if he doesn’t feel like it, after I have already prepared it. In the past I said if you have specific meals you want fixed then make a menu, tell me what you want, I will go to the store. And get what you want. They did not ever do that so I continued to cook as usual. I get annoyed when I have prepared a nice meal and this person decided they don’t want chicken that day or whatever so they refuse to eat. Then I get in trouble with this handicap person relative because I am accused of “starving” the handicapp person. Which is a lie, I can’t force handicapp person to eat, and I can’t seem to please him.

Yes, soe people who are disabled have been babied and told that they are special and therefore are rude and mean as heck.