The Weekly Gripe

CSA money doesn't go to the kids

Ex-wife uses CSA money for herself

My ex-wife has holidays instead

I asked for a reassessment last year because our children were and had been staying with me for at least two nights per week instead of just one night a week as was the case when I was first assessed.



For the last 8 years I have paid my ex-wife through the CSA for our 2 children. During this time I have struggled every week to pay for every day things such as food, while at the same time my ex-wife has enjoyed a life of luxury.

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17-7-2008If/when the ex wife goes back to work,will all the ex hubbies pay half the childcare and be there half the timeso that ex wife enjoys the same freedom ex hubby does? Ever tried finding a half decent wage that fits round school times or affords childcare that still leaves enough left over to make the...moresusan
30-5-2008Absolutley. Why do we put up with this women robbin the blokes society time for the tables to turnEquality for all!
30-5-2008Get yourself on the dole, just to watch her lifestyle slip from under her. It will be worth it.Marty
30-5-2008well said kitton.......half of the comments on here are about avoiding making payments, I think these people should consider sorting there priorities rather than bleating on about the csa!heatedblanket
21-5-2008What absent fathers need to remember here is that yes for the small minority of you sure you do your bit and play fair, however think of how many fathers walk away every day and leave the woman holding the baby. What this does is create problems for many women, they can not always seek full time emp...morekitton
21-4-2008Iv heard of cases where mums claim for not being able to work due to fear of work and drive round in cars etc while the disposed dad pick up the pieces!viper
18-4-2008Can I do any thing about child benefit though, she's living between us and my husbands mum (nanny) when I rang up they asked if she was living with us, well no, not all the time. The woman didn't seem very interested, and I don't want to claim if i'm not entitiled to it. I'm su...morejhrv
13-4-2008Court...ha ha. Your typical benefit-bunny has years of freeloading experience. She will have no disposable income and so get legal aid, unless you are on benefit too or a multi-millionaire you will be screwed. Also consider that the system tend to beleive the poor struggling courageous mummy even i...moreJohn Boy
20-3-2008Take het to court you have a very very good case!JUSTICE
20-3-2008WHY WHY WHY. It's so crap. My husbands ex wife is supposedly disabled and has an 08 car from the council yet she goes up the town every weekend partying, she gets really drunk and has fights!! when she goes to the doctors she takes a walking stick!!!! She has never had a job in her life. She di...morejhrv
05-3-2008thank you all for your comments just an update , since my first journal, unfortunately for my children and me, my ex-wife has contiuned this never ending commitment to try and make me pay more money, she has now applied to the courts for supposedly contact difficulties to try and get more money. ...moreupdate
04-3-2008My ex partner has met someone knew and now I pay for them to live together its an outrage! someone has to stop thisVIN



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