The Weekly Gripe

Deadbeat dad and his partner commits benefit fraud

Absent father makes no effort

Dad that wont come and see the kids

He refuses to come and get them from our home, claiming he won't spend any time with them if he is travelling and won't budge on the subject. He didn't even send the children a card or present at Christmas.



We split up over 6 years ago, and to this day the father of my children hasn't paid one penny in support. He is now in another relationship and has a son to his current partner who is claiming every benefit she can lay her hands on.

Add your comments to this discussion

Please be sure to read the article before joining this moderated forum. No user registration is required to post comments.



Posted Comment Visitor
23-7-2008Hi Kit! I have been in that situation. I suggest you file a legal case against the father of your kids for support. Your kids are entitled to that benefit.Kathleen
10-7-2008Can I shop him in? the guys sounds like a complete muppet- I feel sorry for you and the kids!!! oh and try getting some proof of his work history- if he keeps getting re-employed by the same person he should still be liable to pay.shylou
02-7-2008Why should he HAVE to see them. He never wanted kids in the first place by the looks of it. Is it because you want to go on dates with men but your stuck with the kids and confined to internet flirting? Nobody has to see a person they don't want to, just because they are family it makes no diffe...moreREAL L IFE
11-4-2008What a stupid comment from Marti. If you treated him better? Does Marti know him then? It's as clear as day that there is no way you should be taking your children to him. I understand you want them to see their father, but a decent father, earning good money as well, would make the effort t...moreAnita
05-4-2008if you treated him better......you would have been ok nowmarti
19-3-2008I know exactly what you are going through. My ex husband will not pay court ordered child support. Refuses to visit with our two minor children, and if he does visit with our children it consist of a couple of hours maybe once every six months. I have tried my level best with the Prosecutors office ...moreBrittney
29-2-2008I have a few things to comment on, the first is its your opinion if you think its necessary to work while you have children, I dont know how old they are but if you choose to be a stay at home mum, it doesnt mean you are a lazy sod, household chores and looking after your own kids is a job in itself...moreKITKAT
16-2-2008I have just read your story and totaly understand where you are coming from , my son is 12 and I am still fighting a daliy battle with the csa for maintenance support from him . we split when my son was just 11 months old , I am happily married again now but I still often wonder how can somone mak...morelou
30-1-2008know exactly how you feel.my daughter is 19 month old and has never met her dad even though he lives 2 streets away,hes told me hes not interested in her and will never pay for her ive never had a penny off him, and he gets away with it cause hes self employed, he earns a decent wage bout 400 a week...moreanon
16-1-2008Re: Great News for the Self Employed Absent fathers out there................ Hey, I feel sorry for you getting stiffed by your ex and the CSA like that. I feel lucky really, I got £6 when my ex registered himself as self-employed...but now he has filed accounts I owe him. Only fair really....moreSarah
10-1-2008I've met a similar barst**d just like you. He has not seen his child snice she was 18 months old. I've compleley cut him out of our lives for good. He denied us to the parish priest and said that my daughter wasn't his. He has not given us a penny snice she's been born, yet he spends...moresiobhain
05-11-2007Ps I dont agree with the CSA. £5 per wk I would not go to them if I lived in a cardboard box they are useless. A bloody insultShel



<< prev <<     >> next >>