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Why are men afraid of commitment, relationship advice

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Men and relationships

I have been living with my partner for over 3 years now and some would say that we are still in our honeymoon phase. He still puts everyone and everything else before our relationship.



He tells me he loves me every day, but for me, actions speak far louder than words. Are the gifts he gives me, or the occasional night out a form of compensation for areas where he lacks such attention and commitment?

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01-4-2008Women are generally only interested in money and power. Have your way with them and dump 'em. Let the state bring up any babies that result. If the woman starts getting "psychological" leave immediately. If they start thinking that they are your mother, get out fast.Reality Cheque
01-4-2008Hi, I just can't help but respond to your issue. I am a 40 yr old mother of 3 who has been married to a very similar man. We had a similar marriage in the beginning. We were married but we weren't a married couple if you know what I mean. He didn't seem to behave like a husband. He w...more40 yr old fool
15-12-2007Men like that are just hankering after a mother figure. Always there to love them whatever they do. He needs to wake up and grow up or find a woman who has problems too. Like seeks like but you seem far more advanced than him. believe me, I've been out with commitment phobes and they never m...morekimbob
21-2-2007Chiefs Fan, are you going out with my ex? :) Sorry, joking aside, I have to tell you something that you are probably not going to want to hear. He will NOT change. The reason he is acting like this is that deep down he is insecure. He sleeps with other women because this boosts his ego. When ...moreMorgaine
19-1-2007"Er inDoors" if I may ask, have you ever tried leaving him? Perhaps that will sit him up if he really loves you and cherishes your marriage. I think it will make him see that he cannot take you for granted at all times. On the other hand, if you do threaten to leave, and he allows you to, ...moreEmelda
14-12-2006I have been with my boyfriend for 5 yrs going to 6 years. During those 5 years this relationship was a roller coaster, I caught him cheating more than 6 times, we separatd all those time and we ended up together. He would cry his heart out and me being the person that I am I would forgive him. I to...morechiefs fan
09-12-2006Ive been with ny husband for ten years,during the first two years he couldnt get enough of me.We would have sex atleast three times aday at any given time,even when we had company we would dissapear into the nearest bathroom.It was so exciting and welcoming.We have since got married and before we di...morerc
21-11-2006hi can some one please give me adivice on trust. Ive been married for 6yrs and just latly things have gone really sour. Im finding it realy hard to trust my husband. he does not show affection or reasure me that I am the only one that he wants. Like all men he does look at other women and when he&#...morefee
06-8-2006Well "Er Indoors" if I can help, sure it's an offer. If I can't then I can put you in touch with some other very compassionate, helpful people. Only if you want that of course. And Dimo is my real name! You can email here - xilifus@aol.comDimo
24-7-2006Was that an offer 'Dimo'???? Michael Caine - maybe not such a pain after all (we have crossed swords on other pages, when I was using another tag) - you can be rather nice/funny when you want to be, eh? Attila - like minded woman! All WILL change when I fully recover from my surgery, at l...more'Er in Doors'
19-7-2006Attila - you are prob right about him being toooo comfortable in this relationship, he could talk his way into/out of anything - being as he IS a counsellor (Dimo - thanks for the suggestion, but talking to him doesn't work). As far as me going to sleep and him 'slipping me a length' (m...more'Er in Doors'
10-7-2006WOW! I got that feeling where I've heard somthing before (yawn)...... 1. Life is difficult. 2. It's also difficult for your partner too. 3. Ask yourself 'Why does he have to slip you a length while I'm asleep?' As soon as you come to terms with some of these answers ...moremonkey on back



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