10-March-2010

Single parent, dad doesn't pay maintenance

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I am fed up with parents who will not take responsibility of their own children. I am a single mother to my 4 year old daughter, her Dad left me for another woman when she was 7 months old. He has done nothing but move from one relationship to the next and now has a one year old and newborn by his current girlfriend. He always seems to have some excuse as to why he can’t pay me maintenance. Meanwhile his girlfriend is sat at home breeding and I’m burning myself down to the ground working full time struggling to make ends meet and being a full-time mum trying to provide the best for my daughter.

It really gets me when my daughter comes back from her Dad's with bottles of Ribena and MacDonald’s Happy Meal toys and then proceeds to tell me he’s only got £10 to last him until the end of the week. Then why go to MacDonald’s in the first place. And the amount of times when we’ve been to Tesco's she points out all these things that Daddy’s got from nice food to DVDs. In the meantime, we live off of value meals and anything we can find at the reduced counter and certainly can't afford to buy DVDs.

He's not paying me any maintenance

The other thing that gets me is that he chose to move about 60 miles away from me and many a time has suggested we meet half way when he has my daughter. No way, why should I pay for the petrol for his convenience especially when he’s not paying maintenance. When he does eventually give me a cheque 9 times out of 10 it bounces.

The final straw was the other weekend when he took the family to a wildlife park on Father’s Day and when he brought her back he told me that he couldn’t have her next weekend as he didn’t have any money for the petrol. Get your priorities right mate, don’t spend money on a day out if you can’t afford it. There are many places you can go for free and take a picnic with you so you don’t have to buy food at the venue. You do not have to spend money on your daughter to make her happy!

Most recently he told me that he’s finally got a permanent job and things will be back to normal next month. Normal, what is normal? He mentioned that the wages aren’t very good and proceeded to tell me that he’s been in contact with the CSA and should only be paying me £26 a week. Well he’s seems to have forgotten that he hasn’t given me anything for the past 4 months anyway. What planet is this guy on!

I just wish that he would settle down and face his responsibilities instead of swanning round like he’s got money when he hasn’t got two ha’pennies to rub together.

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Site Admin 02-Feb-2010 21:25

Tracy, imagine what would happen at the CSA if every single divorced dad just stumped up the £500-00 or £600-00 a month that they demanded, or just deducted from the blokes hard earned money,

They would put it up to £1000-00 a month to keep girl power happy, the blokes out there that don't pay are telling the CSA what would happen if they increased the deductions, more and more men wouldn't pay,

I was forced to pay a kings ransom to an undeserving adulteress whore who also stopped access, she did the same to her second husband, we don't want to encourage more of the likes of her, do we?

I am sorry for you, if the reason that the father is not with you isn't your fault.

Gainsborough lad. 02-Feb-2010 09:23

I get £2.50 per week for 2 children I think the system is crap, I also have found a new site with a story board where you can have your gripe, www.dadsthatdontpay.com I hope this link is not breaking the rules.

Tracy 02-Feb-2010 07:34

maintenance arrears are £40,420.10...no enforcement, child poverty? welcome to my world!!
Self employed actively encouraged to defraud the system!!

unta 28-Jan-2010 22:45

yeah, I agree with you, why should he spend all the money on taking them out for one day and then not bother for weeks on end because he's 'so called broke'.

bea 28-Jan-2010 13:28

Gainsborough Lad claims to be a " full time working taxpayer ", yet he seems to spend his entire life posting comments on this website. Funny that?

Digsy 26-Jan-2010 04:17

julz, bitter and twisted towards the female species? I am very sorry that you don't like reading the truth, enjoy an easy life on me, full time working taxpayer, gute nacht.

Gainsborough lad. 25-Jan-2010 23:17

anyway I am leaving this discussion now, because there is obviously no point in reasoning with small minded people like yourself. I hope that one day, you get to meet a woman who stops you feeling so bitter and twisted towards the female species. I doubt it likely, since you are correct about everything and will likely not let anyone chip at that good old armour. smile. relax. it doesnt hurt. just don't expect people to take your crap if you carry on this way. I bid you farewell.

julz 25-Jan-2010 23:13

You may be a taxpayer, but you are putting in a little and taking out a lot, it makes us taxpayers that put in a lot and take out little, rather annoyed.

Gainsborough lad. 25-Jan-2010 23:12

no, you just do not have any substinance. It is not my fault if you cannot think of any proper decent arguments and keep on coming back with repetative whingy remarks without actually listening to what people have to say and taking any of it on board. YOU are the one who is obscenely insulting.

julz 25-Jan-2010 23:08

I AM a taxpayer you dork. I will enjoy my glass of wine this weekend however I suggest you purchase a bottle and drown yourself with it to loosen yourself up a bit. oh, of course, you cannot afford the £1.99 for a bottle of lambrini because all women are evil and have stolen all of your money, laughing evily. get a clue will you?

julz 25-Jan-2010 23:06

And I take note that you are calling me a preaching trollop, running out of dialogue are you? and resorting to insults? little wonder your bloke left you if that is the way you conduct your discussions.

Gainsborough lad. 25-Jan-2010 23:04

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