Child support overpayments advice

Grizzly, I'm afraid Graham does have to give her some of his bonus (as well as 15% of Child Tax Credit if he has any other kids with his current parner), don't even get me started on this!!!!

Don't pay her a penny. You do not have to giove her any bonus. You pay for the children by CSA that is it. Don't pay no more. Anything you give to her is not taken into account. You must keep a recored off every thing. Remember all you do is pay CSA. Dont give your x any money. My husband let his x have the house and all in it. He walked with his clothes that is it. She got everything. He paid CSA and the morgage as she lied and said she got not a thing. We are in a battle with the CSA. Who do not beleave she got the house and 7 thousand endowment she cashed in. And yet still the CSA are taken 40% of his wage. He does not even have enough to live on. It would not rent him a home and pay bills if he was alone. Don't fall for the trap my x husband fell for. As I said just pay what the CSA say. And good luck with them. They make up all sourts. We are a member of the CSA do not give just to fathers. The CSA don't allow them to move on.

my grammer is not good,but you have to remember one thing in life your children are yours. joint custdody is the way to go just show love to them,be a mum be a dad over time this will become true. you dont need csa that is just a cop out get back to basics .im only writing this because I have been there myself and still am and never needed some goverment, council or any organisation to tell me how to bring up my children. im not perfect , who is!!

Graham,payments you make to her will be taken into account if these were made after the CSA contacted you as that will be when you will be liable from. Anything you do give her make sure you keep receipts,NEVER give her cash in hand.

Then what is the answer to having no CSA?
answers please.

Go to the forum afairercsaforall.co.uk

They give help for free :)

Being recently married and expecting my first child next year, it would be easy for me to read gripes like this one and become depressed and/or terrified about my future.

But the fact is, most of us get married, love each other, and stay married, have kids and don't split up. Most women - and men - are in fact decent honest people who do NOT go out of their way to snipe and attack and steal money off others.

I feel sorry for people who've been shafted by the system, honestly I do, but guess what, there's a world of lovely people out there who genuinely want to treat you right. Things may seem frustrating at the moment but it won't always be like that. Let the evil CSA do what they will, let the bitter ex have their fun, because life will be kinder to you in the long run, and your conscience will be clear.

Gainsborough Lad, there is no 'feminist stranglehold', just a society that assumes everyone else will pay for their offspring when it all goes wrong.

Men and women can be as bad as each other with their petty point scoring. The only real harm that is done is to the children stuck in the middle.

Correct use of the English language and punctuation would make your post more 'readable'.

Shut this 'Gravy Train' quango down now. It costs £12 million to run and only collects £8 million at a cost to the taxpayer of £1.85 for every £1 collected. They persistently target the ones who pay because they are not capable of finding the ones who have never paid. Therefore, criminalising and persecuting law abiding people.

In this age of 'new' poltics. Cameron and Clegg could show true leadership by shutting it down now! They won't of course because there is no 'new age' of poltics. It's the usual self indulgence for personal and poltiical gain!

Hi Graham

Unfortunatety the CSA do not take into consideration what you spend on clothes, bedrooms etc. I'm so afraid that your bonus (as with any bonus) will be taken into consideration....

If your ex gets the CSA involved then your case only starts when they get in contact with you, so any bonuses will get taken into consideration when they calculate a monthly maintenance schedule!

What you could do to 'cover' yourself is go onto the CSA website and work out how much you're supposed to pay and add up what you have been paying her, then take 25% of your bonus (as you have 3 kids) and minus what you have already paid over a year, I'm assuming the bonus is yearly? If there is any difference then pay her that. Its just a thought and its reasonable.....

The CSA is suppose to help, when I hear of these situation as described above, it makes me so angry!

Tell your ex-wife to get a job which pays a bonus and you want part of that for time the children are at your house.

A friend of mine has a child, paid CSA and everything else they don't seem to take into account (like buying clothes). Following an arguement between the child and the mother, the child moved in with the father permantely. As you'd expect CSA stopped (and rightly so). The mother is now sueing my the father as she says she can't afford her mortgage now the CSA has stopped.

Some mothers just use CSA for money for themselves! Note I said SOME and not ALL!

its not always money grabbing women you know id have gladly settled for nothing to get away from my abusive ex then as he carried on being insulting and laughing at our poverty while him a very rich businessman and I worked for him for 10 years putting up with his mother and his evil snipes at me earning 75k in the divorce paperwork gets a 150.00 a month for 2 kids csa amount he has to pay me which is just another insult to our kids....id pay someone to sort this out why should a millionaire get away with that when you all seemingly not so well off dads get to pay 2-4 times this amount.....no justice either way in my opiunion and id be glad to know how to sort this one out also as ive taken a loan of 25% of my pension for us to have a car and some clothes which weve been unable to buy for 5 years!!!