Dealing with the ex wife is so frustrating

my ex wife of 5 years is also very spiteful she is still tormenting me and my new wife, [who I didnt meet until 12monts after my seperation] she has told so many lies ie I used to beat her up, iv verbally threatened her, iv harrassed her on the phone im a gangster iv sent boucers to her house I ran off with another woman, and the list goes on and not one of these allegations are true, im pretty sure id have been locked up by now.... while on holiday she superglued my wifes locks on the doors costing £200 ro repair.. I divorced her because of her unreasonable behavior, debt and deciet which she didnt contest.... the court ordered the sale of the house 10 july 2006 the sale sign did not go up until 28 october after numerous solicitors letters. she lives in the house with her boyfriend and we pay 50/50 mortgage each until its sold. my problem now is she is putting viewers off by saying she has mice noisy neighbours and pointing at a babys cot saying I am having her and my grandaughter thrown on the streets, this feedback was l given to me by the estate agent, I went to seek a solicitor who telephoned the agent , the agent denied she was hindering the sale because the agent is afraid of ex as she is very loud. in june last year 09 I had a text from my daughter saying the flat roof was leaking and two ceilings had fell in and would I go half with ex to have the roof repaired I agreed. to cut a long story, she didnt want my reputable roofer she wanted her own who had no name no contact details [stalemate] ,august 09 I sent a solicitors letter to force her to get the roof repaired which was carried out in oct. to date jul 10she still hasnt had the 2 ceilings repaird. it will cost me £1400 to take her to court as she is hindering the sale.

my partner is having trouble with csa.after fifteen years of no contact the infertile?woman who had his child?has reared her ugly head and demanded 120 a month off him(arrears inc)he is only a hgv driver on a low wage,we have a four year old and now we cant get married so my child is losing out.this woman got married three years ago so my fella(her cash cow)filled the gap when her benefit stopped when she married (learning delay disabilty,for seventeen year old daughter).she married money(of course)she claimed benefits for years but still managed a 120,000 house buy at the same time(working illegally?)csa cancelled original order on her instruction?then denied all knowledge,saying it was a mistake,hence 10,000 arrears to pay.i'm all for a father? paying support but fifteen years later she moved on he moved on,she laughing in our faces,me desperate.working five jobs with two health probs of my own,no chance my son will have his mummy and daddy together.cant afford it!one more year that is if she doesn find a way to keep him paying.she knows how to play the system,we dont.HOW CAN THIS BE FAIR?how does the spiteful cow sleep at night.nothing from her for years then this.thanks JW.

bitter and twisted (i think not) but hurt for being taken for a ride, which is only normal. if I were you keep the relationship up with your children and TOTALLY cut her off out of your life, your children are old enough to have direct contact with you (my partner pays for his childrens mobile phones so they can always contact him) dont run their mother down to your children or let them know how you feel, best of luck (i am just so glad im not one of these disgracefull horrible women that I keep reading about)

Nannytothefather- I do not agree with your comment I would have thought more of your situation if you had said "I love my children so much that I live within a mile of them and insist on 50-50 joint care". In our situtation my partners ex ran off with his best friend, moved him in the same day she moved the kids out of the family home, was pregnant within a couple of weeks and took the children 250miles away--- why should my partner then have left his job and his home to earn half the amount of money and live in a flat( as to go from north to south that would have been the case) to chase her round the country-- because then the next thing would be oh your living accomodation is not suitable for overnight stays. I know each case is different but one thing that most people fail to recognise is what is in the best interest of the child????? and in our case for an ex who is happily she has a funny way of showing it as the only trouble caused is by her- whether that be because of jealousy, regret or somethin else we dont know all we know is we do everything we can to make the kids happy with as little stress for them as possible.

Tonight at 9 pm on BBC2, is the documentry about not been able to see your children, because you have no money left to take your ex wife to court, because the CSA has taken it all. and when you don't take her to court, she can then tell the children that you don't love them, and you won't ever see them again, but you will be still be expected to pay for them five times over.
3 million women can't be wrong?

>>>>> UK is the Home of the how to make women rich quick and how to make men homeless and not see their geourgeous children ,<<<<<<


WAKE UP MP,S --- SEE THE LIGHT ?

Equal parent responsibility,lol no such thing here in UK 8 months not seeing my children and no one can help , living in a van ,wife living in the house I worked so hard to get .

UK law is an ass,, about ime it was mended ,, to many families are broke up because the woman knows shes in a win win situation ,,, UK LAW SUCKS ,,,,,,,, BIG TIME!

Ditto! At my divorce hearing the judge told my ex that she'd had it too good for too long as she was always reliant upon my income, and told her to get a meaningful job. He was right of course, but I still got ripped off! I brought a child up on my own, who has gone on to be well educated and has high moral standards and a good job. I had contact with the other one, but she persistently broke the court order which was affecting the children. In the end I told her to grow up and act responsibly. Needless to say she did neither. I am well rid of her but she has caused mayhem with the kids because she is a control freak! the Government and courts only want your money. They have no interest in your family circumstances or your children!

There are two sides to every story. My daughter's father believes he loves her, texts her saying so, and then decides to leave the country, which is allowable in law (although I couldn't legally leave because my daughter resides with me).

I have no doubt that there are bad mothers, bad fathers, and indeed bad partners of parents. Have YOU done anything that may upset her? Moved further away from the children? I'm sure you don't pay for her 'lifestyle' as child maintenance doesn't cover any parent's lifestyle.

And, not working for years doesn't mean that she hasn't been looking after the children while you go to work.

Perhaps I'm being extreme and you may well be an excellent Dad, but I would have thought more of your situation if you had said "I love my children so much that I live within a mile of them and insist on 50-50 joint care".

I have been involved in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years, and we want to get married soon. During all the years I have dated my boyfriend, the ex was a real problem. She had him locked-up several times (although I whitnessed that she was the problem many times). She had an interdict against him. When we met, I suggested that he gets one against her as well, as she also seems to have a problem.

Well, as soon as he got the interdict, she had he locked up, because he phoned her. At the end, she withdrew the case, but poor little boy of 6 had to witness all of this.

The ex wife did everything to spite us. She eventually moved to Cape Town. This cost us thousands of rands, because we had to fly down the little boy holidays. Often I would look at the little boy, and see the destructive patterns the parent's relationship left on him. Today, he stays with us, my husband to be has custody and guess what - the mother moved back from Cape Town and now stays not far from us.

She (that was so scared of her ex) constantly touches and phones. She influences her child in such bad ways that it causes friction in our household. Unbelievable!

Anon, why not try and get your MP to get this word "whore" eradicated from the English language if you think they don't exist.