Bank account emptied by ex-husband

He's a complete w*nker for doing that to you. Maybe he gambled and lost the money or tried to put it back in the business. Anyway have you ever considered naming and shaming him in one of those women magazines or tabloid newspapers? I am sure they would be interest to hear your story and pay you for it..

Having worked for the dreaded CSA in the past unfortunately the maximum you could get from him is £5 per week and this would be set up directly with Incapacity Benefit (I assume it is that he is claiming) and taken out at source before he received his money every week / fortnight.

The better you get the claim into the CSA the better as the child maintenance can only be backdated to when they first contact your ex husband and 'establish parentage'. If however he comes off IB then a default maintenance decision could be imposed if he failed to provide employer details in the event he finds himself a job. This is typically between £30 and £50 per week.

As other posters have mentioned have you thought about taking him to the small claims court to try and recoup some of the lost money?
Good luck!

this is great. So much like my family situation. Only my mother and I were dumped abroad and I'm in theory an 'adult' but have had mental health problems and difficulties with moving into independent living. He ran off back to the Uk where he took a prestigious teaching post and got paid a great salary. The last 2 Christmases we were either homeless or on the brink of homelessness. Great life.

So far as I know, so long as he's in the same country as you you shouldn't have a problem.
They might not sieze his benefits but they might make him pay a certain amount per month to you.

Good luck!

What goes around comes around ,he will pay in the end,it is strange how you can live with someone and never really know them.but he should watch his back as what will she do to him in the end !

Your Children will know who is bringing them up and one day the father may regret what he has done...by then it will be too late.

You would be better off waiting for him to get his act together before going after him for any money (divorce or maintenance) as it would appear he has none. I would say it is quite unlikely you will ever get much (if anything) out of him. You can't get blood out of a stone.

You definitely need to get yourself a decent solicitor though.

Unfortunately this kind of thing can and does happen when one person controls the financial side of things. Next time (if there is a next time) keep it all separate. It is a hard lesson to learn though.

Time to wise up. Perhaps you'll chose a better partner next time. Chances are you won't though.

That's outrageous I feel for you, there are usually 2 sides to every story but I don't think there is in this case, Good Luck.

my ex husband did the same to me, gambled and lost £12000 savings in 1 month and stole £2500 from my personal savings account and the very morning I found out, I returned home from the school run after dropping off my 2 children and carrying my 12 week old baby into the house to find what at first I thought was a burglary, turns out he took the tv and my babies sterilizer and legged it, later I found out he was screwing another woman because as I had a complicated birth could not perform 'wifely duties' I don't care what people say about single mothers stopping the father from seeing his children, there is always a reason....they make their beds they can sleep in the sh#t they make. Divorce him and take him to court for every penny he stole.

The seriousness of your situation is inappropriate for a gripe site. No one here is likely to be qualified to give the sort of in-depth advice you need. You should see a solicitor - and soon!

Good luck! It looks like you need it.

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about everything you're going through. Unbelievable how your ex-husband could act like that. I've got a few financial problems myself but at least they're of my own making! I don't know anything about maintenance so can't help you there - other people probably do and they'll help - but just wanted to say 'Good luck and keep your chin up!'

What a b*stard! I really feel for you, what a complete nightmare and shock, I really cannot understand what you're going through.

As for the CSA, as he is on benefits you are only entitled to £5 per week, something along those lines. Have a look on the CSA website.

Have you been to CAB?