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Single life and career versus parents with kids

I'm fed up of hearing about parents who are finding "life" hard as they have children.  Let's support and stick up for all the single people out there for a change.  After all, life isn't always easy for us either!

I have many friends who are married or live together and have children.  It's the same old story all the time with them going on and on about how I don't understand what it's like to have children and they have it harder than I do.  Well, yes I'm single, my choice, just like your choice to have children!  You've made your bed and you have kids, so deal with it don't lecture those of us who have chosen to stay single and not have kids.

As a single person I have to look after the house, do my own washing and ironing.  I have to deal with everyday things like the bank, go to work FULL TIME, sort the garden out, clean and tidy up, wash the car, do the shopping.  I have to do all my own D.I.Y. and I do all of this on one wage packet!

Parents with kids

As a single person I don't have a partner who helps out

What these people don't appreciate is that there's two of them and therefore they have a ready made support network to help deal with things.  As a single person I don't have a partner who helps out, for example whilst I'm mowing the lawn, no one is doing the ironing or cooking.  I don't have extra income such as additional tax allowances, extra money (eg, child support) and I don't need to leave work early or come in late because I have child care issues.  Why should someone who chooses to do the same job as me have the right to come in early or late (and do less work than me!) because they choose to have children?

Yes, I appreciate looking after children is probably hard work, but there's two of you!  Rant over, but I could go on and on and on about it.  My gripe is mainly with those parents out there with children who use the kids as an excuse for ABSOLUTLEY EVERYTHING!

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This gripe is stupid, your a bitter contracting bore! Your angry that your single and other people arnt? Then dont get pregnant to a daddy who wont stick round idiot! So what you run yourself ragged, thats what we all do now get on with it an stop moaning. God some people have no lives whatsoever

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Tinks - 19-Apr-11 17:41 

@Rob
5 kids
Another one sponging of the state.
You want and have kids then you shouldn't expect single people to support you.

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Rob benefit sponger - 25-Jul-10 10:05 

Well..I have 5 kids and the benefits go up with each child......It's great....I'm not moaning about anything.... The original griper seems a stuck up cow to me.

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Rob - 20-Jul-10 17:50 

Could not agree more, I am sick of listening to parents going on about there so called responsibilties! If they did'nt want the hassel then they should have thought about having kids before they did.

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windy miller - 8-Jul-10 15:34 

Yes, you do have huge responsibilities ; the same ones that everyone else has to reduce our population. Every problem that the world faces from oil to food to clean water will made immeasurably worse if our numbers keep growing.

Please don't say that it is only poor countries who are adding to the population explosion - each individual is responsible for their own actions.

If every woman had four children then the population of our small country would make life intolerable here. Thank god not everyone is as irresponsible as you are.

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jonesy - 2-Apr-10 13:57 

I have huge responsibilities as a mother of four, however that state brings so many other benefits, social, mental and emotional that single friends will never have, and would like despite those heavy responsibillities. Those friends are not fulfilled in the same way, and find their demanding jobs harder because they don't have the 'balance of life'. My single friends have not been fortunate enough to experience what I have, often through no fault of their own. They 'go through the motions' of a social life to stay a bit sane, but at 40, 45 and 50, clubs are not what it's about. They deal with the knowledge of growing older without 'continuity' of children, some extra help-if they're lucky when they're older, being able to have 'family conversations' with other adults. The odd moan helps them deal with pressures that you or I won't experience. As the saying goes 'The grass is greener on the other side', for those with and without children.

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Jo - 2-Apr-10 12:52 

Your own washing and ironing - wow, you must be so proud, I do 4 lots of washing and ironing, work full time, etc....get a grip and stop complaining. At the end of the day you haven't got the responsibility that parents have.

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saz1 - 28-Mar-10 08:59 

well no, she sounds like a bit of a c*** I see your point in that circumstance

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angry at you - 27-Jan-10 22:23 

Angry at you, so a dad comes home from work and finds out his wife has took flight with his three kids and moved in with a new daddy and the only answer people like you can come up with is the old wear a condom statement

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angry at you as well.. - 27-Jan-10 22:16 

or move to a different country if you dont like our government. lets send you bitter twisted people off onto a boat into the direction of the bermuda triangle

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angry at you - 27-Jan-10 21:48 

why do men moan on and on on this subject (below) if you dont wanna get caught out, use a condom and make sure the woman is on the pill. if you dont you are just as guilty so accept youre also at fault and pay up! it takes two to tango!

and the below comment is ridiculous. I know lots of mums who were well miffed that they couldnt go to work coz schools were closed, and they had no option but to stay at home and look after their kids. thats just how life is when you have kids. what everyone is failing to remember on these boards is that we were all kids once! if someone wants to have kids its their right and choice, stop moaning!

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angry at you - 27-Jan-10 21:46 

Now the snow is here, parents want paid time off to look after their kids whos teachers can't be bothered to go into work. Don't worry parents us single people will run the companies well you lot stay at home doing nothing.

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Snow - 6-Jan-10 09:17 

You, you are bloody well right. Christmas is not a time for children! It is a time for more hard-working tax payers to start doling out more money to scroungers who breed like rabbits!

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miserablemoaninggit - 31-Dec-09 22:36 

Christmas - not a time for children.
Christmas - not a time for children.

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You - 30-Dec-09 10:52 

Miserablemoaninggit, ten out of ten for that last posting, really love it,

It just sums up what the governments hae been letting "SOME" women get away with for years.

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Gainsborough lad. - 11-Dec-09 21:04 

Ridiculous? Not as ridiculous as: If a woman falls pregnant and cannot afford to raise the child herself, then those people who have opted out of having children, should be forced to dig deep into their pockets, provide sustenance and support to a child not of their choosing, help raise it, pander to it, maintain it and its mother in welfare for at least 16 years, probably more, at no point having been asked to do this, at no point having been consulted, rather it just being imposed, because an ignorant, probably rather stupid person, has decided that she wants a child, and that' that - she wants it, and she will have it!

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miserablemoaninggit - 11-Dec-09 19:35 

If a woman falls pregnant and cannot afford to raise the child herself, it should be taken from her - That most ridiculous thing I have read on this wall

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joke - 8-Dec-09 11:25 

Sex, it's the great engineering tool of kids. Get knocked up, and a myriad earthlings arrive. Quite like science fiction really. Sex crazy we all are, aren't we?

Make a religion out of it and then soon you'll have a whole congregation, with the emphasis on Con.

The thought ra[idly goes to your head

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Traits - 17-Nov-09 23:10 

I don't want to have kids, yet I have many,
I don't want to be a father, and yet I have sons and daughters,
Sure Start, child benefit, family tax credit, free prescriptions for children, maternity leave, paternity leave, proposals to give grandparents payments,
Who pays for these?
Me! The single person. The 'I have no choice but to feed and clothe other peoples kids' person. The 'I have no choice but to support an ever burgeoning human population of over 6.7 billion' person. The 'I'm fed up to the back teeth of supporting benefits parents having benefits kids' person.

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miserablemoaninggit - 16-Nov-09 23:52 

It's started now with Christmas holidays.

"I've got children so can't work Christmas Eve or New Year's Eve or any time in between Christmas Day and New Year's Day."

So, because you've got children and I don't and do the same job as each other means I have to work all over Christmas. Equal Rights means exactly that EQUAL.

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Me - 13-Nov-09 09:58 

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