Ex won't have the kids overnight

Sweetheart be real, parents in relationships seldom get a break or a social life. Its just at the moment you`re insecure, after all when you chose to be a parent and your life alters reguardless of whether your in a relationship or not. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and worrying about him having a social life and think about the kids, after all someone has to, it may as well be their mother ." In other words sod him"

I wish more women were like you and wanted the father to take an active role in their kids life regardles of what happened between them x

I totally totally know wher youre coming from my ex walked out 2years ago to be with another woman since then he picks and chooses when he has them I want him to have alternate weekends or a saturday night instead of a friday but he wont work with me it frustrates the hell outta me n hes the one that walked away I find it hard to get sitters too I think its soo unfair that us women get treated like we do its about time these so called doting dads should wake up and realise its not always about the mother either its scarring and hurting their kids too shame on men x

After being married for 23 years and 2 children my ex simply got on with his life and barely saw our 15 year old son who was going thru a rough time. Instead of being there for him my ex spent all his time on the internet looking for a new woman!!! He sees our other young son [11] when it suits him and if he doesnt turn up tells my son instead of letting me know. If he wants a free weekend he texts and says Im going away - no thought for me at all despite a MOA stating he has access at weekends. He just ignores it, me, our eldest son and when he wants the youngest too. He is now married to a much older woman without kids and tells me that "life is too short" not to enjoy!!! What about mine and our children's lives? I have never known anyone so twisted, selfish and bitter in my life. I will never and I mean never live with a man again. I trusted the one I was with for 25 years and now we just dont exist. How can you trust again when the one person you expect to turns out to be a lying cheating manipulative selfish rat.

After reading your note, it sounded remarkably familiar!! Ive got 4 kids 10 and under and exactly the same situation with no family nearby to help. Im glad to hear its not just me. Suppose we should just be thankful that we dont have the stress of the men wanting custody which is what ive seen from some couples that have split - both bad in different ways I guess. I wish you well in managing to get out a bit more. Very best wishes. Liz

If you can afford to pay for a studio flat for him why can't you afford to get a babysitter if you 'develop' your social life?

Then again maybe you are actually saying that you'd be happy for him to sleep on the sofa in his studio flat, maybe he's waiting until he gets a bigger place with TWO bedrooms.

Reading this has me feel I'm not alone, I thought I was the only one in this position its just so hard and my daughter is heartbroken don't know where to turn no one seems to be able to help>

Becca, Sorry to hear that. It's the same story all over but it's not an issue of gender here. It's all about self ex's and there's an equal number of both I think that won't have the kids overnight.

Gainsnorough lad, don't sweat it. Just another uneducated trout. Plenty of them in society.

may I also add I have to pay my ex when he does have them!! and he never gives me a penny!..and ive never once stopped him seeing them

snap im 22 with 2 girls my ex will only see them when it suits him which is hardly ever!!!...they bang on about fathers being hard done by,what about us women...i havent been out for nearly 2 years its depressing

Ex wont have the kids overnight.15th oct 2009 13:14.
This posting needs some punctuation in there somewhere before it makes any sense to me.

wat can we do to change the law I have been reading a few of these posts and it seems we r almost all in the same boat how do we changed this isnt it only fair the fathers do the same amount of work with the kids as we do the biggest thing they cant deal with is a women moving on