Friends with unruly kids

I do believe that children should be seen and not heard. Maybe I'm a little Victorian in my ways but I do believe it be for the best. The good and benefit for one and all.

I can't imagine any other way of upbringing a child and if there be such a way, you must've failed somewhere along the line at being a parent.

send them to Cotillion ! :)
honestly it works rather well theyll learn manners, formal dance, how to eat and set up a seven course meal useing the right utensils, and how to RSVP to a ball or other parties.

Hi its simple, its your home and you dont want it wrecked, you could say it in a light hearted way the next time they ask to come to yours say that you were thinking of redecorating and could their kids give you some quotes. Then sit back and watch the fireworks go off. Sorry some people you just cant talk to about their kids, their little darlings, Refuse to have them and their kids round, dont give reasons, go round to theirs,or if all else fails get a rothweiller who hates kids. Sorted.

Emma, How many effing times are you gonna say children, their kids, not children,

Hi Frustratednonparent: Let's get this straight: NO - your friends are NOT intelligent, responsible members of society if they do not discipline their children! Look at the stress it has put you through! SO let's get this straight: your friends are NOT intelligent, responsible members of society! Intelligent, responsible members of society TEACH THEIR CHILDREN better from the moment the child can WALK and EARLIER. The children's education begins almost immediately as to what is acceptable behaviour and what is not!

I just wanna say I agree! :) I have a 5 year old daughter ,and I am not saying she is perfect but she is pretty awesome and well behaved! I Am so sick of finiding new friends and then realizing I can't deal with being around ther unruley children.

By the way, clear up time make it a game.

"The person who is the best at putting everything away gets £1 "(from mums purse)

put slow music on to support the need for it to be slow

Remember we walk in the house.

You have 10 minutes before you leave........

I will be watching from ............

If people come to your home; you set the rules!

Shoes off indoors
You my jump only jump outside on the grass.
Cushions stay on the sofa
You may only throw a ball or items at your house.
drinking and eating at the table in the kitchen.
Walk in th house
Use nice words
Calm voice
sit on the sofa when watching the telly

Try not to use the word don't or no it gets everyones back up and looks more interesting if the word NO is in a rule (worth breaking).

If the children are unable to manage then you need a consequence: Ok mum you sit with the kid who cant stop licking his feet and wiping it on my TV. But give them the chance to put it right!!

Children are children, and if you don't like the way they behave then speak to your friends and set rules. You can always reward the children for being good with a piece of fruit, sweet or tv programme.

If your friends do come around ask them to bring the childrens toys that can be taken away.
I'm sure your friends just think you are cool with it, be honest.
Good luck

IWhen my children were small they had to behave when they were out or they did not go , My mother did the same with me and my sisters. I did not give my children presents and sweets to keep them quiet ,I said if you behave while we are out you will get a treat at the end of the week ,it worked ! so many people seem to take their children out and expect Doctors ,Dentists & shop owners etc to babysit come on we all have responsibilities and by letting our children do as they please; they will have no respect for us later on in life. I once heard someone say that Teachers no longer teach manners in school, That is because manners should most definatly be taught by the parents at home .

You are talking to the wrong people. This won't end until you speak to the parent about this.

You are talking to the wrong people. This won't end until you speak to the parent about this.

No, but that wasn't the point in the original post! It's about responsible parenting. As such, you want to teach your child to respect other people's things etc therefore you don't sit back in somebody elses home and let your sprogs run riot. If it's beyond you as a parent for whatever reason, not to safeguard your pal's home, don't take you kids there. Have your friend over to YOU house where they can break stuff all day long if you want!!!!

Poster - don't let them come. Smile sweetly and say sorry, I have brand new cream carpets in my child-free home. Or by a nasty pet that runs loose and might be a risk.