Friends with unruly kids

IWhen my children were small they had to behave when they were out or they did not go , My mother did the same with me and my sisters. I did not give my children presents and sweets to keep them quiet ,I said if you behave while we are out you will get a treat at the end of the week ,it worked ! so many people seem to take their children out and expect Doctors ,Dentists & shop owners etc to babysit come on we all have responsibilities and by letting our children do as they please; they will have no respect for us later on in life. I once heard someone say that Teachers no longer teach manners in school, That is because manners should most definatly be taught by the parents at home .

You are talking to the wrong people. This won't end until you speak to the parent about this.

You are talking to the wrong people. This won't end until you speak to the parent about this.

No, but that wasn't the point in the original post! It's about responsible parenting. As such, you want to teach your child to respect other people's things etc therefore you don't sit back in somebody elses home and let your sprogs run riot. If it's beyond you as a parent for whatever reason, not to safeguard your pal's home, don't take you kids there. Have your friend over to YOU house where they can break stuff all day long if you want!!!!

Poster - don't let them come. Smile sweetly and say sorry, I have brand new cream carpets in my child-free home. Or by a nasty pet that runs loose and might be a risk.

I agree with you Meg but does that mean the child should be locked away and the parents should stay behind closed doors too!?

Surely as a responsible parent, if you know that you have a "difficult" child or a child with a medical condition, and you are aware that that might mean things get broken, or rules disobeyed or that child might act up in some way then you wouldn't inflict your child on your FRIENDS' lovely homes? You'd invite the friend to YOUR house where presumably, child included, everybody could be a lot more relaxed?

I think a huge part of the objection we feel to unruly children is not to the child themselves, but to the parents who sit back and do absolutely nothing. I have every sympathy for parents that you can see are trying their best with say, a dhild at the terrible two stage. But none at all where the 2 year old is rampaging around and the parent does orand attempts to do, nothing.

There are some kids on which the word "no" simply doesn't work. I grew up in one of situations, 1 good child 1 bad child. We were both raised the same way, only I preferred to follow the rules. I saw my parents take all of my brother's privileges away (TV, nintendo, going out with friends) and ground him for months, as soon as the punishment was over he went back to the same behaviors.
All children develop differently and until you've had a difficult child or lived with one every single day you won't understand how hard it can be.

If you read the comments on the gripe about the folding bike you will see, not a grumby (?) that I am NOT the same person who wrote the gripe! It appeared while I was on my hols (which I do not spend in internet cafes!) and I only found out that someone had borrowed my name, almost, when I came back. This other Grumpy now signs herself as Grumpyxx to avoid confusion.

Very well put Mr Hicks! If grumpy old woman is the same griper who folds her bike into a shopping trolley and is offended by boy scouts helping with her shopping than you really ARE the biggest grumpy old hag there is! and any children in your life must really disrespect you.

What!!!!!!!!!!
Pay no attention to grumpyoldc**t and mooning ninnie,they have never had to take on the responsibility of raising kids.

It really is a puzzle why they can be so different! I was just wondering if it was possible to find out if the other two have any control over the behaviour of the naughty one; could they be encouraging it in some way?
I know it's difficult these days when a slap is looked on as abuse!

As to the one with the "red" condition; that really doesn't sound normal!

grumpy old woman, you misunderstood what I was saying, my 3rd child is always punished for bad behavior, but they always get treated the same, if they are good well thats fantastic, if 1 is not he/she gets punished, simple! My point is if they are siblings being brought up in the same way and 1 is unruly isn't it a problem the child has rather than the parent, that child is given as much love time and attention as the others so why is there such a big difference in their behaviors? and I don't think I should punish the other 2 when their sibling is "naughty" As for the child with the red condition (can't remember the name) it is something in her brain that triggers once she is in contact with the pigment red, just the same as a bull!