Ex lives the life whilst maintenance is cut

One reason why men should not be allowed to hold good jobs.
Why everything should be turned on it's head and women should be the breadwinners.
Remember marriage = vulerability. marriage = dependance.
I'm never going to get married. Ever.

My husband physically and verbally abused me for nine years. I finally left him and he decided to go bankrupt. He has since set up a company in his mothers name and is earning in excess of £800 a week plus any company profit that he makes but is stateing that he is merely an employee of his mother and earning £289 a week of which I receive £42 for our two children (£7 is deducted because he has them every 14 days, he lives with his mother and she pays for their food whilst they are there). He asked me to put the company in his name and I refused!. I gave up a nursing course and several jobs because he refused to help look after our children and am now finding it difficult to get a job while he has had £2000 worth of porcelain veneers put over his teeth because he failed to brush them, a digger, a truck a new van and is treating his new girlfriend to I’m guessing anything she wants. He has a serious drug problem and always has had and lost three quarters of his lung because of it last year. Anyone who writes to you complaining that mothers decided to have they’re children so should get a job and stop relying on they’re meal ticket are completely missing the point that if absent fathers actually paid for they’re children, single mothers would not have to claim benefit that is being paid for by taxpayers. I could not get any help through CSA so have decided that the only way forward is to contact the internal Revenue Services and have him investigated for Bankruptcy Fraud. If you can’t beat them Join them!!!!

A comment back to karen just read your letter about your husband going into liquidation, my is not but i'm sure we married the same twat! mine is a deputy head teacher conned the court into 50% custody so he sleeps half and half with each of us. So he doesnt have to pay me csa he has the 4 bedroomed house and our new car, he has never bought his son a pair of shoes and 1 get £32 a week he picks up £750 a week. And got off on a court charge for allegedly doing sexual acts on himself infront of our son, he said he was doing pressups. How sick do u think I feel I would rather my x husband be 1000 miles away count it as being lucky your kids will realise your the best parent soon enough. Any good sloicitors out there to help me get son off a creep.please!

Optimistic1. sorry but your last 19 words dont ring true, there is little come-uppance for many adulterous women, only when their meal-ticket expires, but I am genuinely pleased that you have a nice place from your hard work, as there are too many people getting great reward in this country for contributing nothing whatsoever.

When I was 17 I fell for a guy who I went to my local FE college with he had been in a car accident some years previously and was claiming motability and various other benefits, bearing in mind he was able to play volley ball, go to the gym & was (I recognise now) in no way entitled to this motability vehicle (the tax payers pay for!) Being young and infatuated (stupid some might say) at the time I carried on the relationship for nearly 12 months. I had been accepted onto a course at university in Scotland to study speech therapy in the September but was unable to go as I became pregnant. I am now 34, my son has just turned 15. I married this guy as I came from a traditional family and it was seen as the thing to do. The marriage broke down the day after our sons 1st birthday and he has never paid a penny in maintenance. I did at various points contact the CSA over the years & was told many differing things. As it stands at the moment because he is registered disabled he does not have to pay maintenance to our son. I lived on benefits for 6 months and studied chunk by chunk over a number of years whilst working. My ex husband generally turns up maybe once or twice a year (unexpected) to bring a birthday/ Christmas card if he can be bothered. Over the years if he has been aware of our address he has sent our son postcards from his many holidays! I have been in a couple of relationships over the years but have always looked after our son financially and psychologically alone. He has autistic spectrum disorder and we have had more downs than ups over the years. My parents have been a great support over the years and we couldnt have got through without them. I have worked long hours as a nurse and found ways of trying to earn a bit extra over the years. My son and I now live in a detatched house in a nice area. Sod your ex there are some pretty horrid men out there but just remember what goes round comes round.

In the 1920's some senior judges regarded adultery as serious as murder, and would liked to have punished it the same, then somewhere in the 60's or 70's, they started giving adultresses free council houses, no questions asked benefits, not having to go to work, stop the dad's seeing their kid's, not to mention not wanting any blame, barry do you seriously think a married woman can just go out and have a load of affair's, get caught, and be then morally entitled for everything for free? off the taxpayers, ex husbands? I would just like them to go out to work and pay their half, barry I am reaching my final payments of keeping that bone idle, completley useless scrubber, soon after that her second cheated on ex husband will finnish paying, then she will be on minimum benefits, bare essentials only, barry I wont be bitter then, I suppose you think she should be kept by me and her second ex husband untill she is 65, bitter? I can assure you I am now happy at the thought that her state meal ticket is over, and to end this letter, barry, the world owes me a living? I have worked shift's all my life doing hard manual work.

Let him have custody, and get your self a job, you might even find that he wont even call in the csa, or do you see him as your personal meal ticket for the next ten years.

Here you go again. Same old crap about meal tickets. You really are bitter aren't you?

Gainsborough lad Wrote.

Dont worry Melissa, your meal ticket is on its way, the csa will put a charge on his house, if he dont pay they will take it off him, and he will lose everything, all he has ever worked for, you will be very happy then.

Meal Ticket? What for wanting what she is entitled to. Oh I see, you are probably one of these blokes who thinks they shouldn't pay for their kids. That the World owes them a living and no matter what the CSA decides should be paid out in maintenance will always scream bllue murder. You people make me sick. You and all the numpties should pay Child Maintenance and not be so bitter about it. My Partner has had a constant battle with her ex for years because he hated the fact that she had the gaul to divorce him when she found out about his constant infidelity. His revenge was to stop paying the maintenance they agreed on privately. Then had the cheek to cut up when she got the CSA involved but I suppose she is only after a meal tickt for her 3 kids, Grow up ffs.

Beet, I am in the same situation, my ex wife is a whore, she did the same to her second husband, I have worked almost every day since I left school and she has just dossed around on benefit all her life, I have remarried and now have a child in a wheelchair, who has no future but crawling from one room to another, she is as normal in her brain as anyone else but will never walk, all my / her spare cash has been taken by the ssa, "scrubbers support agency" and given to a bone-idle, conpletely useless non-productive drain on the state, thanks to the csa, my crippled child will also be poor for the rest of her life, just to make sure a scrubber has enough going out money, and this government has the gall to find fault with other countrys. you and your disabled child are losing your home and they are swimming in cash, sums up the csa, and it costs them 70p to collect a £1-00.

I think you are so greedy. Do u know what it cost to live? and why do u need 160 pounds a week for two kids? The Csa have took everything we are loseing our home because of greedy mothers that cant bring up there children. They are your kids get on with it. I rased two children no CSA. And they did great. My husbands x wife has ki11ed us. I lost my baby and my child is having food took out of her month to feed his bad kid they are on nealy 2 grand a month. The boy is so poor he can buy drugs. he has had nothing to do with this bad kid for 10 years. Yet him and his greedy mother still are allowed to put us and my brain cyst daughter on the streets. My daughter cannot walk and has fits and head pain everyday yet still people like you get away with this. I think you should all have to do 30 days in prison to see what a hard life is realy like. Now you all had your children stop complaneing and get on with your lifes and stop recking your x partners life.

Karen,
Carol Ann Duffy wrote
"I am not the first or the last
to stand on a hillock,
watching the man she married
prove to the world
he's a total, utter, absolute Garde A pillock."
As the big sister of someone in the same position I hope it helps

Dont worry Melissa, your meal ticket is on its way, the csa will put a charge on his house, if he dont pay they will take it off him, and he will lose everything, all he has ever worked for, you will be very happy then.