Women who don't get a round in
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This gripe is probably going to annoy every second person that reads it, but I don't care because I think this is something that needs to be said.

I'm willing to bet that, like me, a lot of you men have gone to a pub or club with a group of both male and female friends and discovered that, whilst men in general understand the British social custom of buying drinks in rounds, most women seem to have failed to grasp how it works. Either this, or they think that they are exempt from it for some reason or other.  Why do so few women get the drinks in when it should be their turn?

I know what you are thinking. 'Don't be so tight', and whatever happened to good old- fashioned chivalry?  Well, my answer is simple.  You can't have equality in only the areas that suit you; it has to be across the board and that includes paying your way in the pub!

Enjoy a free beer

An observation that has also been made, and thinking back on a number of occasions it is definitely true, is that when you see a woman at a bar she's usually buying drinks for just herself or for her girlfriend(s).  If there is a man in the group guess who gets the honour of going to the bar and buying all the drinks for the evening?  Let me give you a clue, it won’t be the girls!

However, as my friends and I have discovered after discussing this over a few beers one night, they're not all wallet leeches!  It seems that we all know at least one woman each that gets her round in, and quite often she'll be the first one to the bar.  She will never need reminding that her turn has come and really should be treasured as ‘one of the lads’.


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These are interesting points you have raised. I live in Australia and there is a general pattern here. If I am out with a group, I will buy my own drinks. If I know the guys well, they will probably shout me a few drinks. Most guys are genuinley embarrassed when girls try to buy them drinks over here. I personally would not like to be "treasured as one of the lads"...seeing as I am a female and all!
*Julie  07-Feb-2010 13:59

 
I went out with a girl in 1986, her hobby in nightclubs with her mate was drink cadging off strange men at the bar, once they had got their drinks they dissapeared.

After a six month relationship, so did I.
*Gainsborough lad.  10-Nov-2009 12:16

 
"Paying your way in the pub" " wallet leeches" .. hmm., you really are a chauvinist, aren't you?
I wonder. how many women come across men who don't pay their way? That's just something no-one ever talks about though, right?
I think the real deal is that YOU want to be a "wallet leech" yourself.
You're one of those spineless males who thinks women should give up their money just for some petty semblance of equality too..
Do men have to?
Oh and you've forgotten that in terms of equality generally in this country women still don't get paid the same as men - so actually if we're talking about equality it's only fair if you people just at least pay for the drinks, right?
I bet you get paid some 3,000 -5,000 pounds more a year than female me, right?
A classic example of a( closet, maybe - I don't want to be unfair) chauvinist manipulating women into yet another feeling of guilt about xyz..
*feckless wreck  10-Nov-2009 12:01

 
My experience is that when I go out with a group of friends the girls do pay for their round but give their money to one of the males to go to the bar.When it is just me and one of my girlfriends I always pay for the rounds,most men are a bit old-fashioned in that way so you cannot really blame women.
*Mr Hicks  15-Jul-2009 00:21

 
When I'm out with a group of friends we don't do rounds; instead we pair up with someone who matches our drinking speed, and take turns with that person buying each other's drinks, in a mini-round. It's cheaper and you don't feel pressured into drinking faster or slower than you normally would (I drink way too fast normally and I find myself having to get drinks I don't like to keep down to everyone else's pace when I have tried 'rounds'). I agree that women should buy drinks just as much as men, but by pairing in this way (or in threes, fours or whatever), the 'drinking speed equality' problem is removed.
*Mallory  22-May-2009 09:47

 
Interesting blog. The thing these nitwits don't get is that girls have no respect for guys who buy them drinks. What better way to become a doormat?

If a girl chooses not to buy drinks, point it out in a non-chalant way and remark about what year it is.
*Tyty  25-Oct-2008 03:08

 
Bottom line is - if you dont want to get involved in buying the beer then dont get involved in drinking it. I blame the witless twats who take these women into pubs and are happy to see them sponge off their mates in the hope of a **** later ..................
*Max  29-Sep-2008 14:45

 
Ive met women who go on about equality and tell you how much they earn etc etc then expect you as a guy to pay for everything. Ive met some not many who are happy to share but never met one who treated me. Girls you got your equality so drop the double standards.
*A griper.  19-Apr-2008 22:22

 
I was liking your article until the end when you said "and really should be treasured as ‘one of the lads’." This comment can appear very sexist to many people, looking like you imply that being one of the guys is something that should be treasured and that the other (one of the females) is below that realm. I can't make any other specific positive comments because I have lost my respect for your article.
*TruthHurts  21-Feb-2008 17:28

 
Do things my way as it is the only way.

The thing is women don't do rounds when they are out together. Me and my friends get our own. If we do do buy a round it's because we're feeling genourous and while it's polite to get another one in it's by no means expected.

If I'm out with blokes I would find it a little unfair to be buying rounds as I only drink half of what most blokes I know can.

So why don't men just not buy rounds if they are out with women? then everyone is happy.
*Silver  29-Sep-2007 19:47

 
The trouble is if you are in a big group and you all have various tolerance limits for alcohol then this system could encourage people to drink more than is healthy for them. Although I know some women who can outdrink big men this is not necessarily good or to be encouraged in the name of "equality".

Due to a medical condition I cant drink more than a pint in one evening. I have offended a few people by refusing to buy rounds and there seems to be a particular stigma attached to men opting out of this system.
*Pete  03-May-2007 23:44

 
I find women usually by there round. They may not go to the bar themselves and instead give there money to one of the male group members and send them instead.
*fred  29-Mar-2007 00:34


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