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Cheating husband took all our money, left me broke

After being married for 28 years and standing by my ex husband when he went to prison for fraud, we eventually had a decent marriage and even renewed our vows on our 25th wedding anniversary.  We then relocated to Spain for his career in 1999.  In Spain our villa and utilities were paid for by his company.  He was working for an international bank and was country manager.  His salary was $8,000 per month net.  We employed a chauffeur and housekeeper and he told me that as I had worked and dedicated my life to him and our 2 children, it was now time for me to sit back, enjoy life and relax - he said we were on easy street.

Within one year I came back to the UK because he was having an affair (denied of course) with a Spainish girl who was 26 and younger than our 2 children.  My ex husband told me at the time I was imagining this affair and that I was mentally ill and menopausal.  He took me to the doctor and I was prescribed anti-depressants and told to see a psychotherapist.  All the while he convinced me I was sick.  After 2 months our daughter came over to Spain to see what was happening and he even ended up hitting her.  I was finally sent by him to a clinic in the UK for help.  I asked the psychiatrist for my clinical diagnosis and he said "I was anxious due to a major life change" and not crazy.  I returned to Spain, caught him out and when I eventually discovered his secret he battered me senseless.  I was so low that I even tried to end it all several times.

My ex husband took money from our savings - $120,000 and spent it on this girl.  I supported myself in Spain (credit card).  When I left my ex husband said he would look after me and pay the mortgage on the matrimonial home, give me an allowance and buy me a car.  He paid the mortgage and the allowance once and never bought me a car, he even cancelled BUPA.  I was paying £1,000 mortgage plus utilities and renting a car.  I was severely in debt.

A couple on the beach The Court eventually awarded me £3,750 per month because of his non payment of mortgage and maintenance.  Did I get it - no!  He appears to be one of those people who just does what he wants and whilst he resided in Spain (pre-EU) he was able to get away with it.  He even came into Court and told the Judge that he gets paid in cash!!  Three weeks after our divorce in 2002 he married this girl in St Lucia in the Caribbean.  He had a vasectomy reversal, she had IVF treatment and now they have a child younger than his grandchildren.  I have now managed to get my life together.  I had to sell my home, (walked away with £30,000), sell my jewellery annd other assets just to get by.

When I contacted him via his company email I received a letter saying from his solicitors that I could go to prison for breaching a Consent Order.  He has treated me appallingly.  I am struggling to get my foot on the property ladder.  I bought a second hand Ford car and I work full time.

He and his wife have a villa, Mercedes cars and employer a chauffeur (she can't drive) nanny and housekeeper.  They fly business class all over the world and take 3/4 luxury holidays a year, skiing at Christmas in Switzerland etc.  They have a good lifestyle, expensive clothes and shoes, dine out regularly, private health-care and dentistry, she has beauty treatments and it may sound "sour grapes", but she has no lips and crossed eyes - her charms apparently lie in other areas.  My ex husband told me a couple of years ago that he had married a pretty woman once so he thought he would try it with an ugly one this time - what a charming man!!  Two ugly people inwardly and outwardly creating a baby; heaven help us all!  If you ever seem them - cross to the other side of the street, you can't be too careful.

By: Angela

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hildabell - 8-Dec-13 21:26

If you look at websites such as www.419eater.com you will see heartening stories of people who have decided to get their revenge on these scamming Nigerian filth, wasting their time and money and exposing them to ridicule.

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Friday Lunchtime - 7-Apr-13 15:38

"You wouldn't be one of those filthy Nigerian scamming lowlife scum would you"

Could be....

Definitely one of the worlds unmet needs - punishment for these spammers/scammers...

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Oi - 7-Apr-13 14:07

I AM MRS BOSE FROM UK .......

Why do you write all in capitals? You wouldn't be one of those filthy Nigerian scamming lowlife scum would you? They all write in capitals too ..... coincidence, of course! Or did your keyboard get stuck?

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Friday Lunchtime - 7-Apr-13 13:58

Mother threw 11yr old son out, SS removed 9 yr old twins. All went to live with father in tiny two bedroom house. He had let mother have family home for better life for children less than two years before and with £85,000+ equity in the property. She since has acquired live in boyfriend and had another child. Her property is on market and plans moving away. She had decent sized home for children who are not with her and she has made no effort to try see them. Eldest son is now 14 and 6feet tall. Twins are 12 and two sturdy boys who have to share a bed. All three are in one small room. It seems so unfair that she will walk with their inherits ce and they live in unacceptable conditions. The clean break rule when getting divorced can be a blessing but believe me it can also be a curse.

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Floppy - 24-Mar-13 16:29

From the Free Dictionary; "worsted" -
1. Firm-textured, compactly twisted woolen yarn made from long-staple fibers.
2. Fabric made from such yarn.

Sometimes I know it isn't me that's confused!

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grumpyoldwoman - 19-Aug-12 11:11

As life progresses and now that i can really understand life around me and such stories affirm a theory that most "men are really evil scums of the universe" .. the number of men who target young girls for their money (mostly) lust and just dump their children and run to the next available is pure evil and some of them have no life, conscience and seem so dark inside.
At the same time life is a big level playing field anyways and guys /scums like this just end up worse than a cockroach you squish under your feet !

Finding peace and living a good life is all in our minds..i wish you harness this spirit and keep going !

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Susan - 5-May-12 06:17

"Worsted". That is not a nice thing to say about your wife.

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Boblet - 12-Feb-12 15:59

You want to know the worst thing that can happen in your life? Answer: the prettiest girl in your town whom you dated 50 years ago is now just a plain, ugly, old and fat frump.

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Worsted - 11-Feb-12 08:18

Got to be honest, your clearly better off without him but you should realise already your life isnt going to be high flying and plated in silver anymore, Women should always have something of thier own to fall back on these days however sad that might actually be, then we might have less to complain about when it goes t**s up. The grass is very very rarely greener on the other side - and i suspect his younger woman is merely interested in the same lifestyle you described having, alas... time will tell - i wouldnt want to be cuddling up to a wrinkly old man before i was 30 no thank you very much!! Better off without him!

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missy - 31-Jul-11 21:12

wow what a story!!!! don't feel too bad he was an asshole and went and married a even more stupid person!!! what a turn off!!! you are so good!!! I rather have your life than their's.....i admire you!!!

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Lola - 28-Oct-10 17:29

P.s Bev has received 'not a penny' in maintenance from this excuse of a father, they are three little credits to her, I'm the Godmother to one of them, it brakes my heart to see how they are left to live.

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Denise & Bev - 6-Sep-10 19:25

The system has let my friend Bev & I (Denise) down too, our stories are much like your own, we invested everything in our husband's, marriage etc, only to end up broke & old, we never asked for this mess but have been left with nothing. We were also told we were mad, it was our fault, so much so that in the end we started to believe it & also like you, had to see a Doctor, only to discover, we had been put though such 'hell', we were severely depressed and not mad at all The system is a disgrace, if Bev were not to feed her children, she would be in trouble with the authorities but 'their father' has no such responsibility, he claims to be self employed and despite living in luxury & having parents that are multi millionaire's, she suffered D.Violence but one reported now lives in a damp and almost derelict house (bought as a project during the marriage), with a huge mortgage, working all she can, just to provide enough to barely survive, with no hope of improving her circumstances. My delightful husband, got another younger model pregnant, then with me unaware of that fact, raised the mortgage by thousands of pounds, leaving no equity, then left me high and dry to a whole new 'planned' life, what happened to family value & loyalty......a group huge all round I guess xx

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Denise & Bev - 6-Sep-10 19:12

hAHAH I didn't read the story but this husband sounds like a real gent.. a real stand up guy.. haha I think he might be my idol.

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Murphy Taylor - 8-Apr-10 15:55

Omg ANGELA-well thats quite a history with that 'cheat'! my husband left me and his two children in Spain too- but with nothing. tho he told people he'd left us a villa, and i'd done him out of a quarter of a million etc!!! such lies- I was really singing for our money and stealing tiolet rolls!!! he's telling people we're divorced now but we are not. he's engaged and still lying and cheating---it all still affects me, still hurts but I am so so glad I'm not with him now-I dont want to live a life with a con man-'she' is welcome to him. he left us for dead almost. no 'care' whilst he was cruising with his hellen. 9 years of lies. how 'they' sleep at night?we were renting! we were hoping to buy and settle to a good life!!! I new nothing. we were happy I thought-still making love most nights!!! shocking...but hey she,s got nothing with that liar. I know much better now but I'd like people to know the truth.

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Elaine - 26-Nov-09 00:52

My heart goes out to you. It seems that men have too many choices now and can cheat more easily. I'm sorry you had to bear the brunt of his selfishness and it shoes what a waster he really is. You are better off without him. He's obviously a theif and a liar. It shows that he planned to have you put away - what a conniving, evil person. Could you not find a lawyer and sue him? He double crossed you by convincing you that you needed psychiatric help when it is apparent that he's the one with mental issues. He stole from you and your family. He sounds like a parasite.

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2bornot - 13-Nov-09 13:38

this is SO relevant to my family situation right now. Amazing. And I thought I was alone.
Can't give any advice : am simply amazed that you got awarded money for his non-payment of maintenance!

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feckless wreck - 9-Nov-09 15:30

Message for who cares
Grow up. You are a fool. This man treated this woman and her children like dirt.
You must be made of the same matter.
Go play in the traffic.

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I care - 29-Mar-09 14:33

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