Cheating husband left me broke

Omg ANGELA-well thats quite a history with that 'cheat'! my husband left me and his two children in Spain too- but with nothing. tho he told people he'd left us a villa, and i'd done him out of a quarter of a million etc!!! such lies- I was really singing for our money and stealing tiolet rolls!!! he's telling people we're divorced now but we are not. he's engaged and still lying and cheating---it all still affects me, still hurts but I am so so glad I'm not with him now-I dont want to live a life with a con man-'she' is welcome to him. he left us for dead almost. no 'care' whilst he was cruising with his hellen. 9 years of lies. how 'they' sleep at night?we were renting! we were hoping to buy and settle to a good life!!! I new nothing. we were happy I thought-still making love most nights!!! shocking...but hey she,s got nothing with that liar. I know much better now but I'd like people to know the truth.

My heart goes out to you. It seems that men have too many choices now and can cheat more easily. I'm sorry you had to bear the brunt of his selfishness and it shoes what a waster he really is. You are better off without him. He's obviously a theif and a liar. It shows that he planned to have you put away - what a conniving, evil person. Could you not find a lawyer and sue him? He double crossed you by convincing you that you needed psychiatric help when it is apparent that he's the one with mental issues. He stole from you and your family. He sounds like a parasite.

this is SO relevant to my family situation right now. Amazing. And I thought I was alone.
Can't give any advice : am simply amazed that you got awarded money for his non-payment of maintenance!

Message for who cares
Grow up. You are a fool. This man treated this woman and her children like dirt.
You must be made of the same matter.
Go play in the traffic.

You poor love. There are some horrid people in this world. I know how you feel ... they live and breathe lies. Mine thought he was some sex god - I pity the woman who ends up with him. When I find out - I'll dish all the dirt on him. You should fight to get this money back. Don't give up. He's a fool and one day he'll suffer.

3 years ago I had a daughter, then another. I worked my butt off while he did whatever. Never paid for anything. I would cry and beg him to help. I bought him a business and he still did nothing, except cheating along with the emotional abuse. I asked him to leave and some time pass he got a job and we got back together. Well It didn't last long. He paid the house bills and I paid mortgage. When it came time for him to pay. We were homeless. He lied to the week it was due knowing I would have gone back to work if he couldn't pay. I had to sell our dog and our belongings. My middle child was hurt and he wont even talk to her about it. He wont help us cope. He said he didn't love me and went off. Pretty much his free ride was over. Well He hasn't paid anything yet. Although He let me put somethings in his name, because my credit is ruined, I pay them. My problem is he wants me to let him take the kids away on a trip and he wants to just disrupt our lives. My daughter has been though so much and he doesnt understand we all need time to heal. I let him visit for thanksgiving but, I would like a nice holiday with my children without the pain of him. I have 3 kids and the oldest knows what happened. My 2nd is a mess. The baby cant really understand. Do I have to let him, He tries to use that I am a christian and I have to forgive him, But I need time.

Let him keep the lavish lifestyle, the tart, and the kid who will barely be in primary school when his father gets his first zimmer frame. Let him get on with the fantasy world he's created for himself. You have what he doesn't. The respect of your children, your own self respect, and your independence. Take control of your life and make the very most of it. If you allow him to ruin it from afar, you've only yourself to blame. Work hard, play hard, enjoy your new start.

Your experience sounds fairly similar to somebody else I know. But from experience I can tell you that life has a way of dealing with people like your husband.... Sooner or later.

Just leave them to it, the pair of pathetic cruel idiots. They are not worth your energy. Hard though it is, you must focus on rebuilding your own life and make the very most of it. You may find that your best times are yet to come. OK so you may not have their lavish lifestyle, but you have your self respect and dignity - things which your husband flushed down the toilet.

hey get over It .and stop feeling jealous .that's all women do complain about there first marrage
so get on with your life and forget about It !

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Agree with the last post. You are bound to have regrets and the change in lifestyle is very tough to get used to. But you are free of a man who is capable of fraud and of screwing around. Who is to say she won't be next. Start planning for what kind of life YOU want, living where you want to live rather than making sacrifices for him. The world is your very own oyster. Keep looking forward. You have my sympathy.