Ex-wife knows how to play the CSA

WHAT DO YOU MEAN, I STILL GOTTA PAY???

My ex-wife, of ten years, decided in March that It was time to start a fresh in sunny Tenerife. Along with my two kids, off they went for their "NEW LIFE"... It would have been nice to have been told they were going though! Anyway, contacted our beloved CSA to inform them of my "Change in Circumstances" and met with the usual response.."AND YOUR POINT IS CALLER?"

My point is, my kids have left full time education in the UK. so my payments will stop, right? They no longer stay in the country so my payments will stop, wont they? Guess what the reply was and dont all shout the answer out at once!!

Just not fair is it?

Took 2 years to get a contact order , saw children every third weekend (no car had to collect chidren from south coast by train at 6pm and return to london) mother refused to meet halfway neither she or the courts thought that this might benefit the chidren.After a successfull foreign holiday contact was stopped by mother no reason given just informed me that she wasn't going to be at the collectoin point.Mother then moves and solicitors claim not to have a forwarding address.Nobody cares that she is in breach of a court order.Contacted schools and despite giving proof of parentage they all hide behind data protection act.Years pass then I receive phone calls and text messages from eldest son threatening me with violence.Eventually the csa became involved.So I am paying for children I love but who have made no effort to contact me in 4 years (they know home and mobile no. and home address).Want nothing from me except money , what a great system!

To be fair if he isnt with them hats off to him. Men are wising up to this women getting bigger men gettin thinner society. its about time the tables turned.

My ex husband for over 14 years has paid very little and only then when pushed - I finally went to the CSA and after 21 months and 49 phonecalls later I got an assessment - and although he was non-compliant he got every opportunity to pay voluntarily and what does he do - he texts his oldest child to say he can't afford to see both of his children because I have dared to ask for a contribution to his child and just as they are about to deduct the money from his wages he informs them that he is leaving his job! Believe it or not he would prefer to live in poverty, without the company car so he wont have to contribute to his family! Hope his new wife is watching it will be her turn one day! and me I work 2 jobs not only to support my children but also my ex husband his 2nd wife and thier kids!

I am a37yar old man looking for awoman preferably african american. Awoman lovely , lonely woman who never thought of herself aprincess but in the hands of husb.

Excellant stuff. Anyone new to this though be careful though I have heard some horror stories on cases like this where there not so lucky. Where they catch up with you giving you a stupidly high bill for missed payments.

I left my wife 14 yrs ago and was harassed by the CSA for the whole time, I wrote to them stating that what ever I payed to the CSA my ex would only recieve £10 per week due to her being on state benifits, so the CSA wanted me to pay £200 per month, so I asked them to explain to my legal rep's where the £180 difference went, who was getting the £180 that my ex was not getting. They never gave any explanation for where the £180 went that my ex was not getting. I offered to challenge this in the courts and guess what they refused to explain anything to me or my legal rep's, so I stopped paying them and just paid my ex £50 per month and never heard from the CSA ever again. I would say challenge them to a court appearence to explain to all present where the money that is not recieved by the lone parent really goes and watch them shrink away...

A. Take some quality time out sounds like you had a real rough ride. I'm in a simular situation I chose to take a step back have tons of fun with friends weekends, just kept plodding on with trying to see my daughter I got there in the end. My motto is do what ever it takes to make you happy and healthy.

Hope you are ok.

Personally I know of a Man who was incarcerated in turkey for 5 months, returned to the UK and had to pay his Ex wife for the time in which he as making no money, it got him into serious debt, its crazy, and women are known to use the CSA to exploit Ex partners in this situation, and that is disgusting. why should anyone be able to use Children as a tool to manipulate their ex partner who loves their children dearly?

I can go on much longer the csa have finished me im going to end it.

Men are the losers of this world, I have 3 kids who for the last 3 years I have had virtually the whole weekend every week without fail, took them on holidays which she hasnt and given them as much love as I possibly can to compensate for her lack of care for them. Due to her insane spending and debts I had to sign my house over to my ex to rid myself of any financial relationship just so I could be accepted for somewhere else to live. As a bribe for all this and repayment for all the extra money she has had out of me we had an agreement of reduced maintenance which allowed me to be able to live!!
Now I have a new partner and a new baby I have stretched myself to buy a new house,but my ex has caused so many problems now I have a new life, interfering and using the kids as a weapon, I have asked every other weekend to have a day to myself and suggested that it will be good for her as well to spend some time with the kids on the weekend now and again but my ex has decided that now she wants to try and force me to have the kids 2 nights over every weekend and 3.5 weeks holidays per year, I have refused so now I am been taken through csa for the full maintenance which leaves me with little money left over and will force my new partner to have to work to survive when she wanted to bring our baby up without having to work.
I also have been told I cannot see my kids and she is making until I agree to increased access and she will involve the courts etc and make me pay as much as possible in legal fees which I cant afford, oh and the obvious mind twisting trying to make my kids think I dont love them or care now I have a new baby.

What a wonderful world we live in? I love kids but I really feel sorry for a lot of kids brought into this world by selfish creatures who parade themselves as women. But it could be me who's wrong because after all arent all men (something unprintable)??

Why should he pay a penny. He didnt get the love and enjoyment out of this! The mind boggles....