Ex-wife knows how to play the CSA

The reason is simple, the CSA have seen what cash men take home, made the necessary laws and just take as much as they possibly can, without too many men packing up work.

I agree the CSA are a joke. They are not there to protect children. I know someone who has been ordered to pay £400 a month to his ex but will only have £80 left out of his wages to spend on his other baby who lives with him. He gets his child from the other relationship 3 times a week and loves her to bits so he doesnt have a problem paying for her but the money is quite obviously funding the ex's nights out etc. How can he justify paying £400 a month for one of his children and only £80 for another. Its terrible.

It seems your wife is now using your daughter against you for spite and money. Best thing is offer mediation, if she wont take this up, represent yourself in court for a contact order, I just have and it worked.

Why do fathers have no rights at all? Why has this not been sorted by now.... Its rediculous

I think they are a nightmare, I haven't had any payments since november and everytime I call they just say they'll put a note on the system.

My ex doesn't see our son his choice and he's only supposed to pay £5 a week, but he cant even pay that, I have no explanation as to why its not being paid. I know its only £5 but I work 40+ hrs a week to make sure my son has a nice home and everything he wants! he doesnt work, so is on jobseekers, I feel like going in to the jobcentre and asking them why he hasnt paid!!!

annonomous, on what you have said, I hope that you get to keep all the equity and furnishings ect, in the house,

Just pay the interest on the mortgage for now, and one day in the future, the payments will be tiny conpared to renting.

On what you have said I hope the bailifs get him in a few years, he is at fault one hundred percent, married with kids walking off with another woman.

my husband of 12 yrs walked out on me and his 3 children to continue with his affair he has not paid any money for our children visited nor phoned to see how they are coping and has abandoned me with all of our debt and our mortgage which I have maintained out of my income support and child tax credits even tho its under joint names im left paying it scrimping by with 3 kids ... I supported him through all his career choices and maintained my role as stay at home mum and was carer to one of our children who has a disability it took me 3 weeks to get any money to help support us via income support my back to work meetin proved pointless as I cannot sustain a job to support us and our mortgage at present also childcare for our son will be extortionate .....he has walked away from us and our situation ... so yes I have contacted csa which has been worked out at £85 a week they reckon they will claim from his wages I will see "£20 a week for 3 children so its not that helpful but the government gets back the £64.50 income support they should be payin me until I am eligable to work.... it doesnt prove effective for those wonderful fathers who look after there exes and children financially and emotionally but it acts as a lifeline for those who have been abandoned and who are left trying to make ends meet. I am even going through court to force him to actually see his kids how outragious is that ?? so for those of you who doubt the csa just remember there are women like me out there trying to get by

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I am in a simular situation. My ex wife initially went to the CSA because she believed that I should be paying her more child maintanence. She was right and I ended up paying 2 pounds a month more. She then met a new bloke and didnt want to know the kids, to the point that she was getting married and I was going to look after them. As I was having the children so much I cut the payments by 100 pounds in line with the CSA calculator. Subsequently she split with the bloke and decided that the kids would stay with her more and went to the CSA. I was told I had to pay 350 a month which I did. My ex has no car and cannot drive, she wont allow the kids to use public transport even though they are 16 and 12 so I have to pick them up which is a round trip of 100 miles yet this is not taken into consideration. I am also in the armed forces and the final insult came when I was sent to Afghanistan for six months and because I was unable to have the kids my ex went back to the CSA, who decided I should pay more, I did win this on appeal but its the principle of the matter. Because I am in the forces I consider myself a easy target by the CSA as if I dont pay they deduct it from my wages.

the csa. well what can us fathers do eh..
i have a son who is twelve me and his mother split when he was two and ever since that split there has been nothing but hassle from the csa.. I used to get my son from friday to sunday one weekend and the next weekend I got him friday till sat.. but the ex took things to court to say she was not happy with that happening.. so yes here is the start of it the judge agreed with her and said I was seeing to much of my own son... (who is anybody to tell a father he is seeing too much of his own son) so after that the big problems start with the csa. at first they contacted me and I filled all the forms in and come clean with everything I had and what my wages was.. then they came back and said I had to pay £62 pounds a week so yes I did then a few year down the line I contacted the csa and asked for them to look into my case as I was wanting to buy my own house .. well they looked inot it and said I had to pay £90 puonds a week why it changed I do not know my wages had not changed ... so yet a few more years down the line I again ask them to look into my case and well again they shafted me I am paying £123. pounds a week for one child my wages has not changed the ex has another child and is married in her own house and has a second house ... but claims she only makes £30 pounds a week in her part time job... but I know this is a lie but the csa wont listen ... I see my son all the time still have to buy him clothes and as a father take him out to football matches and his tea and I do spoil him but the csa just dont care.. eg £123 pounds csa football matches are not cheap clothes are not cheap I dont and never will grudge my son anything buy add it all up... the csa say all I need to live on is £70 protected pay well why does a twelve year old need £123 and a man of 35 only needs £70.... csa its all bollocks...

I think csa are sc-m money grabbing bstards and the system makes farthers pay the price for having children and some times no returns. marrige is bullshit can be better of if not working then struggling to pay basic monthly bills

Star, even 16 hours a week work, would be too much for some of these self-inflicted single parents, why work for a living when the taxpayer will pay it all?