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I still love unfaithful girlfriend

My girlfriend and I had steady relationship for two years, ever since our senior year in high school.  We both loved each other the entire time, but in being from a strictly militant family, I was hesitant to show all but the smallest signs of affection.  I rarely told her I loved her, but all the same, I know I did love her.  In this, I am guilty... not showing my girlfriend the amount of time and affection she deserved.

Time passed, and we were getting close to our two-year anniversary.  Everything seemed to be going well, even according to people close to both her and myself.  The only thing that really changed was the fact that she started hanging out a LOT more with a guy from her work, who also happened to be a friend of mine.  I thought nothing of it, sure that that there was nothing wrong with our relationship.

I still love unfaithful girlfriend

Desperate measures failed to get girlfriend back...

I was wrong apparently.  In the early hours of Sunday morning on October 7th, she called me and informed me that she was currently sleeping with (literally) my friend Mikey.  She went on to cry a small amount, and informed me that we were over, and that she didn't wish to speak to me for a while.  Even my most desperate of measures failed to get my girlfriend back, even though I now realize that those measures probably appeared to be a bit stalker like.

The heart of the entire matter is, though, she still seems to want to contact me, no matter what she says.  At least once a day, I get a text from her complaining about something that went wrong when we were together, but she said she didn't wish to speak for a while.  She also doesn't seem happy with this new guy.

All in all, I still love her dearly and I was going to ask her to move out with me when I go to law school, a drastic move for a 20 year old!  Even now, she still claims she is single, even when her "boyfriend" says otherwise.  She did something horrible to me, and yet I still want her back.  What do I do?

By: Troubled

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Graham you say that these videos are all about telling men how they should treat women and not telling women how they should treat men well why on earth doyou think its you men what has to be told??????????????????????????

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Leslie - 17-Sep-09 10:05 

Sunshine, I found your comment below quite intelligent and interesting. I went on to youtube To checkout this "five languages of love". There is a good deal of content on there regarding the FLOL and I have just viewed about seven different videos for about an hour or so. I really must say this, they are all 100% biased in the favour of women, It is all about how men should act and behave in order to please women. Relationships are a 50/50 thing so perhaps women should consider that they also need to learn how men feel and what their needs are in a relationship.

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Graham - 16-Sep-09 04:03 

Forgive her...get her back...She wasn´t sure if you loved her because you weren´t expressive. Grils need someone to show them love..by hugging, touching, kissing, loving...Study the five Love Languages and you will know what I mean. If you love her, make an effort and ask her back. Perhaps she repented...Yet, of course, make sure she won´t cheat on you again. Ask her to decide. That it´s got to be a decision between both of you. For example, when you plant a seed, you can´t leave the seed without water or sun. Likewise, the seed of love (excuse me for being corny) must be nurtured with care and attention. Both of you must cooperate..or else, the seed of love will eventually wilt. This philosophy of God´s love has worked for in my relationship. God loves you. He is like a very nice Daddy if you really get to know Him through Christ. After understanding this, you are able to love your girl and be wise to make good decisions.

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Sunshine - 16-Sep-09 01:57 

You need to forget her. you can easily move on and find a better girl. Look truth is, once someone takes that huge risk and cheats then they'll do it again. Yea, she might want you back -- but you shouldn't want her. think about it -- she risked losing you once.. what makes you so sure she won;t do it again.. And even if you do get back together with her.. you're always going to imagine the time she cheated on you. Trust me, you will. and that'll cause more problems. You gotta move on -- she did! And I don't think you wanna start hearing how you're girlfriend was in bed from this guy or other ones that she may repeat this with. Move on.

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move along.. - 17-Jun-09 06:58 

Hi man! Hey the first thing that you have to do is take a deep breath and relax. Them think it carefully. . . . If she has done one time, she would do more. . . You should forget about her, get over about the relationship. . . . It's not good for noone lo love somebody who don't love you. Come on men, move on!

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Renzo - 14-Apr-09 16:46 

Well in my opinion dont think shes all that bad, your both only young these things happen!
I think she texts you to try & convince herself you were to blame but you seem aware that affectionate side is a little shy......have you thought about this would you be prepared to change for her or if you move on do you think cahnge is needed hmmmm im so nosey.

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chelle - 30-Mar-09 09:43 

Dear Troubled
Run away from this woman as fast as you can. I lived with a liar for 13 years and kept forgiving him and he still lies and cheats. He has a penchant for sleaze, porn and strangers. He cries when another lie has been revealed and promises to change his ways but he never has. This is my husband, my partner.

Love it seems to have evaded me. Watch closely and ensure you know your next partner before giving your heart. This girl doesn't deserve a person as lovely as you.

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Leave her - 19-Jan-09 09:44 

Everyone will have hundreds of girls they love and lose, and then the next girl they find they love even more and so on. Just take it as a life experience (face it, life is s**t!) and move on.
And keep going with the Law School thing, im hopefully going to study law at uni in september so concentrate on that, and make a killing. Then the b*tch will wish she never screwed you around.

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Bar-hopeful - 5-Jan-09 13:55 

Thats really cute. Sometimes it works when you dont give up but sometimes its too much pain.

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P-J-TRASH - 1-Dec-08 22:50 

Really forget her, because she didn't love you to do that thing she did. You must to go on and try to forget all respect her 'cause she hurt you a lot and she don't deserve you.

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Carolina - 26-Oct-08 01:21 

mate read my post (she moved her lover in)? I know what this is like.

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Dave - 28-Apr-08 18:18 

Forget her man, she`s done the dirty on you once and she`ll do again, and your mates no better. They`re made for each other. You watch, I bet you have the last laugh.

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WRIGHTY - 5-Apr-08 15:19 

She's a woman. This is how they behave. Get used to it and assume they'll all do that to stop yourself pretending the "next one" will be any different.

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Nick - 5-Dec-07 16:50 

What a truly horrible, manipulative person she appears to be! Best rid of her, methinks. Get on with your life, go out, meet new people and have fun.

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Agony Uncle - 9-Nov-07 11:42 

Mate, forget her, she's gone black! Once you go black you never go back.

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Patrick - 6-Nov-07 16:00 

Kid, you're 20 years old, MOVE ON!! Go to law school and find someone else.

There's no truth in that "old saying" let the one you love go and if they come back they're yours for life (or, in this case, if they come running back after cheating on you), its just a pile of carp!!

Yeh, it'll be difficult to move on, especially if she's under your skin, but YOU ARE ONLY 20, move on. If she's cheated on you once she will do it again, when the going gets tough again down the road. When it comes to cheatin, women are no better then men! They feel guilty the first time, but then once it's in the blood there is no more guilt the second time and the third time and the fourth time and the fifth time etc etc etc... you get my drift?

MOVE ON, she "aint" worth it!

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Papa Life - 31-Oct-07 11:53 

I've had her as well.
Just thought you should know.
Such a dirty girl.....

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So Very Annoying - 23-Oct-07 10:33 

Hi, Look foward to your new career and don't waste time with someone who goes off with your friend.

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clarrissa - 22-Oct-07 22:31 

What do you mean "strict militant family?" Anyway, I think you have started to recognise things about yourself that are maybe not all right? I wonder if this sort of thing is something you have only just started thinking about?

This is not unusual, however, what maybe sounding alarm bells in your mind is that there is actually quite a lot that you did not know about yourself. If you don't know yourself, your knowledge of others will be minimal too. This is not a good basis on which to commit to another person. I daresay your strict upbringing will have forced you to think of ways to try and bury your feelings about certain issues. Perhaps showing your feelings is something you have decided is not "cool?" However, as much as you may wish to have an outward appearance that verges on the robotic, on the inside I bet things are very different.

I wonder if your (former) partner was fed up with your reserved outward appearance, perhaps appearing to be someone unwilling to stand up for yourself when, say, your parents were treating you unfairly, for example? Try reading "They f*** you up" by Oliver James, for starters.

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Mustn't Grumble? - 22-Oct-07 21:36 

Elbow!!! simlple as that! Get over it , move on and forget...she's not worth the time or trouble.

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Mark - 21-Oct-07 02:14 

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