We don't want to have children

alaneroberts

I am pleased you asked what does this person's wife think cause yes they ARE one half of a couple!
However, as a women who is 34 years old and has known since her mid teens she didn't want children I would like to point out that not every woman wants children!
Most do, but NOT ALL!
I also work with kids, love the kids I work with but it gave me an insight into what having kids is really like, rather than just only having fantasies. And I thought and think NO THANKS.
Nothing against those who have them, it's just it's not for me.
I'm better to know that and NOT have kids than to know that, try and make it work and have my child feel my resentment etc. cos they were never wanted!
My point being not ALL woman - even in their 30s - want children.
I have some friends like this too - one is 36! I also am friends with a woman who has her first baby who of course she loves very much. It takes all sorts! Some want children, some don't.

If you don't want children then don't have them. It's your life no one elses. Everyone has their own thoughts and feeling on the subject but you need to do whats right for you and if not having children is right then fine. Just don't condemn those that do have kids, we have the right to choose too and thats the choice we have made.

We can't all be the same in this world else it would be a very boring place.

Thank God, so I'm not the only one who gets looked at as though I've suddenly grown an extra head whenever I say I don't want children?. Also, just because I don't want them does not mean that I'm a cold heartless women....I like kids, I just like my freedom more. Good luck to you and your wife, may the future be kind to you both.

Simple answer,

Keep your legs crossed.

My Wife does.

You will have four children? That seems an excessive number. Think about the massive carbon-footprint that you and your family will have. It also really irks me to think of all the child benefit you will be raking in, paid for by my very high taxes. Two children should be enough.

Human race dying out?

What a strange comment. Try walking round your local town centre and you'll see loads of single mums with 20 kids by 30 different fathers.

I agree that maybe intelligent humans will die out. We'll all be walking round in tracksuits shouting "innit" and "bruv" in years to come.

All the educated, intelligent people need to do their bit to save this country. So many people I work with are waiting until their late 30's before they start to try and have children. By then of course, years of contraceptive pill taking has completely messed up their fertility and they are lucky if they manage to get pregnant once or twice. Meanwhile socialy irresponsible chavs are reproducing like rabbits, condemning their children to a simple life of crime and benefit claiming.

If the government doesn't make parenting a more affordable option for those in work, in a few generations this once proud country will be run by the Polish.

I'm doing my bit as we will soon have 4 children and I know what I'm talking about as I'm a teacher and my wife is a social worker. We see reality first hand.

Look at this statement:

'there is an exception to this trend and it's Britain, where birth rates are rising.
But it's no secret that it's the immigrant populations who are causing this rise: the
native English are following in the footsteps of Southern Europe'

The reason most likely being that the native English (do you mean British?) are probably so depressed at the state of their country that they don't wish to inflict THAT on some poor child.

As for immigrants, they seem to think that life here is better than at 'home' (wherever that may be) and can milk the benefits system everytime they drop a sprog so it is in their interests to.

Where's the incentive for Mr and Mrs Joe average - unless you love kids? Personally, I can't think of anything worse than having kids. In my experience it is an unrewarding, expensive and thankless task!

I thnk someone else made the point that we are such a selfish and destructive species that so what if we die out? Am inclined to agree. . . .

Good on you!
I really hope you dont feel presurised by stupid people who judge you because you dont want kids.
If you want your free time, and your cash, and to enjoy each others company without a screaming brat there, then that's utterly fine.

Respect to you for having the thought and decency to not want to have a child you wouldnt be able to afford without government help.
I think that people should prove they can support a child on their own without leeching benefits before they're allowed to breed. That would solve alot of problems in this country.

Your call, just remember to have fun either way! That's what life is all about!

And never say never!

Your call, just remember to have fun either way! That's what life is all about!

And never say never!

Oracle 2007 said:

"But the reason Grotnip's views are so worrying is his comment (echoed by the other
writers) that he "just wants to live for the moment". This policy is being followed by
millions of people all over Europe and the result is disastrous for the populations.
Birth rates are dropping like a stone. Italy, for example, faces wipe-out by 2050.
Spain and Portugal are following close behind"

Good ! Homo sapiens is the most destructive, self-destructive even, and greedy species that has ever existed on this planet. If we are not drastically reduced in numbers - and I mean by millions - then this planet will be destroyed and it is entirely our fault. The best thing that could ever happen is that people like the author of this article are in the MAJority, not the MINority. Then maybe just maybe the damage done by man during the last 250 years or so since the Industrial Revolution can be at least partially rectified.