Fed up with people who hurl abuse

I think people who find it necessary to hurl insults at others are maybe inadequate in themselves and do not know how to express themselves in a civilised manner.

How rude people are. I too have it. I've had someone say in front of me like I wasn't there, she's pretty shame she's so big. Dont blame you telling them to f off.

Mind you if you have (for example) ginger hair/going bald etc etc they say stuff too. Idiots.

a) We are not alone and b) we can change our weight they can't change their stupid behaviour

At least no one will ask you when is it due love, so embarrassing (not someone taking the mick). I've learnt not to wear certain styles of clothes.

I used to be overweight as a teenager, only by a couple of stone, but from the abuse that I had to take, you`d have thought that I was the fattest person in britain. The thing was, these people wuo were so quick to judge me for my appearance were pretty pathetic in the looks department, so I think that those who abuse others over the way that they look are just saddos trying to get some self-esteem.

I totally agree with you. It is unacceptable to make unwanted and negative comments about people's appearance. Such people are ignorant and have no self awareness. I think that they associate people who are overweight with laziness which is so often wrong and they think that gives them the right to make judgements. Again they are wrong and it is appalling to call people names in public like that. I am slim and have pretty skinny legs which I can't do much about and I recall my sister once laughing at them as she said they looked hilarious sticking out under my dressing gown. The comments were unwanted and hurtful. So my legs are skinny -what can I do about that? Was it fair to mock my appearance? - no - in the same way that it is unfair of people to abuse you like they do. It is probably best not to expect people to behave properly and to just try not to let it get you down. People are fickle and pick on others to make themselves feel important. Be confident and just totally ignore them -they are ignorant fools and only worth ignoring. Keep your head up and get on with your life whatever weight you are. You are just as good as anyone else whatever weight you are.

Also, my father is a Lawyer (John Duncombe) legally in scotland and England, si if you live here, then you could always ask him about it

Hi Nick, I myself, am a year 8 at school, and have never heard of something like this before. I think that what these people have done to you is disgusting. I am also fed up with people who 'Hurl Abuse' at others and upon finding this website, have reinstated my hate for people who do this to people. I sometimes find myself thinking back to these people who do this, and how hurtful an insult can be. I, even though only 13, rarely throw insults at People because I have experienced this before, and know how it feels. I think though that it seems to be a lot worse for you however, and I can't do anything to help you, but I hope that these people feel guilt about what they do, and that people treat you nicer. Sorry this ends really badly.

I suffer the same thing, they want to lock you inside your house but now I bought a pen camera that gives me more confidence when I am out because now I can record them any time, so I urge you to do the same even with large undisguised cameras breaking their power,
the anonymity given by their 10mph speed, walk slowly and get a good camera for crystal clear smirking faces and license plates. UK has millions of surveillance cameras but only point of view shooting would better serve us, the next step is taking legal actions against them that are now properly identified by the recorded misbehaviors and license plates ,create awareness about the problem among the general public, legislators and transport authorities and through justice we could track them down, send legal warnings and ultimately file lawsuits

I think the ones who hurl insults do it to people of all shapes and sizes. Old people can be just as bad as the young too.

Standing in a queue once, two teenage girls were picking to shreds other people (their clothes, their hair, etc.) and were obvious oblivious to their own faults including their shallowness!

Then you can get some old people who seem bitter at the world and can insult younger people. I guess it makes these people feel better inside but it must be a sad existence living day to day insulting people. Just recently I was eating out and a woman who looked in her 60s was staring at me. Every time I looked up from my table there she was and being insulting too. Didn't know who she was but got the impression she felt threatened having a younger woman eating near by. Tough luck I say!

It never fails that I only receive these insults when I am outside exercising. Yes, it hurts, but part of me can't help but be amused at the fact that I'm the one outside, enjoying the weather and exercising, while the hurlers of these insults invariably reside in pick-up trucks, bar entrances with cigarettes hanging out of their mouths, or houses--the thing in common? Sedentary. I feel sorry for them that they have nothing better to do with their lives. I can't possibly be harming them. While overweight, I am extremely healthy, have a satisfying career, and loving and encouraging family and friends. I can only assume that the bile spewed from these unfortunates stem from a lack of the above. So, I feel sorry for them.

hey im 16 and overweight I am normaly insulted almost everyday by someone becase I am oover weight I get called fatty and do you need more to eat and I get fed up of it the otherday for the first time I was really happy dnno why I just was then some person sent me a message saying that burger king heard I was back in town so they opened 24-7 im getting tired of this constant abuse and yes I am bigger than the people who say it so I cant beat the **** out of them plus if I did I would be more loike themi find it hard not to react to these isults and think somthing should be done about it before someone goes too faR

I feel your pain, I too have suffered at the hands of street morons who feel so superior to me because I am fat. I have however, trained myself to not let it get to me. I used to go home and cry my eyes out and be depressed for days but now when It happens I just think to myself- 'Oh well, if they need to make themselves feel good by abusing other's then they are the ones with the problem'. They are quite sad and pathetic and while it doesn't stop them letting it get to you is just letting them win. Don't let people like this bother you anymore it gives their opinions too much power over your feelings, adopting an 'I don't care' attitude will help you see that what they think or say doesn't matter one bit and you will be able to brush off their abuse more easily.

Damn right people!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was talking to my pyschotherapist about those people that do drive-by abuse and even hand me free chips although they don't really end up in my hand.

I usually just imagine having a portable heat seeking missile launcher bang!!!!!
Nasty eh? I also tell myself that they are just scum, for some reason. There are plenty of reasons, mainly to do with lack of parental strength or too many outside influences or lack of parental love or just brain issues, drugs, who knows?

Yeah I just got ripped into by 4 lads, too small the hurl abuse back
that's the trouble, can't touch the smaller ones can you.
And the laws here say they are guilty of nothing until they are eleven.
So they can get away with murder and they know it.

Then again some people seem to attrack abuse and that seems to be me.
You just give off an air, I don't know, something, I was feeling a bit low
and I guess they picked up on it. If you go swaggering about the street
chin held high I guess you'll be ok. It the lack of authority they pick up on
be overweight or ride a bike and you seem to be fair game for abuse.

Also having some ailment will see be being picked out for abuse.
And that goes way back. People on their own, are meat and drink
for abusive foul mouthed...

While it may not be the individuals fault, until society gets hold
of these little, people, and the schools in the UK are all against that.
Then it is up to the individual to keep as well as possible and try
and look on what ever bright side they can. Maybe think about
how those kids too will suffer, one day, hopefully.

I agree, who do these people think they are? I am overweight and to be honest, with a full time and demanding job and a 5 year old child, I have more important things on my mind than losing weight! Especially when to be honest it doesn't really bother me that much anyway! If I find my clothes don't fit quite so well or that I can't keep up with my 5 year old (can anyone?) then I lose a few pounds because I want to, but I'm still overweight even when I do that. If people can pierce and tatoo their bodies why can't I be a bit overweight? My answer to those who tell me what a fat cow I am is well, don't look, and if you do and comment on my body then I'll comment on your zits, or bad haircut, or cr@p choice of clothes....etc etc. Keep your chin up Nick, my thoughts are am I more miserable on a diet or when I look in the mirror? For me it's on a diet! Take care xxxx

MikeP

A legit defense. Did I tell you about Lady X from England, who once slagged me for being "litterary" - a word she repeated three times while speaking Latin to the Cordeliers?

I politely advised her to look up her trusted lexicon to redeem her unfortunate loss. It might help to legitimize her titled stature. Poeticizing one's prose is no sin, at least I didn't think so - if not overworked ad nauseum.

The pen is mightier than the sword. Good for you too.

Good for you Sue, rise above it and hold your own.

When people call me a 'posh git' or a 'stuck up ****' and similar because I speak decent English and had the advantage of the education that they so clearly lack, I smile pleasantly and thank them for the compliment.

I'm sorry for you I'm in the same boat but more so. I'm overweight and work as a secondary school teacher. I get comment off of thuggish kids all the time. Kids I don't teach think they can come into my room and make comments about me in front of my students. I been called a fat smelly b*tch to my face by a girl I've gone out of my way to help. Walking between buildings at break and lunch time is a nightmare because of the name calling.

I'm a member of a gym and go four times a week, doing an hours work out each time, I also swim two miles a week. I can out pace most thirteen year olds up three flights of stairs even when I'm carrying thirty text books, but still these chaves with yesterday’s dinner on their tracky top think they have the right to call me names. As for eating habits I wouldn't touch the muck they stuff down their necks.

The ones who call me names are mainly the total dross of the school that in ten years time will still never have had a job. I stood one, 16 year old, constant name caller in front of a mirror and asked him if he'd had ever had a good look at himself. I pointed out his dirty greasy hair, last nights dinner on this shirt and then stood him on a set of scales and pointed out he was three stone overweight. I then told him all the names I could call him if I was rude and ignorant enough to do so. When he said I'd no right to say that to him I asked him so why had he the right to abuse me? His reply was "I dunno" and that's the problem they "dunno" nothing. I take heart from the fact I get paid a lot of money and have a nice life style while they will always be where dross belongs at the bottom of the sh*t heap.

Kids will be kids unfortunatly, they will soon learn when they get some hurtful comments hurled at them, as for van and car drivers....it says alot that they come in the same grouping as school kids, mindless individuals who you really shouldnt let get to you not mater how hard it is, give them the finger and carry on you're merry way, fu*k all to do with them, let them carry on being vile human beings, you have nothing to feel bad about

I have been verbally abused and harassed and even physically attacked because of the way I look, I am clinically obese and in the past ten years I have had to move four times because of harassment from nasty neighbours, they call me abusive fat swear words and there is not a lot that the authorities can do about it, I am sick to death of this bullying and harassment, overweight and obese people are human beings with feelings and emotions for whatever reasons we are bigger than other people and we know we should try and lose weight by shouting verbal abuse at us we do not lose weight and it destroys our self esteem and confidence I think to shout verbal abuse at people because of the way they look should be criminalised in the same way as racial abuse is and people who constantly abuse other people just because there is something different about them should be punished legally police and authorities should do more and much more to stop these abusive bullying behaviour.

I wonder what kind of poison and bile must reside in the minds of these people that they feel the need to abuse complete strangers. Seriously, they are so lacking in intellect and social awareness that I really do almost feel sorry for them. I may be (slightly) overweight, but I am intelligent, hard-working, care about my family and, to my knowledge, never hurt anyone else's feelings. The pondlife you describe add nothing whatosever to planet earth, and I think that on some subconcious level, they know this, hence their appalling sociopatheic behaviour.