Vulnerable young girl needs help
13-May-2008
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I work for a voluntary organisation as a family mediator, focusing on homeless youngsters (aged 16-20) who are having difficulties staying in the family home. Due to the confidential nature of a specific case, I obviously cannot go into any personal details, but this is an overview of a case I am having difficulty with.

I am working with a young girl of 17 whose mother kicked her out thinking the local council will re-home her. The girl in question did not want to leave the family home but her mother and stepfather are adamant they do not want her back, and due to a mass breakdown in their relationship, the young girl does not want to return now.

In my line of work I have to deal with local authorities, local council, social services and police etc, yet nobody wants to touch this case or put in place any continuous support. Passed from pillar to post and given telephone numbers for irrelevant organisations, this girl is getting nowhere fast.

A teenager - youngsters from broken homes need help

She is currently in a shelter that is unmanned, has no security and is in the process of refurbishment and frankly, uninhabitable. The kitchen is dangerous with wires hanging from the ceiling and walls. If she refuses to stay there, the council will refuse to help her any further.

This is a vulnerable young girl, with no family support to lean on at what is a very traumatic time for her. And before anyone rants about the "yoof of today”, thinking they can get a flat with the click of her well manicured fingers, this girl has been supporting herself since 16, is not pregnant, works, pays tax and goes to college.

Does anyone know of any organisations that may be able to help her in this situation, or even just a bit of constructive advice that may just make her life that little bit easier?

By: Concernedcat


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What state is this girl in? Many churches would help this girl. Also if she is in college check with her councillor tey may know of some resources.
*Georgie  25-Feb-2008 14:05

 
Thanks for sharing this story. My heart is saddened by her parents actions. My wife and I faced devastating problems with our two teens and a good friend advised me to boot my son out of the house. We couldn't do it because, although there seemed to be no hope for him then, we feared the worst if he was not under our care and love. Although our love went unheeded for a long time, in the end it won both of their hearts and we saw a wonderful transformation take place. I wish there was something I could recommend or do for this poor girl; my heart weeps for her. There must be something for her. My brother and his wife foster children and have adopted some. I will ask them
*Glenn  23-Feb-2008 16:53

 
I am 17 and I went to the police because my mum kicked me out they sent me down to the council and they gave me bus tickts to stay in a B&B in moldon and I stayed at my dads girlfriends for 3 weeks on the sofa and I had to be interviewed by nacro and anne knight housing and I got a shared flat within 3 weeks and I am happy I go to 6th form my life is fine I find it hard sometimes but life has many surpises but you can live indepently x
*Strong x  19-Jan-2008 17:05

 
You could try http://www.manchesterfoyer.org.uk/intro.html

I believe there are other foyer sites around the country also.
*nik  07-Jan-2008 23:27

 
please can you tell me where some girls homes are located in the st.louis area. I am facing some problems within the home. I need to know as soon as possible. I am about to be put out tomorrow. thank you and goodnight.
*reasie1708  24-Sep-2007 04:16

 
I reckon that you should go and let her stay with you, she obviously feels emotionally attrated to you and that would be nice wouldn't it. just dont let her go back to her mother otherwise you know what could happen, big mistake!!!!
*big mommas house!!!  14-Jun-2007 10:52

 
oops just read your post and looks like its sorted.... still she could get her tax back!
*bob  13-Jun-2007 19:47

 
"works, pays tax and goes to college."

For a start she should be paying tax if she is in full time education. Go here to try and claim any tax she has already paid back, every little helps:

http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/MoneyTaxAndBenefits/Taxes/ReclaimingTax/index.htm?cids=Google_PPC&cre=Money

Secondly I just typed youth housing in google and got millions of decent hits... try it. They are mostly local organisations so Ill leave it to you to find one in your area
*bob  13-Jun-2007 19:43

 
That's really bad. I can sympathise. My mum kicked me out a few years ago, but in a very polite way of course.

My boyfriends mother absolutely refused to let me stay for even one night a week, and when I went to the 'young homeless offices' explaining that I was in fact young, and homeless, they said that there was nothing they could do for me.

I wasn't being abused, I wasn't getting beaten up by my family, I wasn't on drugs and I wasn't pregnant, so therefore they couldn't help me! It seems that if you want help these days you've got to be a serious bum, leech and mess up.

It's not as though I wanted permanent help, just a little assistance till I managed to get on my feet. This poor girl. :( I'm glad though, that at least YOU care for her well being, and that's someone.

I'd happily allow someone like that to stay in my apartment till they managed to get themselves a safe place to stay.

I guess all you can do is reassure her that in a years time this will all seem like a bad dream, hopefully..
*yoyo  07-Jun-2007 22:35

 
Thank you everyone for the nice and helpful comments! Apart from St. Bernadette.
(well,there's always one). The offer of the room was very lovely and compassionate and helps restore my faith in the goodness of man and the au-pair idea is one that I will put to her and will probably use again in future with others. The girl in question has got back in contact with her natural father and he is letting her live with him, so, a good result in the end.

Once again, thanks for the comments and thanks for taking the time to read my gripe. Let's all hope that the Homeless situation gets better and that the relevant organisations can start to work together.
*concernedcat  07-Jun-2007 19:41

 
Poor young girl,some parents are hard-hearted arent they. If you go to http://www.connexions-direct.com/ they have a section on homelessness, and they may be able to liase with the council on her behalf. Have you also considered maybe a house share for her, when I left home at 17 due to family probs, I moved into a nice houseshare and I found the support and friendship of the other house mates to be invaluable. It was like being in a family atmosphere.

Also maybe she can lodge in a private house, maybe become an au-pair so she gets room, and a wage, usually au-pairs are still allowed to attend college. Hope you manage to help her, must be so frustrating.
*flower  07-Jun-2007 11:35

 
Poor girl. You could try Refuge - they will often help young women as a priority and are national.

http://www.refuge.org.uk/homepage.html
*Devongirl  07-Jun-2007 11:15


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