Husband couldn't resist temptation

A lion wouldn't cheat on his wife..... but a tiger wood.

You are so not over him, but read your own letter and look at it as if you were reading about a stanger ,mmmm reads differently doesn't it ,I was in the same position years ago ,it took a while to let go but when you do , it is liberating I know it is hard but if you keep forgiving him and making excuses for him ,he will always have a bolt hole ; don't let him you are worth much more!

I just noticed another clue - he is in his early thirties? And has just joined US Special Forces? Hmmmm

UK, European, South African, Aussie and Kiwi SF troops would be nearing retirement at that age due to the intense demands on their bidies and morale!

He is lying through his teeth about everything you mention.

Leigh - you ask for our thoughts, here a slightly different view of your position.

From your post it is obvious that you are an American and, presumably he has joined the US 'Special Forces'.

Well, don't be too worked up about that.

If, as you say he has little committment, "has never held down a full time job" and was only a member of the National Guard (what we call the TA) i.e. part time amateur soldier how on earth can he be admitted to "Special Forces" unless of course he is either lying about that as well.

Or, as some of us suspect, your 'Special Forces' will take almost anyone and are therefore not that 'special' at all.

He sounds a complete and utter wimp who is unable to distinguish between fantasy and reality. You are well rid of him.

He's an idiot and you're well rid of him. He'll probably end up sad and lonely; and talk about a mid-life crisis! Some guys never grow up (by the way I'm not dissing guys before anyone starts)!

It sounds like you have fallen foul of the 2 worst inventions of the middle ages. Romantic love and Gunpowder. Special Forces, special needs more like. they have to be over confident to do their job but you have to leave it to one side in your personal life. I wish you well

Men can 'shop' online to fulfil their 'needs'. These women come in the right shape and have probably are what you might term as used goods. They don't know this. You've lost him so just forget about him. You deserve better. I know you're hurting and I feel for you - having gone through a similar experience. Like the lady said he's got a 'bike' to ride a used one at that.

These losers aren't worth getting upset over. You won't change them. You've been treated terribly ...one minute he wants you .. then the next he doesn't. He doesn't know what the hell he wants. Get shot of him.

There are some horrid little people in this world and he sounds like one. Accept that it is over and don't beat yourself up about it. Get on with YOUR life. Material things are just THINGS they can be disposed of. He was probably looking for something new all the time. Men can browse the internet for just about any slapper/woman of loose morals for hours until they find one that fits the bill. If he wants a bicycle that has been used and ridden by a lot of men then let him have it. You don't deserve such a creep. Stop bigging him up - he's just a tosser.

Regarding that 'TIMMY' person I've read a few of his posts what a complete IDIOT he is. There are a few comments from some people that I hope you will not take to heart - some people are just plain nasty.

You ever read the book, 'he's just not that into you'
If not..get it now!!!

one day your cheating husband will realize that all that glitters is not gold .hes living in a fantasy world at the moment . his new girlfriend is propping up his huge ego . but one day someone will do to him what he has done to you . and then he will realize all that he has lost . people like him are never happy for long . your better off without him.

Why don't you cease posting nasty comments? If you haven't got anything constructive to post then don't post at all. Timmy, maybe you'd like to explain your post to the police when they knock on your front door? Your IP is easily traced.

BBC News.... A UK schoolboy sparked an international security alert after he sent an e-mail to the White House, threatening to kill United States President George W Bush.

The 14-year-old pupil at Blake High School in Cannock, Staffordshire sent the threats from a school computer.

He was investigated and interviewed by the Special Branch, after the e-mail was intercepted by the US Central Intelligence Agency.

The teenager, whose name has not been disclosed, was not suspended, but was severely reprimanded by the police and school authorities. A spokesman for Staffordshire County Council said the e-mail was sent in November last year, at the time of the US elections.

'Several involved'

"Several boys were involved in this, but only one was reprimanded by police officers who went to his home," the spokesman said.

The council was in the process of drawing up guidelines for schools on internet security measures, he said.

"We hope to keep incidents like this to a minimum in the future," he added.

The school's head teacher, Heather Bowman, described the incident as "a thoughtless prank".

It proved that, in an electronic age, all communications were traceable and attributable, Mrs Bowman said in a statement.

"The school is well aware of its responsibilities and has good monitoring and security systems in place, which are constantly being updated," she added.