Husband couldn't resist temptation

Go knit yourself a 'cardy' and you'll feel much better.

If he wants you back a year or two down the road, claiming that he now knows what he lost, then dont believe him. As he was walking down the road with his bags it would have struck him what he had lost, the fact is it didnt strike him, and he happily marched away to his new womans bed. I wouldnt think for one minute it was a shortfall on your part, I think that the man has no class, little intelligence and has the moral fibre of a maggot, once you start to realise that he doesnt feel he 'lost' anything, then you can move on, find someone worthy of you and relax in the knowledge that if he did it to you, then he will probably do it to his new woman, by the time he does it to her, you will be flying, and in love with a decent man.

Sian Griffiths

I contend that for most or all of us there is an ideal "type" to which we are immensely attracted. Egos and immaturity aside, if we happen to encounter our "ideal man/woman" in a social context and there is immediate and obvious chemistry it is difficult to ignore. Many do of course, but those that don't often follow an irrestible urge. I'm not condoning it, and integrity in a relationship is vital. However, it can be severely tested.

Some people view it philosophically and are amazingly understandable about a partner finding their "one", and are prepared to stand aside and move on eventually. Others see it as loathsome betrayal and fling all the mud they can at them. It's for each of us to determine, not for others to judge.

Then again, today we live in a shallow, throwaway society. The tendency has arisen to discard anything that isn't "quite right", and so it is with relationships. Commitment is harder today than ever before, I believe. 40% of new relationships begin in the workplace, and most people in the workplace have partners of one sort or another. Cheating is rife everywhere and at all levels. People (esp young women) dress provocatively to entice. Many people have no values and see married individuals as fair game.

Personally, I try to adopt the philosophical approach. There are attractive people everywhere, that can't be ignored. My partner may see someone she fancies. Me likewise. Thing is, how well do you know the one you're with? Betrayal is devastating, but if it happens then you were not with the right one.

Life is tough, then you die.

Anyone who treats people as commodities (male or female) isn't worth spit.

Sad that they cause so much lsting damage, and think nothing of it.

Sounds like he was way too immature and selfish for marriage.

Better luck next time.

I agree! You rattle this out! Are you over him? There are many lose ends, good luck in sorting them out.

Your first words, "I am over him but...." You sound so over him!

He found a shiny new toy - the sooner you accept people are shallow s-h-1-t-s the sooner you really will get over it.