Ex-wife uses CSA money for herself

Iv heard of cases where mums claim for not being able to work due to fear of work and drive round in cars etc while the disposed dad pick up the pieces!

Can I do any thing about child benefit though, she's living between us and my husbands mum (nanny) when I rang up they asked if she was living with us, well no, not all the time. The woman didn't seem very interested, and I don't want to claim if i'm not entitiled to it. I'm sure my husbands ex is claiming for her.

Also if I pretend I have a strange illness can I have a car? I quite fancy a nice new 08 VW.

OK I'll carry on working and put up with an old ford. Sh*t.

Court...ha ha.
Your typical benefit-bunny has years of freeloading experience. She will have no disposable income and so get legal aid, unless you are on benefit too or a multi-millionaire you will be screwed. Also consider that the system tend to beleive the poor struggling courageous mummy even in the absence of evidence and there's always the doomsday option of a declaration of suspected abuse. No evidence required, the 'precautionary principle' (what dick thought that one up?), will ensure dad is well and truly 'buried'.
Oddly there's a 1/3 chance that dad's not the dad anyway.

Take het to court you have a very very good case!

WHY WHY WHY. It's so crap. My husbands ex wife is supposedly disabled and has an 08 car from the council yet she goes up the town every weekend partying, she gets really drunk and has fights!! when she goes to the doctors she takes a walking stick!!!! She has never had a job in her life. She did want us to buy her daughter a horse (yeah right) but has given up hope as her daughter would rather live with her dad's side of the family. Mother in law doesen't want to upset the apple cart and sort out child benefit, tax credits. so the ex is getting everything!!!! We have a 10 year old and a 1 year old together. I WANT TO SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!

thank you all for your comments

just an update , since my first journal, unfortunately for my children and me, my ex-wife has contiuned this never ending commitment to try and make me pay more money, she has now applied to the courts for supposedly contact difficulties to try and get more money.
even though she knows our children do not want to stop at her house anymore at weekends, she has tried bribes of money, days out and blaming me for virtually everything,she is now trying to get the courts to make our children go against their wishes.
cafcass are now involved and I am sure they will find out what the real reasons are , namely money.
Its not all bad news though, my relationship I have with my children is even more stronger than ever, whilst my ex-wifes is deteriating fast.
money is not everything and pails into insignificant the relationship a father has with his children.

it seems that in the long term becuase of a few pounds my ex-wife will pay the ultimate cost, the love and respoect she has from our children.

Its about time the government spent more time and resources getting the single mothers who live off the benefits of having children back to work, only then will they realise how lucky they are

My ex partner has met someone knew and now I pay for them to live together its an outrage! someone has to stop this

Unfortunately this Circus Sytem Association is here to stay. I suggest making a claim for a variation. set up an account dedicated for CSA clown mishaps as well

My ex wife restricted access in order to get the maximum amount from the CSA. She has moved 180 mils away but before she did she would drop our daughter off at 6.30 in the morning, and depending on her social plans would often not pick her up until 11 at night - our daughter was 3 years old then, so that it wouldn't add to the number of nights our daughter stayed with me. I now get to see her because as far as the CSA are concerned I am an absent father - If I admitted the amount of time she stays with me it would reduce payments and she would in turn restrict my access. I am advised that I would achieve little in court at great expense, as I earn slightly too much for legal aid. I also have to drive a 360mile round trip to collect and return our daughter as my ex wife will not help at all, despite earning more than me. THATS playing the system, but unfortunately the architects of that system are too darn stoopid and out of touch to keep it in check. I have always paid over and above what was expected and spend all my spare income on doing things with my daughter during the time she stays, and so cannot afford anywhere to live yet (I am staying at my parents, as does our daughter). The CSA should be out to get people who avoid paying, not me, just because I admit to where I live and am an easy target. There just isnt space in the system for fathers :-(

The rules need changing there. Here in Canada the right to access has nothing to do with payment. Even delinquent parents can see kids but the Government can get funds directly from employers and other ways.
We have a Father's Rights group of lawyers here to help equalize rights. I'm raising my son (now almost 17) my ex pays support - but it seems a token amount in lieu of any other help.

I have a four and a half year old daughter (birthdate 14/09/03) from a previous relationship. I have owned my own home since July of this year and my partner and I would like to have my daughter for 2 nights a week (which we previously have). My ex now frequently texts just before I'm due to pick her up and says "She doesn't want to go, don't bother coming round". Also, when I text she never replies and when I ring she won't answer to discuss it. For example on Christmas Day I rang at least 10 times (just to speak to my daughter), her mobile was on but she would not pick up. I currently pay that woman £47 a week (which clearly isn't being spent on my daughter). How on earth is this fair?

oh this is such common practice. a woman I know receives monthly 400 cash in hand of one father and 340 clear from the csa, aswell as tax credit 500 and her wages 600 aswell as child benefit free prescription and child care, she spends all the money on clothes hair , nails cars anything but her kids. they are clothed and feed but that's about it. its a good money making business and she is on the look out for a new fool to take to the cleaners.