Ex-wife uses CSA money for herself

For the past 5 years I have had to deal with the csa after my abusive ex walked out, as my ex husband refused to pay any money whatsoever towards the upkeep of our children, house etc so a deductions of earnings was placed upon his salary. Even though the money is taken monthly from his salary, I can go for up to 5 months without receiving a penny and when I do get payments they are always incorrect and am now terrribly in debt because of this. I have to constantly ring them and try and find out what is happening but am continually informed that it is due to the computer system. I have also the added problem of my ex's partner works for the IT department of the csa and acts as his representative as he continues to appeal the amount he pays. Does anyone know if this is allowed for a person who works for the department to act as his official representative????? He also always seems to know information that I have given to the csa and I am beginning to get quite paranoid about this. However I wonder about the legality of this representation. Any advice please.

Hallo bei mir war trotz ehebruch meine exfraues ,sie nahm die kinder weg mit den damaligen freund und lebte mit ihm zusammen,bekommte ehegaten unterhalt auch,und lebte in luxus mit den freund,und jetzt ändert das gesetz und sagt die kinder haben vorrang, meine frage ist warum sie damals nicht so dachten und gaben die exfrau ehegatenunterhalt,des heist für mich reines ausbäuten der väter damals war die exfrau heute siund die kinbder morgen werden die engelkinder kommen solche blöde gesetzte gibts nur in deutschland,dan hatte sie 3 kinder mit den den freund gemacht, und stellte antrag für die 2 kinder von mir ,damit sie ins heim kommen und ich soll mit denen weiter ärgern wegen beitragskosten,eine ungerechte weg nimmt hier und hilft falsche menschen und vernichtet väter die alles gaben und jetzt leben sie in armut,wegen den ausbeuten,keiner soll sich wundern wen diese väter nicht mehr helfen wen die kinder heiraten und eine familie gründen weil schon vorher in armut gebracht wurden von gesetzte die in deutschland gemacht wurden von menschen die nicht gerechtigkeit können.

my x keeps saying she will go to the csa because she knows she will get more money even with me paying her every week without fail she is just after all she can get out of me, can someone please tell me if she goes to the csa will she continue to get all her social money for claiming to be a single mother?

lol, thanks Been there. Will keep that in mind in future. :D

Kat,
Karlos TJ is a twisted person, not really worth mentioning.Most know his type of comments and ignore him. He soon crawls back to his padded cell. I see that is an old comment you are responding to, so I think its best you let him be.:)

I would like to also comment to remind people such as karlosthejackel not to judge all women by the standards of those who are destroying your lives.

Karlosthejackel - I am sorry for your experiences, but I feel that the following comments you made were uncalled for and nasty:

"You woman really a different race aren't you...." "...Anything you woman do, you always stand by each other just for the sake of it..."

I am a woman and I am disgusted at those money grabbing lazy 'mothers' who don't care for their children. Although they're not even mine, I'm suffering too because my partner is being screwed over by his ex, as described in my previous comment and we can barely afford to live. I can't even begin to describe the hatred I have for her and women like her.

My partner and I can barely afford to pay the bills or for him to get to work while his ex-wife goes on foreign holidays, always has the latest gadgets etc and his kids sit stinking in old dirty clothes, having never had a bath or brushed their hair or teeth anytime recently. It's sickening as we don't mind paying for them, but it is evident that she doesn't use it to take care of them.

The csa used to reassess when our circumstances changed; however, it appears that they have changed the rules.
We recently asked for a reassessment as my partner had been out of work for a few months and could only find a job 60m away. We have to pay so much petrol so he can get there but they refused and told us that rent, travel etc are no longer relevant to the amount they take.
They said we'd just have to find somewhere cheaper to live or move closer to his work. We can't afford to save for a deposit or rent but we can't carry on affording the petrol costs and our bills either and our flat is the cheapest we could find. At this rate, he will have to quit his job but he doesn't want to give it up. It would also mean his kids wouldn't get anything. I have tried looking for new jobs, but there is nothing and my current wage is terrible.
They said they'd take less if we had a kid - we really want to get married and have kids but thanks to them we can't afford it - and if his kids stayed with us a few days a week - we're expected by their mother to drive 150 miles there and back for them, which we also can't afford.
While things like our rent etc are not taken into account when working out how much to take from us, we also discovered that the amount of benefits she receives no longer affects the amount she gets from us.
We have no quality of life - we can't have holidays or eat out etc and constantly lay awake at night with the stress of how to pay the bills. We have both felt suicidal on occasion. This shouldn't be allowed to continue.

In todays Daily mail there is an article that states that GT Britain is the broken home capitol of europe,

I wonder why?

im suposed to get £6.00 a week in maintence weekly but havn't recieved any of it my ex now owes me £18,000 no chance of getting any of it. He was working but lost his job (not going in didn't help)
he sees the kids when he has petrol in his car. I've even given him the petrol money so he will see them. Not all mothers are money grabbing as some people state. I work and provide for my 2.

Bradfordfella - That is a seriously sad story, an indictment of the double standards of this system. If I were you I would go to the Citizens Advice, they are very good. I wish you well and hope you get to see your kids.

I'm divorced with two kids aged 7 and 9. I'm not allowed to see my kids as I battered my ex-wife's boyfriend when I found out about their affair and got 18 months in prison for GBH. The Family Court said it wasn't in the my childrens' best interests seeing me as I have a conviction for violence even though my ex's live-in junkie boyfriend has worse convictions - my kids now call him dad ffs. Now I'm married again and although I'm not working due to disability, my wife works. I don't claim any benefits. Is it true the CSA can take money from my wife to pay for my kids, sorry, my ex and her smack-head lover's expensive drug habit?

Where we live it goes like this if the other parent does not have a job it goes off the minimum wage for that state and they base it off both incomes and then the percentage is determined after that. The only thing that I don't quite understand is the one parent that does have the income which is usually the father and I said usually and that is generally whom has to pay the child support pays out the wazoo. My husband and his x wife agreed to a set amount in there divorce but frankly 5 yrs ago it was about 500 under what the state required him to pay according to there calculations and well you know the cost of living and she can take us back any time for more hek by the time one graduates we will still be paying the 900 a month for the one left because of inflation. Now having 3 children of my own I know for a fact you don't need that much help per month and my kids do a lot per month but who am I. I just think the rules need to be looked at a we bit.