Why are English people so cold?
02-September-2010
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Why are English people so cold?  Perhaps this is the reason so many foreigners fail to integrate properly into society in the UK?  I am a foreigner totally grateful to the UK for giving me a passport (married to a Brit for 21 years) as the chances of being killed where I come from are pretty good.

However, in all the time I spent living in the UK (five years in total), although I'm blue-eyed, blonde and speak perfect English with just a 5% accent, I am always regarded as being foreign.  All my friends are foreign too mainly because we have come to realise we are all in the same boat.

My best friend is Swedish and has lived here in the UK for about 12 years.  Even after that length of time living in the UK she says I am still the only person who has ever invited her home for a coffee!

British  and european union flag in London

We're told we have to be patient and that it takes time for an English person to trust you (say four years of knowing you), but then once they are friends with you, they are the best friends in the world. Well, I'm afraid I've given up trying and hoping.

Is it perhaps because your mothers never breast fed you and thus did not expose you to the first essential human warmth that we should all know?  Or is it because you really are all xenophobic and your government, in its multicultural tendencies has failed to realise this basic truth?  Perhaps it is just because you are SO polite, politically correct and you really don't want us to be here, so instead of telling us sincerely, you pretend to put up with us because you really don't want to become our friends?

Since first moving to the UK, I decided to move away again and have lived abroad for seven years.  During that time I have never failed to make friends with the locals, and quickly too.  So why are the English so aloof with foreigners?

By: Andypandy


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Oh yes, the Brit spongers are the most deplorable of all. They set the example the foreign spongers follow.
*anon  02-Sep-2010 13:12

 
Clint, the best bit is that those Brit's on benefits who won't work, then moan that the country is full of foreigners, who go out to work, so those Brit's can sit at home all day.

My estate is full of bone idle fit to work Brit's who havn't been to work for at least twenty years, why do they live in nice big houses? little wonder us workers are forced to pay loads of tax,

It makes my blood boil, I have worked shifts for 30 years, having to get out of bed at 5am one week, and not getting home till 10pm the next week, whilst the ones on benefits lie in bed.
*Gainsborough lad.  02-Sep-2010 09:03

 
Brits claim benefits while foreigners like me do all the work.
*clint  02-Sep-2010 08:30

 
"Britain is the greatest country in the world and the rest of the world knows it! This is why they come here. By hook or by crook, they will go to the extremes to be here."

They come for the benefits. They will stop coming when the benefits dry up.
*anon  02-Sep-2010 06:55

 
Britain is the greatest country in the world and the rest of the world knows it! This is why they come here. By hook or by crook, they will go to the extremes to be here.

They don't want any other country but the UK.

No other country in the world offers the services that we have. Try going to Iran and demanding a Christian church built in the middle of their capital - see where that gets you.

Go to the capital toilet of Britain and see how many mosques and synagogues there are. More than you can shake a stick at.
*Zoltan  01-Sep-2010 22:48

 
I am an English person who has lived here all my life. What you say has a lot of truth in it. I think the history of Britain as a warrior nation has a lot to do with this.. Many English people are brought up in families where there is little touch (I am talking here about the 1970s). Also there is a prohibition about expressing emotion in public in England which is deeply debilitating. The English have just as much emotion as any other nation in the world, Its just that as children we are castigated for expressing it. Any one who expresses tears is "wet" or "weak".No, actually they real human beings. And we all get hurt.Especially boys. Boys must be allowed to cry. I am talking here about boys of all ages up to 16. The result is repressed and sometimes cruel adults who are out of touch with their feelings. This is known in the jargon as "self-alienation." It was known about as early as the 1930s by therapists such as Wilhelm Reich. There is a solution to this problem....the wholesale reform of the education system, involving the abolition of boarding schools. The problem is this is difficult ...because the Establishment keeps its political power through a never ending cycle of emotional repression, which produces cruel adults who then send away their children.... and so the cycle is repeated. If only the middle class would realise the damage they do to their children by sending their children away we would all be much better off. But they trade their souls for a better social position and money. It's not worth it.
*Ireton  01-Sep-2010 21:12

 
I dont think that british people are cold... I am a foreigner and I live in the uk only for studying... I dont look for getting someone's job or place under the sun... its just a way all people are... trust me in all parts of the world people stop caring and some of the british are not the only ones who are cold... its just a way people were raised up... being cold-hearted or warm... I loved a guy, and he was a proper british and as he admitted a cold hearted one but still he was one in a million for me... you shouldnt divide people into nations... its the way people are rather than cultural matters...
its good that you see the difference, at least you can raise up your children as a caring and thus happy young generation.
hope, it helps.
keep on seeking and you will find what you want.
*venus  01-Sep-2010 20:20

 
You probably lived in the South. They're all up themselves, come up North mate, we'll sort you out with a drink!
*Jonnyb33  31-Aug-2010 13:46

 
I take the pounds you lazy brit, really simple sport.
*clit heine  31-Aug-2010 10:02

 
cint heine

New Zealanders are more cultured?

What - 30 things to do with sheep? 31 if it is an specially friendly sheep?
*hint ceine  30-Aug-2010 21:35

 
Mr Hicks, why are you so incapable of spotting such a blatant troll?
*Anthony  30-Aug-2010 21:29

 
cint heine or clint heine,

a, if you have a chip on your shoulder about the english why are you in england?

b, if new zealand is so fantastic and much better why do you not return there?
*Mr Hicks  30-Aug-2010 20:14


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