I don't want to get married

This is a pet hate of mine too, I'm in my mid thirties, female and dont want to get married or have children. I'm fed up of the 'you'll be next' comments. Erm, no, I wont be next and thats by choice... I dont agree with Brody's comments, just because you dont want to be married doesnt mean there are commitment issues. my partner knows how I feel about him and vice versa and we are very committed and work at our relationship. we just dont feel there is a need to make a public declaration, our relationship is personal to us. Each to their own though eh? it means different things to everyone

I agree with you. I don't ever want to get married either, and I don't care what people say. Marriage is something made by society, not by nature. So I'm asking why should anybody consider that our choice is not normal?
I wish you both good luck!

You gotta do whatever is best for you. If you don't want to get married then either tell them its not up for discussion anymore or just ignore it. don't let pressure push you into making a mistake

Look, people, the world is not black & white. Marriage works for some - not for others. Marriage works for different peoplpe in different times of their lives. We constantly change, our need chage. What was right for me 5 years ago no longer apply. I've been with my girlfriend for 12 years and eagerly wanted to marry in first 3; I dread the prospect now. Think about it nothing ever stays the same, nothing!

I agree society pressures people especially women and what pisses me off more than anything is that society views my ten year cohabitation as something 'less' because I dont have a piece of paper saying the authorities recognise my relationship...its all a load of bollocks and was set up only so that men could get their dowry back if a woman was not a virgin and didnt bleed on the wedding night..I am sorry but that is what it originates from and I dont like that aspect of it at all! The fact you can know someone all of a couple of weeks and get married cheapens the whole thing for me anyway....

I agree society pressures people especially women and what pisses me off more than anything is that society views my ten year cohabitation as something 'less' because I dont have a piece of paper saying the authorities recognise my relationship...its all a load of bollocks and was set up only so that men could get their dowry back if a woman was not a virgin and didnt bleed on the wedding night..I am sorry but that is what it originates from and I dont like that aspect of it at all! The fact you can know someone all of a couple of weeks and get married cheapens the whole thing for me anyway....

Ian Parsons you are a fool. If I want to post comments I will do. That's what this space is for, guess what, it's a gripe site. You really are stupid. Knob-head.

Brody is really ignorant. I wonder if she's American?

you are an idiot. marriage isn't something silly and not about a "silly piece of paper" nor is it a party you are merely enhancing your relationship. marriage is a bondage and a promise to one person that you will love them above all. so a married woman must her "man" more because she unlike you believes and strives for this commitment. whereas you are worried about your career. in addition getting married has absolutly nothing to do with having children because I more than think that you have sexual relations with your "man". oh yes, did I mention your an idiot. I a 16 YEAR OLD act and view the world and it aspects including relationship in more mature ways than you do. your blog or whatever you want to consider this makes you sound like a teenager and that says alot coming from one!! don't you think?

I totally agree with you. I am all for two people being in a deeply committed, monogamous relationship but I fail to see how legality comes into it. If I love someone and feel that special connection with them I will want to be with them. I don't need a piece of paper to reinforce it. How does a ceremony and a piece of paper do anything to make any difference what is in people's heart? It doesn't. So what IS the point of it?

Moaning Minnie,Why do you continue to post on this site?your comments are always so Trite and boring and airheaded.If you do not have anything interesting or insightfull to say do not say it.Nobody cares about your uninteresting Life.my advice for you is to go to a celeb site where you can spend many happy hours droning on all day with other silly girls.

I so agree with this griper!! You've saved me writing my own gripe! I don't see the need for it either, me and my boyfriend are happy as we are, marriage is toooo expensive, we'd rather spend the money on us than one day which doesn't change the way we feel about each other anyway. Would we be more committed to each other if we were married? Of course not! We're happy as we are, and neither of us wants children either so that's not an issue.