I don't want to get married

I think that you are lost. You either don not want to commit or are afraid of doing so. if you say it is "JUST" a piece of paper, why don´t you sign it? or are you afraid of going beyond?? I think you do not want to get married because you are not sure of yourself: you fear your man will scape from you and if you get married then it´ll be more difficult because you would have to divorce, which would cause you a great shame. IF YOU SAY U LOVE HIM, WHY DON´T YOU TAKE IT SERIOUSLY? don not worry, if you are more than thirty it´s OK, do not be ashamed. Being married is a blessing!!!! perdon por mi ingles, pero hablo castellano.espero que se entienda!!! :)

Why should a woman have to justify her worth through marriage - or worse have to explain herself to anyone who challenges her belief with their own projection of what they believe to be 'the thing to do'. Another irritating aspect of this is 'Oh there must be something wrong with her' or worse 'No man has ever asked her' by definition the anxiety of these statements ever coming to fruition are the very root of why some women, not all (and I stress not all women) feel pressured into wanting the security of marriage. Forget about what other people think. Dont worry yourself over having to explain yourself to whatever stupid comment is thrown absent mindedly.I know its easier said than done from personal experience. Change society by remaining true to your beliefs and in turn you may inspire other women to stand strong and follow suit in many other aspects of life. Albeit marriage seeminly the most pressing followed by the pressure of children. More often than not I have found these comments have come from other women, why is that?

At least I know I am not the only one now! Why can't people understand that I mean it when I say that I DON'T want to get married and I DON'T want kids! The "you will be next" statement really anoys me. I don't go around saying when I hear someone is getting divorced "you will be next" so why do people have the need to say the same thing to me when someone gets married! I've been in a serious relationship for 7 years now and my partner is in complete agreement that we are happy to remain the way we are, infact I am trying to a arrange a vasectomy because that is how strongly we feel about it, but doctors keep saying that I need to be sure, I AM!

I completely agree with you - happiness, trust and love are not something that comes from marriage, but rather from being with the right person. My girlfriend and I have been together nearly 9 years and I wish people would keep their opinions to themselves because it causes more arguements than anything else.

I am 37 years old and have never been married. This is by choice, not because no one has asked. I have been asked twice by two different men but, I could not go through with either of them. I love my independence. I love that I can do what I want, when I want, how I want without asking anyone or getting the okay from anyone. I feel I have more opportunities to do things and meet new people without a husband. I feel like having a husband will hinder my life more than add to it. People think I'm weird but, this is how I choose to live my life and I'm happy.

I'm not married and I don't want,too. I know that feeling when I've been asked if,I'm married or ever was married. The looks people can give you and some act like their annoyed or suprised. People shouldn't be trying to tell you or your boyfriend how you should live your lives. You don't have to get married! You certainly don't have to tolerate people telling you it's wrong not to want to have more children,either! Besides,it's none of their business,anyway. Just ignore them and live your life,happily. Good luck!

I don't believe in marridge either. I mean sure if two people want to get marride and it makes them happy. Well good for them, there is nothign wrong with it. But I see unmarride couple who has been together for many years abd their love is no lesser than those who has gotten marride. Most people I know got marride not because of love. Sure they marride a person they loved but that was not a reason. They marride because parents were old fashioned and did not allow them to live together without a piece of paper, they marride because they wanted a party, they marride because they were insecure and wanted proove of their partner's love...but they did not marry just because they loved. The thing is that LOVE does not need marridge...love existed way before idea of marridge was created...and when love goes love does not care you are marride. Love is independant and has nothing to do with little rules and regulations people create. I lived with my partners of 4 year for 2 years now and we fight, we slam doors, we make-up, we make plans, we travel...we are together. I trsut him with all my heart. He is by my side after so many things we faced because he chooses to, not because he is bouned by a piece of silly paper or some other stupid fincancial or else commitment. If you don't want to get marride - don't. You two are happy, that is all what true ever matters.

Don't get married. My wife constantly wants, nay demands, that I spend more than I am earning. She demands I take us out to eat, in pricey restaurants, more often than we can afford. She says I have got a credit card. Use it she says.

Now her brother is bankrupt. He started a business which had ultimately failed. He is over £100,000 in debt. She says we should help him, and give him money. The parents have given this brother all the family monies anyway. And he has squandered the lot.

Being married to this lady means a grandly impoverished future.

This lady does not understand what the word "recession" means

This reminds me of when I lived in Portsmouth years ago, in the 70s, and people kept asking me why I wasn`t married, strange when I was still in my teens at the time, but then down there, girls get married when they`re 16 or 17. I drove me up the wall how people treated me as if there was something wrong with me because I hadn`t "caught" a husband at such an advanced age!

you don't want to get married? what are you, queer ?

This is a pet hate of mine too, I'm in my mid thirties, female and dont want to get married or have children. I'm fed up of the 'you'll be next' comments. Erm, no, I wont be next and thats by choice... I dont agree with Brody's comments, just because you dont want to be married doesnt mean there are commitment issues. my partner knows how I feel about him and vice versa and we are very committed and work at our relationship. we just dont feel there is a need to make a public declaration, our relationship is personal to us. Each to their own though eh? it means different things to everyone

I agree with you. I don't ever want to get married either, and I don't care what people say. Marriage is something made by society, not by nature. So I'm asking why should anybody consider that our choice is not normal?
I wish you both good luck!