I don't want to get married

It's your choice.
Andno, I don't personally agree. By saying it's old fashioned you are insulting people who value marriage.

Personally I think true relationships would be better without marriage. Without marriage, the only major thing binding you to that person is happiness, but without happiness a relationship is pointless, in which case it is best for both parties to go their seperate ways. Marriage often forces unhappy couples to stay together which results in uneccessary suffering.

I don't want to get married it's hard for me I am worried I might end up marrying a bad person.
I will never have a husband or four children then get divorce.

to m.c: If you are unhappy then you should divorce her. you have friends- if they didnt desert you when you got married. but you cant lead this woman on like this. she obviously thinks that theres something there enough to want to have your babies but you dont. she will be upset- course she will but suppose you have kids and then you tell her that you hate the life you have. shell be even more upset the. I know Im only 14 and I could very well be talkin out my bum...but I really think its unfair for you to drag this relationship on. unfair to yourself and your wife. I hope I helped.

I know lots of married people that are so lonely, they dont really get invited out much, and if they do, they seem so eager to be pleasing and being too nice to others, not forgetting how much they lose their identities to their OTHER HALF???

I know lots of single and like me they are alive, always got places to go, people to meet, their life is playful and plentiful.

Dont get me wrong I know some single people who seem miserable, and lonely, but this is because they see themselves in this way, our thoughts have a way of instructing our emotions.
No doubt they will be looking for the ONE to marry, then only when they have someone, their happiness will start. I pity them because this will just be a temporary illusion, as their deep fear of lonliness has been extinguished, and usually these are the people who DIVORCE.
If only they worked it out that you are ALWAYS on your own, no matter who you are with.

Is see marriage as an unnatural committment, I really do. I like to get involved with as many women as I can and I've experienced some real dames.

I have a fantastic time doing what I'm doing and can't imagine it being any other way. I've nothing against marriage by any means, just not for me.

I do what a lot of married men wish they could do.

I completely agree, I will never get married, I really do think alot of it is about insecurity. I mean once married, it is like saying, I OWN you now, you cant do this or that because we are married. I have many friends that were so full of joy, full of lilfe, excited about new things, then just as they had nothing to worry about, they go and get married. I can tell you now, that those same friends do not have the same positive emotions they used to have, they always are saying they are tired, or had a hard day, it is like they rationalise and make excuses to cover up their boredom. There infatuation, their lust, has gone into the love hangover stage, and they are really just fed up, it is like they feign the couple thing, going out, talking to other couples, how yucky can you get. Yes I am being judgmental so what, and what I cant stand is when you see lots of couples out, all pretending to be nice, laughing so falsely, then most probably going home to discuss comparisons, what a poor way to increase the security of your insecurities.
Stay single, they are your beliefs, and you have joined the confidence club, not relying on others to complete you and feel whole, you are everything you want, right within you, stay true to yourself, your beliefs, and enjoy your relationship as both are. I am 35, and my mates are starting to say, if it wasnt for the kids, they would trade place anyday. BEST WISHES

I totally agree that you do not want to get married because I don't either.
It is just personal preference whether someone wants to get married or not and all the power to ya!

The best thing I ever did was get married to the man who is now my husband. We are a pair and our relationship changed when we took those vows (even though we already had shared bank accounts, a house, and years of history). We thought long and hard about what we did. Our wedding was small, just a few family and friends followed by a nice dinner at a posh resturant. The whole thing cost a few hundred quid. It wasn't about the party or the money. I would never push anyone to get married, as everyone does it for different reasons and it means different things to different people. Its sad that people don't think about the partnership before entering it. I commend you for at least sorting through your feelings on the subject and making your point. If everyone did that, there might be less divorce and more respect for what it means to be in any sort of relationship.

I don't want to get married. Then don't get married.

Are you looking toward the nation to make a decision for you?

To Bobo: it's women like you who scew society and men like your boyfriend that allow it to happen.....career and all that crap..as if you can't have both...by the way, from the sound of you, it doesn't seem that you will have much of a career anyway...get a grip: get married and start a family.

The concept of "marriage" is one that requires education in order to understand and appreciate. Obviously you have never been educated in this area of your life. Traditionally education about marriage was given by family, church and even schools. But in todays world people are too busy and lacking in this kind of knowledge themselves to impart it to others. It is sort of in the same category with table manners and crocheting. I don't think society is a better place because so many "modern" thinkers have ousted marriage. I don't think people like yourself should just run out and ignorantly get married because their relatives and friends are pressuring them to do so. But I do think people should educate themselves about the concept of marriage so that they can make a more informed decision about it. I am sure any attorney will be more than happy to educate you in the benefits of marriage if you're too sophisticated to get it from traditional sources.