People who abuse children
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Why do people who abuse children, once they have served their sentence, receive assistance from family and friends to have a 'normal' life, whilst their victims/families remain to suffer?

Fourteen years ago, I brought a case against my brother for abusing my youngest son.  He was ten when we found out and it had apparently been going on for a year.  As a result, my eldest son came forward to say that he had also been approached by my brother when he was about the same age, also so did two other nephews (though one refused to give a statement in the end).

Kids playing hide and seek

My brother received a 10 month prison sentence, of which he only served 6 months.  My extended family consists of three brothers and three sisters plus my parents); they all stood by my brother during this time either refusing to believe he could do such a thing, or were not aware of the full facts etc.  Two of my sisters even attended court, even though their sons were involved.  The mind boggles doesn't it?

I have had to support my youngest son through periods of depression, an attempted suicide at the age of twelve, and a number of years of self harm even though he has received counselling on a number of occasions.  This has all been made worse by the fact that even though we believed and supported him as did the law without question, our extended family abandoned us and my son has since had a god awful time of it.

My brother on the other hand came out of prison and went to stay with my parents.  He got a job, went on holidays and gained a third share in my parents’ house.  He basically had a full life end enjoyed every minute of it apparently!

Another nephew came forward to say he had suffered the same fate as my son.  Of all the places he did this at my mother's funeral three years ago!  He attempted to bring a case against my brother as a result, but the case was dropped by the Crown Prosecution Service, saying it was 'historical evidence' and hadn't had enough to bring a case.  My brother also escaped the 'register' as this has become law since his conviction.

My thoughts are, he can go where ever he pleases, do basically what he wants and no-one keeps tabs on him.  He could even get a job in a school if he wanted to.  Isn’t that reassuring and do they really call this justice?

Now most of the family are aware (though some still support him), his diet of children in the family has apparently been exhausted.  But where will his attention focus now, and who will protect the innocent?

By: Caring Parent


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Davo,
This country is too soft on people that do that kind of thing.I started to watch The Dancing Boys of Afghanistan and The World's Most Dangerous Place for Women. When you see things like that, and how much they get away with, it's no wonder why they think they can do the same here and get away with it.They gave up their human rights the moment they did all they did.
I wouldn't even waste time putting them on death row if I had my way. I would have that lethal injection ready. I know it's too painless for them, but the sooner rid the better.
They are pure evil.
*Been there  21-Apr-2010 16:09

 
Here is one to make you weep. BBC News 21 Apr 10.

What kind of people allow this to happen? I wonder if they would make the same decision if it were their daughter he sexually abused?

Pakistani sex offender wins right to stay in UK.

A Pakistani man who sexually abused two girls has won the right to stay in Britain, claiming his human rights would be breached if he was deported.

Zulfar Hussain, who lived in Blackburn, was jailed for five years in 2007 for crimes against two girls aged under 16. The girls were forced to have sex with up to ten men a night. He threatened to rape and kill their parents in front of them if they did not do what he asked.

He is soon to be freed and was to have been deported as a foreign national who has committed a serious crime.

The Home Office is to appeal against a ruling by a judge at a tribunal hearing allowing Hussain, 48, to remain.

A spokeswoman for the Home Office confirmed that Hussain was granted leave to remain by the judge earlier in the month.

Hussain is now thought to be being held in an immigration removal centre pending the outcome of the Home Office's appeal against that ruling.

He was jailed in August 2007 at Preston Crown Court, which heard how he abducted and sexually exploited two vulnerable girls while plying them with drugs.

Qaiser Naveed, 34, from Burnley, who was jailed alongside Hussain for the same offences, has not appealed and will be deported back to Pakistan.

Both were ordered to sign the sex offenders register for life and banned for life from associating with girls under the age of 16.

They were caught after police in Lancashire worked with local councils and charities to combat the problem of men grooming vulnerable girls.
*Davo  21-Apr-2010 13:24

 
I've seen this happen in other families. A man abuses his kids/relatives, and the family sticks by him and blames the victim.

You might as well disown your relatives. They can't be trusted or relied upon.
*Yank  15-Apr-2010 16:50

 
I think they should be strapped to a tall copper pole on top of a hill during a lightning storm,

And let the gods do their work.
*Gainsborough lad.  20-Dec-2009 20:00

 
'Been there'

Thank you for the gracious apology. Accepted and your further comments noted and understood.

All the best,

Congo

Whilst writing, may I ask 'Burn the Nonces' to put his suggestion in writing to Sky TV and I am sure they would be delighted to oblige (but only if there was a profit to be made).
*Congo  20-Dec-2009 15:33

 
Sky should have a pay per view channel where you can watch Pedos, Rapists, Murderers etc being hung and tortured and half the money raised could go to charitys like the NSPCC.
*Burn the Nonces  20-Dec-2009 14:53

 
Congo,
I whole heartedly apologize for my mistake.
I do however still think that things like Gary need to be disposed of. In a humane way, if it's the only way.
He and he's like cause too much suffering.
I also think that the accused should have the same right to stay un-named as the accuser has.
I don't think child abusers should be let out of prison once guilt has been proved.They will only continue to feed their craving. And they are a waste of my tax to keep them in prison, when my tax could be better spent on a more worthy cause.
*Been there  16-Nov-2009 17:23

 
grumpyoldwoman,
Congo said "Having said all this it is, of course, unfortunately very easy for anyone to claim childhood abuse or other mitigating circumstances to gain sympathy and reduce the sanctions imposed upon them.".
I did infact see red on reading " unfortunately very easy for anyone to claim childhood abuse or other mitigating circumstances to gain sympathy".
I now know after re-reading Congo's comment, he didn't say what I thought.
*Been there  16-Nov-2009 16:42

 
Been there said:
"I've read through many posts on here, and i'm actually feelin pity 4 you. Congo is talkin of children crying wolf.It's attitudes like that , that allow things like gary to carry on, and deserve to get hung along side him"

I trust that is not a serious comment but a simple and mischevious jibe intended to raise the temperature of the debate.

To clarify a point.

In my opinion child abuse is an awful crime and punishment should be severe. However several contributors have advocated medieval retribution or mob rule and those are proposals with which I have taken issue.
*Congo  16-Nov-2009 09:05

 
Been there, I can't see where Congo has mentioned children crying wolf; but it does happen. There have been several cases in the news where teachers, for example, have been accused of doing something to a child, and it has turned out later that the child made it all up (usually after the teacher's career has been ruined).

Unfortunately this sort of case only makes things worse for genuine victims of abuse.
*grumpyoldwoman  16-Nov-2009 08:35

 
I've read through many posts on here, and i'm actually feelin pity 4 you. Congo is talkin of children crying wolf.It's attitudes like that , that allow things like gary to carry on, and deserve to get hung along side him.
*Been there  15-Nov-2009 19:07

 
Glitter left prison after serving time for down loading you know what, he then went to live with little young girls, he was imprisoned again, he is now out,

I would bet on it that he is still pursuing his only hobby, that is why I think he has been let off.
*Gainsborough lad.  14-Nov-2009 12:15


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