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People who abuse children

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Why do people who abuse children, once they have served their sentence, receive assistance from family and friends to have a 'normal' life, whilst their victims/families remain to suffer?

Fourteen years ago, I brought a case against my brother for abusing my youngest son. He was ten when we found out and it had apparently been going on for a year. As a result, my eldest son came forward to say that he had also been approached by my brother when he was about the same age, also so did two other nephews (though one refused to give a statement in the end).

My brother received a 10 month prison sentence, of which he only served 6 months. My extended family consists of three brothers and three sisters plus my parents); they all stood by my brother during this time either refusing to believe he could do such a thing, or were not aware of the full facts etc. Two of my sisters even attended court, even though their sons were involved. The mind boggles doesn't it?

I have had to support my youngest son through periods of depression, an attempted suicide at the age of twelve, and a number of years of self harm even though he has received counselling on a number of occasions. This has all been made worse by the fact that even though we believed and supported him as did the law without question, our extended family abandoned us and my son has since had a god awful time of it.

My brother on the other hand came out of prison and went to stay with my parents. He got a job, went on holidays and gained a third share in my parents’ house. He basically had a full life end enjoyed every minute of it apparently!

Another nephew came forward to say he had suffered the same fate as my son. Of all the places he did this at my mother's funeral three years ago! He attempted to bring a case against my brother as a result, but the case was dropped by the Crown Prosecution Service, saying it was 'historical evidence' and hadn't had enough to bring a case. My brother also escaped the 'register' as this has become law since his conviction.

My thoughts are, he can go where ever he pleases, do basically what he wants and no-one keeps tabs on him. He could even get a job in a school if he wanted to. Isn’t that reassuring and do they really call this justice?

Now most of the family are aware (though some still support him), his diet of children in the family has apparently been exhausted. But where will his attention focus now, and who will protect the innocent?

By: Caring Parent

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I think they should be strapped to a tall copper pole on top of a hill during a lightning storm,

And let the gods do their work.

Gainsborough lad. 20-Dec-2009 20:00

'Been there'

Thank you for the gracious apology. Accepted and your further comments noted and understood.

All the best,

Congo

Whilst writing, may I ask 'Burn the Nonces' to put his suggestion in writing to Sky TV and I am sure they would be delighted to oblige (but only if there was a profit to be made).

Congo 20-Dec-2009 15:33

Sky should have a pay per view channel where you can watch Pedos, Rapists, Murderers etc being hung and tortured and half the money raised could go to charitys like the NSPCC.

Burn the Nonces 20-Dec-2009 14:53

Congo,
I whole heartedly apologize for my mistake.
I do however still think that things like Gary need to be disposed of. In a humane way, if it's the only way.
He and he's like cause too much suffering.
I also think that the accused should have the same right to stay un-named as the accuser has.
I don't think child abusers should be let out of prison once guilt has been proved.They will only continue to feed their craving. And they are a waste of my tax to keep them in prison, when my tax could be better spent on a more worthy cause.

Been there 16-Nov-2009 17:23

grumpyoldwoman,
Congo said "Having said all this it is, of course, unfortunately very easy for anyone to claim childhood abuse or other mitigating circumstances to gain sympathy and reduce the sanctions imposed upon them.".
I did infact see red on reading " unfortunately very easy for anyone to claim childhood abuse or other mitigating circumstances to gain sympathy".
I now know after re-reading Congo's comment, he didn't say what I thought.

Been there 16-Nov-2009 16:42

Been there said:
"I've read through many posts on here, and i'm actually feelin pity 4 you. Congo is talkin of children crying wolf.It's attitudes like that , that allow things like gary to carry on, and deserve to get hung along side him"

I trust that is not a serious comment but a simple and mischevious jibe intended to raise the temperature of the debate.

To clarify a point.

In my opinion child abuse is an awful crime and punishment should be severe. However several contributors have advocated medieval retribution or mob rule and those are proposals with which I have taken issue.

Congo 16-Nov-2009 09:05

Been there, I can't see where Congo has mentioned children crying wolf; but it does happen. There have been several cases in the news where teachers, for example, have been accused of doing something to a child, and it has turned out later that the child made it all up (usually after the teacher's career has been ruined).

Unfortunately this sort of case only makes things worse for genuine victims of abuse.

grumpyoldwoman 16-Nov-2009 08:35

I've read through many posts on here, and i'm actually feelin pity 4 you. Congo is talkin of children crying wolf.It's attitudes like that , that allow things like gary to carry on, and deserve to get hung along side him.

Been there 15-Nov-2009 19:07

Glitter left prison after serving time for down loading you know what, he then went to live with little young girls, he was imprisoned again, he is now out,

I would bet on it that he is still pursuing his only hobby, that is why I think he has been let off.

Gainsborough lad. 14-Nov-2009 12:15

I would put money on it that someone out there will have given him access to kids, he still has plenty of cash, money talks,

He won't be getting monitered 24-7.

Gainsborough lad. 14-Nov-2009 11:20

"he can only go out of his house in disguise now" said Gainsborough, but then went on to say
"the law has let him off".

I do not understand your reasoning. The judicial process IS working and Mr Paul Gadd (Glitter) is slinking, hiding from the world. Denied freedom, passport withdrawn, freedom curtailed.

How can he possibly be "let off"?

Congo 14-Nov-2009 00:38

Congo, the judicial process in this country is not working, Glitter was villified and jailed for downloading kiddi pic's, on release from jail, he apologised and said that he wanted to put that unfortunate episode behind him. he fooled us all, despite knowing that it was wrong, and as a Brittish citizen, he deliberately went on to move some little ten year old girls in with him, like husband and wives. given another chance he would do it again, he can only go out of his house in disguise now. in his case, the law has let him off,

Gainsborough lad. 13-Nov-2009 20:47

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