People who abuse children
14-May-2008
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Why do people who abuse children, once they have served their sentence, receive assistance from family and friends to have a 'normal' life, whilst their victims/families remain to suffer?

Fourteen years ago, I brought a case against my brother for abusing my youngest son.  He was ten when we found out and it had apparently been going on for a year.  As a result, my eldest son came forward to say that he had also been approached by my brother when he was about the same age, also so did two other nephews (though one refused to give a statement in the end).

Kids playing hide and seek

My brother received a 10 month prison sentence, of which he only served 6 months.  My extended family consists of three brothers and three sisters plus my parents); they all stood by my brother during this time either refusing to believe he could do such a thing, or were not aware of the full facts etc.  Two of my sisters even attended court, even though their sons were involved.  The mind boggles doesn't it?

I have had to support my youngest son through periods of depression, an attempted suicide at the age of twelve, and a number of years of self harm even though he has received counselling on a number of occasions.  This has all been made worse by the fact that even though we believed and supported him as did the law without question, our extended family abandoned us and my son has since had a god awful time of it.

My brother on the other hand came out of prison and went to stay with my parents.  He got a job, went on holidays and gained a third share in my parents’ house.  He basically had a full life end enjoyed every minute of it apparently!

Another nephew came forward to say he had suffered the same fate as my son.  Of all the places he did this at my mother's funeral three years ago!  He attempted to bring a case against my brother as a result, but the case was dropped by the Crown Prosecution Service, saying it was 'historical evidence' and hadn't had enough to bring a case.  My brother also escaped the 'register' as this has become law since his conviction.

My thoughts are, he can go where ever he pleases, do basically what he wants and no-one keeps tabs on him.  He could even get a job in a school if he wanted to.  Isn’t that reassuring and do they really call this justice?

Now most of the family are aware (though some still support him), his diet of children in the family has apparently been exhausted.  But where will his attention focus now, and who will protect the innocent?

By: Caring Parent


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I have been abused and I am Only now talking about It.
I hape you will read the book I am writing about It I want to get this huge lump of my chest and shout it out that I know what some people have been through and guess what I am ONLY 16! All I can say is it dont matter what age you are or what you look like it could still happen!
*TT the Bodmin Girl  23-Apr-2008 12:32

 
omg. I am so sorry. I would be ashamed to be a sister with a brother like that. he had no right. how could he ? he's just an asshole !
*jordon  18-Mar-2008 18:15

 
Abuse of anybody is wrong. But for god sake don't perpetuate the crime by making the child feel like a victim. Stuff happens and the state will not compensate you for it, If you foster the attitude that the victim is a victim you are doing harm to them. If a grownup has sex with a child. Sort the grownup out but do not make the child feel like a victim. If a peodphile is sent to prison then it stops other children being abused but it doesn't undo the harm they have already done, A wrong has been done but the child has to "get over it" for his or her own sake. Children are expose to all sorts of crime, Theft, bullying, abuse. Deal with the perpetraitor but do not label the child as a victim, The crime can not be undone and there will be no recompence.
Convince someone that they are victim then you convince them that they are weak
*HappybunnyNOT  20-Jan-2008 10:51

 
I think some of these comments are way out of line. Have you forgotten, people that abuse children have rights and you should begin to recognise this.

These people deserve the best that a society can offer them.

Wake up and realise this is modern day Britain and this is how it works. We will continue to contribute millions of Pounds to those people that abuse children because it's always been this way.
*Edith Cartmill  26-Oct-2007 12:59

 
the law cannot serve real justice in cases of child abuse. Kidnap them, and tattoo "child abuser" on their forehead, after breaking some limbs. THEN inform the police.
*jk12  26-Oct-2007 07:33

 
wow, I feel for you and your son and hope he can recover and lead a normal life. I would just like to say that I would not accept this from any family member, and would take the law into my own hands if I ever found them doing this to my children. I have a good relationship with my brother and know he would never do this, but like I said I would not depend on the law to serve appropriate punishment if it ever did.
*bob  24-May-2007 08:24

 
I think that this is very cool things that the perents do to their kids. they are not the only one that sufer in the world.
*chave  18-Apr-2007 18:06

 
I think you should not hit kids or stay with them in the good and in the bad things
*Brandy Pizzana  18-Apr-2007 18:02

 
Oh please.. Like no-one gets through the net and ends up working with children after coming out of prison for being a child molester!!!?? THE CHECKS DO NOT WORK!
*kary  12-Apr-2007 20:42

 
lock them up.. ow I could think of more interesting things to do with them!!!!! I would gladly torture them for free, long, slow, pain! does that make me sick?? I cant even watch the news anymore..Its getting that bad these days!
*it makes me sick!  20-Feb-2007 17:52

 
Child abuse is obscene!!! Why should a poor little child be forced to do things they are too young to understand it is just disgraceful.! lock em up
*mimi n zizi  09-Jan-2007 10:36

 
Being abused as a child myself I am of the opinion that tattooing 'Nonce' on these scum's foreheads is a tad lenient so how about letting them live in the general population with said tattoo?

Oh yes, tag the b'stards with a surgical implant in the bottom of their neck and when they stray too far from a designated spot ... KABOOM - it explodes with the force of Krakatoa!

... just a thought
*Harry The B'stard  16-Aug-2006 22:35


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