Our relationship changed

Hi 34 y/o male.taking it to another level. I am the guy that rolls down the bed at night, that turns the electric blanket on 2o mins before you go to bed. And yet I was married for 8 years had a beautiful daughter (now aged 5) and doted on my soon to be ex-wife. Life felt stressed we argued occasionally over sillythings within the last two years, I catered for her family (1 stepdaughter and 1 stepson) worked a 12 to 13 hour day running a company to pay the bills within our life.
And now sometimes you just have to stop. And look around, life can be mundane when you look at it closely. Male and female follow the same circles that there mind will allow them to accept. Its noticing that it all counts, and if you can take one thing that stands strong within your relationship and take time to notice it, then if both of you want it you will both try hard to hold onto it.
If you highlight it and you find that it is not understood then let fate deal its hand. You cant stop it because it was never there.
My wife ended our marriage, and I now have a partner who nows exactly what I mean! I tried and she emasculated me,I listened and she ignored me,I strived to embellish her understanding and it failed.
Some people only allow themselves to understand exactly what they want to understand.
Some people allow themselves to understand and they are beautiful.

Keep it real
xx

hi
Steven, my boyfriend, at first was really nice and sweet to me, taking me on dates/to the movies and stuff, but oneday, we had a huge party for his birthday. Everyone was dancing, and they wanted me to dance with Steven, but he wasn't there. So I went to his room and saw my best friend, Georgina, on top of Steven, snogging him like mad.
I was soooooooooooo upset, I couldn't get over it. One of Steven's friends, who he invited, was really nice to me about it, and took me out for a movie. It was a really romantic one - Atonement - and before we knew it, we were kissing eachother over our popcorn and coke! We've been together for about 6 months, and nothing has ever happened!

My tip is: if you've been betrayed, act yourself, and be nice to others, and you'll have a relationship which'll really last!!

Sorry to hear about your problem!! I am sort of going through the same thing with the father of my child! We were supposed to get married in Aug. 2008, but things have changed!! He was in the Iraq war, and he has never been the same since!! We fight about the dumbest things and I don’t know how to talk to him anymore!! I have suggested counseling and he refuses to go!! He says that it is me! I know that he is suffering from PTSD, but I can only take so much!! We have been together for 4 years, and there is no way that I can put my daughter through that pain!! now he tells me that he don’t want to be with me and a friend of mine who was also in the Iraq war told me that it is not him talking that it is the depression and he should seek help! How do you get someone help who does not want help!! I tried talking to his Sergeant, but I basically was told that there is nothing that they can do to help, but offer counseling, and they cannot force him to go!! After 4 years and after having a child, I think that I am to the point where I think I just want out!! He will go out and not come home until 4 in the am and yeah part of me thinks that he is cheating, but another part thinks that I am just being paranoid!!! My daughter is 6 months old and I don’t know how to walk away!!

Sorry about your problems, but I know that god has something planned for all of us... just waiting for my prince charming!!

Someone once told me to keep a track of the days, use a happy face for a good day, a sad face for a bad day. At the end of a couple of months total up and see where you are. If the bad days outweigh the good ones then you should walk away. Life is too short to spend it with someone who makes you unhappy most of the time. Good Luck. There are plenty of good guys out there.

She probably wants a divorce but won't say it or do it. I don't have a clue what the problem is, married 13 years and the last 10 have been this way. Won't go to counseling, won't talk about, kills the fun at every opportunity. I've read books, watched programs, made changes, made lots of changes. I still love her dearly but am nearly at my end of hope.

What's a guy to do?

The answer to any question a girl may have about guys/relationships can be found in these books:
1. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
2. Mars and Venus on a Date.
3. Mars and Venus in the Bedroom
4. Why Men Love B!tches
5. The Five Languages of Love
6. He's Just Not That Into You

These books are testaments in the relationship Bible. Compile them and study until you know them as well as your religion.

I'm a 29 y/o guy living with my girlfriend for almost about two years.
At the beginning of the relationship I felt energized about the whole idea of being with her, I even turn the blind eye to a number of sign that signaled catastrophe.
I now find myself not wanting to be there anymore, I find myself very alone and neglected, she shows more emotions on buying a pair of shoes or reading Victoria secrets magazine than a night out with me. It bugs me than after all this time living together I know nothing about her feelings, all I see is a very shallow lake. There is no connection on a sentimental level or idealistic.
My best advice to you is to break the relationship, because is going down hill from here on. If you fear it inside is true, time to move on.

I'm going through the kinda same thing. At first it was a loving relationship and he said and done all the right things etc... but now it just seems as if I am the last person on his weekly agenda with him putting his mates, sport before me and even then he says he's too tired and do I mind if he just goes home and chills instead of seeing me but then the next week he will invite me out all weekend with his mates and we'd have a great time. It seems hot and cold all the time and is driving me mad as to whether we have a major problem or whether it is just me being paranoid and reading too much into the situation.

Maybe we've got it all wrong expecting monogamous relationships to last a lifetime. Maybe it is not natural? It's always the same - you meet someone, supposedly fall in 'love', have great sex for a while, but then it all seems to wear off.

Maybe marriage should be the exception, rather than the norm, and it is a commitment that should only be made after say, 10 years into the relationship.

I'm in my late 30's now and still remember the 'pleasures' of my teens and 20s - but those pleasures did, I must confess, involve a great many different partners. I've tried the long-term relationship thing but, quite simply, it bores me.

Sorry to hear of your dilemma, But trust me, If you split up It will seem so hard. But you will get over it. I hope you can sort out your dilemma. If he does not be nice to you , then He as lost out in the end not you. In the end you will be glad you found someone more worth it!
take care xx

awww....that is so sad v.v but remember a guy ain't worth your tears.......I don't have any advise but to try to talk to him once more and if he refuses, girl you got to let him go.....ok well just to cheer you up I made a dance!! ^.^ well someone else did but whatever same thing...

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haha well good luck with everything!!

my 3 yr relationship ended exactly like that and I didnt want to belive that it was crapping out but then he dropped me for someone else. he's probably over you. burying your head in the sand wont change a thing. at least if you break up with him first you can feel like the power balance wasnt all to him, you might feel freed and independant rather than clingy and rejected. It sucks, but its good in the long run coz the kind of person you actually want to be with wouldnt act like that