Lazy friends become a liability
09-May-2008
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Having been through a tough time, I know what it is like to struggle on low income.  However I have always endeavoured to keep in touch with my friends as I advance my own career.

An old friend began seeing a woman who already had children, and he moved into one of the housing association properties with her.  At first, it was nice to keep in touch but as I made progress in my career, the friendship changed and was not as it used to be.

This woman is a depressed and worried nanny, smoking excessively because beggars usually require nicotine!  His personality changed and they both began to sponge off me big time.

When I was down and they were low on shopping I contributed as expected.  I also loaned them some more cash on top, just to help out as a friend.  They were having financial problems so naturally I was sympathetic to them.  Well I was at first anyway!

I noticed over the visits I made they would offer to pay a little bit back, only to ask to borrow even more a day or two later.  I felt that things were getting out of hand so I refused to lend them any more money.

They still tried their best to get money out of me though!

Sponging money from other people, benefit spongers

Apparently the woman’s daughter received a demand for unpaid council tax that accrued when she was staying with her former boyfriend, and during that time the residence was in his name.  The amount was several hundred pounds and I told her that she was not liable for this.  I even offered to go down the council to sort this out for her, or write a letter explaining the situation so that she would not have to pay what she did not owe.

Of course this wasn’t the way the wanted me help was it; it was just a pack of lies.

Social Security stopped payments to them, because of a neighbour misleading them apparently.  I offered to go down to the office to help sort it out.  Again, this wasn’t exactly what they wanted either; it was just another pack of lies to try and extract money from me.

They were beginning to see that their excuses had backfired on them and that they weren’t going to get any more cash.  This is where the friendship went downhill.  They really only wanted me for my money and when I didn’t play ball, that’s when the truth would come out.

Our friendship finally deteriorated irreparably when they tried to sabotage my reputation through a string of false allegations.  It transpires that this was all a plot so that they didn’t have to see and could therefore avoid paying me back what was owed.

I am no longer welcome their house anymore - persona non-gratis!

This friend whom I have known for over twenty years, had never behaved like this to me before.   All this happened after he moved in with this trashy council estate scum of a woman.

Beggars will go to whatever length they can to gain at your expense.   These spongers on benefit who haven’t got the capability to earn a living are out to bring down others.  So sorry spongers, you only deserve the minimum!

By: Bridgend Barry


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One good thing which comes out of being taken advantage of is now at least you know they are genuinely deceitful and it is worth knowing this so that you can steer clear of these and they don’t benefit from your generosity. It is better to pay a small price and know the true side than assume the good side and support their deception without realising it.

Realising someone is a thief is annoying but then it makes you more aware of whom to trust and there is less support for those who are untrustworthy. So if you have been so supportive then I can only guess you have benefited a lot whereas these have lost out a lot, which is better for you in the long run.

This applies to almost everything – once you have been victimised and know who was to blame, you can be angry at how you were treated but those responsible must be suffering even more for losing a good friend and more of the truth coming out – these people don’t like the truth and they feel persecuted every measure of truth used against them. This applies to all who are incompetent and rely on beggars’ belief, as well as all those lousy public service workers.

Be as happy as you can that you are depriving those who you seen as inadequate from your generosity – the more people you don’t bother with, the better you’ll feel as have more to spend on those who matter to you and yourself. That’s what I do and many who used to benefit from my generosity are depressed and jealous because I have left them behind.

The best things in life are free so those who rely on money for their ‘quality’ of life aren’t getting the best – friendship, respect and trust mean more.
*The Dry Roasted Peanut  25-Jul-2007 22:25

 
Well, a mental illness isn't really being insane or unsound of mind, it's simply an illness that stops you from doing some things, whether it being proper socialisation or math problems. That's not something you get put in an assylum for.

Anyways, I don't understand why people dont get why the griper is so annoyed with this. Basically, he trusted a friend, who started taking advantage of him and treating him like crap. Good friends don't do that, if I ever needed to borrow money from a friend, I wouldn't make up a load of bulls***, and if they said no, I'd completely understand.

The fact that they tried paying you back when they obviously couldn't afford to, just shows how they were trying to manipulate you into giving more.
*meh  14-Jun-2007 18:56

 
this country has gone mad. They should have kept the asylums - then all the people who claim to have poor mental health wouldn't be so willing to say so as they'd be slammed up in an asylum. instead of which we pay for them to be in amongst our community
*nannynoonoo  13-Jun-2007 18:19

 
I thought this was a forum for people with mental illness is just trashed by ignorant people who only care for themselves.
*Sarah Smith  23-May-2007 17:49

 
The Welfare system is being abused by some people that stop people with Genuine health problems getting help.

I have a mental Ilness I have been ill for 7 years and people who don;t undertand mental illness has made my life a total misery and I have been made very unhappy.

I won't tell you how ill I have been in my young life and how upset I have been yes I have been in a mental hospital for some time until I was discharged but I am still on my Depo and other forms of medication icluding high blood pressure which is not helped in the society we live in I live in London and people are not so nice or kind.

I live in supported housing because I have trouble looking after myself I am in my 30's I have a very nice Keyworker, CPN and Doctors and I have my parents who love me even though the have never really understood my illness my Mum have always been there for me and she is the best Mother anybody can have and I got a good team I have been trying really hard to go back to college or have a job with Mainstream or Mencap.

My illness and I suffer from Panick attacks are made worse when Adults who should know better BULLY disabled people and Mental health care in the commuinty pateints there are bullies.

I will not leave my real name or eamil address in case of harrsement bulling and my young life being put at risk I am 30.
*Sarah Smith  22-May-2007 17:14

 
Bridgend Barry
Looking at your post I first thought that you were indeed a victim of unfortunate circumstances, but after finishing reading your post I felt that your stupid statements "trashy council estate scum of a woman" "spongers on benefit who haven’t got the capability to earn a living" made me feel as though you got what you deserved! I feel as though it is people like you that makes our society such a harsh and unacceptable place to live! I hope you never have to claim benefits and live on the state as many poor people do, but if you do (you never know) I think your stupid attitude will change!
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